Family Problems....

[The System]

Hi, I am posting this because my family is having some problems and I need some help from other Christians. I'll try not and make this post too long and boring for you
Ok, my sister had a friend.. They did alot together, almost everything. One day they went of a trip it was a week trip maybe... But anyway, they had a fight there and haven't spoken in a long time.. Well my sister and she were somewhere one night and they saw each other, they did not speak however. Her friend left her pocket book there and asked my sister if she could bring it(I think she left it at my sister's church) So my sister said she would. As she did this she thought that maybe she should try and mend her friendship with her... That weekend my sister and another friend of hers went shopping and stuff like that, and the friend was supposed to spend the night afterwards... Well my sister came in where the family was and said that she beat her friend home.. But her friend and the friend she got mad at came in a different way and they stayed in my sisters room with the door locked.. My Mom found out and was really REALLY mad.... when she asked WHY my sister brought the friend under her roof without permission she said that "God told her to" "God told her to mend her relationship with here by doing this" My Mom and my sister already have problems, they are at each others throats all the time... So my Mom while they were already talking asked my sister why they were like this all the time.. She said that "God will pit mother against daughter" as it says in the bible..(not sure of the verse but I will find it) So do you think my sisters thoughts/beliefs on this case are correct? I do hate to be this way but I think my sister is just using the "God card" if you will... But what are your thoughts on this? Is there something we could do to help this? I pray for both of them alot... But I thought I would come here from the christian advice..
Thank you for your time

 

[Hannah Sireci]

Hey,

I don't understand something: Is your question with regards to your sister's decision to bring people to her house or is it about her relationship with your mom?

 

[Hannah Sireci]

OK. Well, I guess I'll address both parts of the question I just asked.

Yeah, it wasn't right for your sister to sneak her friends in. If her reasons for it were correct, she should have just asked your mom in the first place. Yeah, it was for a good reason, but the end doesn't justify the means.

Also, the thing about her not getting along with your mom... Teenage girls and their moms fight a lot. (I am assuming your sister is a teenager.) That is hard for you to understand because you're a guy. When guys are upset with each other, they can just fight... But girls pretty much always fight with words, which is usually a lot more harmful. I think the verse you quoted was talking about the divisions that salvation makes among people. That even very close people, like moms and daughters, can be divided if one is saved and one isn't. Again, I'm not sure what you're quoting, but I think this is what it's saying. But I KNOW that it doesn't mean that God meant and planned for moms and daughters to be at odds, and that it's OK.

You should definitely just pray for her. I wouldn't get in between the argument with her and your mom, but make sure you're a good example to her about how to relate with your mom.

Hope this helps!

 

[pmarquette]

There is also a quote from St. Paul about children and parents ; submission
and long life ....
Eph 6:2 Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise
as long as you are under parents roof , that they are providing for your needs ,
you need to honor them , with submission to their requests , and asking
permission prior to making plans in their home ...
Eph 6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is the 1st commandment
Col 3:20 Children, obey [your] parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

We do need to make peace quickly .... to forgive that we might be forgiven ( Lord's prayer ) .... to make peace prior to prayer , that God might hear us .... to not let the sun go down on our anger ....
Eph 4:26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
Mat 5:25 Agree with thine adversary quickly, whiles thou art in the way with him; lest at any time the adversary deliver thee to the judge, and the judge deliver thee to the officer, and thou be cast into prison.

sounds like she did the wrong thing for right reason or the right thing for the wrong reason ....

 

[ShetlandRose]

Your sister has twisted Scripture to suit her own purposes--those purposes being outright rebellion against parental authority and discipline. Period.

ShetlandRose