Extended long distance- does it work?

[Windmill]

Hi there. I've currently got a great bf, we've been going for one month, been best friends for three years leading up to this

Though, heres the issue. Theres a possiblity that in 2 years time, I will be packing my stuff and heading off to America to go to uni for 4 years. My bf would not be coming with me.

I would travel back here 4 months of the year- one would be my summer holidays, so that would be a 3 month block, and then I'd come back at Christmas for about a month. So for about 1/3 of the year I'd be back at home.

My bf is encouraging me to take this opportunity, for it would be good. I would be able to study the following;

• Hebrew
• Latin
• Greek
• Classical Roman History
• Early Christianity
• Perhaps a bit of philosophy thrown in

This sort of opportunity I would not get at my local uni's. This would totally prepare me for post graduate studies in learning about early Christianity.

Yet, the trade off is, I'm away from my friends, family and bf for so long! Argh. Our relationship, how would we keep it alive during that time? If things go well over the next 2 years, I'm going to really, really miss him. How do ya'll survive from being in a long distance relationship?

I would also hope that perhaps he could come over here for like, a month or two, as a holiday during his summer break, which would be in December so then, at least, that'd be 6 months of the year.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

You've got some time, don't worry about it now. A LOT can change in two years, and you will find that your plans may not be even close to what God's are.

 

[Windmill]

Indeed, but what if I meet another great guy here, say? I have to go overseas, but I'd like to still try it.

I just like to think about the future, 'tis all. If the relationship couldn't survive, I don't know if I should be continuing it now, though I'm sure it could if it lasts another 2 years, it'd just be hard to be away so long and study.

I mean seriously, Uni is a LOT less work here than in the USA!

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

Indeed, but what if I meet another great guy here, say? I have to go overseas, but I'd like to still try it.

I just like to think about the future, 'tis all. If the relationship couldn't survive, I don't know if I should be continuing it now, though I'm sure it could if it lasts another 2 years, it'd just be hard to be away so long and study.

I mean seriously, Uni is a LOT less work here than in the USA!

Lol, you still have two years. Give it till when its time to apply and then worry about it. God's not gonna lead you someplace where its not in His plan, so you just have to trust, and worrying about something two years down the road is such a waste of time. Enjoy where you are know, worry about it when the time comes.

 

[Windmill]

Lol, you still have two years. Give it till when its time to apply and then worry about it. God's not gonna lead you someplace where its not in His plan, so you just have to trust, and worrying about something two years down the road is such a waste of time. Enjoy where you are know, worry about it when the time comes.

A lot less easier said than done when you are an INTJ. I live in the future

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

A lot less easier said than done when you are an INTJ. I live in the future

lol, you just gotta try then

 

[Windmill]

lol, you just gotta try then

*Squints very hard, and tries very hard to live in the moment rather than in 2 and a half years time*

 

[Extronic]

That's why you have a phone for when your not in person. Or if that's to expensive you can both use a PC and use VoIP which is free. If he is encouraging you then you should take the opportunity. It's not forever just a few years so if you really like each other then it should be fine.

 

[Bunnymedic]

It can work but you both have to be committed to each other and to the relationship

My brother is dating a girl long distance (he sees her about once every 3 months)
They originally met 9 years ago!
(when he was 13 awww)

They have made a committment to stay together and get married one day.

If you love each other and it is meant to be,distance and time wont be an issue

 

[Extronic]

If you love each other and it is meant to be,distance and time wont be an issue

Exactly, me any my girlfriend are waiting (for a few reasons), the time and distance issue couldn't be further from my mind.

 

[tontiswife]

if you two are really committed to keep the relationship, two years will pass, not easy i'd tell you. I have been in that situation,too. my husband (fiance at the time) had to leave for an employment opportunity. he was away for more two years, but all the time, we keep a constant (everyday0 communication. that way, we grow together and stay in love even though we're miles apart. we fight,we argue, we laugh, we cry... it is not easy, but with prayers, love, and that firm commitment from both of you, it can work out!

oh, and after two years, we got married. now,he's away again, we're still praying that He let me be with him, be granted a visa. ;-)

 

[Observer]

If 2 people choose to make it work, it'll work. Doesn't mean it'll FEEL like it's working all the time or feel wonderful, but you'll stay in a relationship and wait for eachother.

 

[Ave Maria]

The fact is, long distance relationships are never a good idea and they only rarely work out. I would strongly advise staying away from long distance relationships.