It has been 5 weeks since I saw my ex and I moved on and met a nice lady been seeing it went fast and are now a couple. the ex came to my home yesterday a complete surprise and said when she saw my Facebook profile with new girl last 3 weeks can't sleep eat and now nows she is in love with me and wants me back. Please read my other post regarding ex I don't know the right thing to do. Please pray i don't want to hurt anyone
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ex GF want me back
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After reading your last thread, I wouldn't be quick to open the door again. You got plenty of good advice there, and most of it was to be careful about being yanked around according to her whims. There's no respect, peace or permanence in that. Maybe she has really thought things through and repented, I don't want to deny that possibility. But at the very least I would go slow and prove her sincerity and commitment. And you are under no obligation to do even that, except possibly from a Christian brother/sister perspective. You have every right to walk away.
test everything; hold fast what is good.
Abstain from every form of evil. -1thess 5.21-22
Abstain from every form of evil. -1thess 5.21-22
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Thank you Paul for the scripture and advice. the ex sent me a text this morning she would like me to join her tonight in church a man is giving is testimony on alcohol recovering and she said she went with me when i asked her awhile back so i guess i owe her. Since i met the new girlfriend I have not drunk and not looked and porn and have no desire for it she has helped me heal from the ex and I'm not feeling good when chatting with her since the ex is trying to get me back. the ex has alway broke up with me and this was the first time i broke up with her and a friend said she does not want to lose her go to guy but she said she has dated but not no makes her feel like me. but I'm not feeling those feeling for her anymore i gave a committed to the new one even though its only been a month vs. 15 months with ex. Question is should i go to church tonight with her and support her recovery form drinking and not tell my new gf?
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Do you think that would be building a good foundation for your new relationship?
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my new girlfriend allows her ex boyfriend to live in her house he pays rent but they have not been together in 2 years and he said he would be moving out in a few moths because of his job. i read a fast relationship is called fast forward dating and I'm afraid i may be there with her and there is a 2 hour distance between us but that don't mean anything. I do want to build a strong foundation with the new gf and I wish the ex had not come by last night after all this time to tell me how she feels now
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maybe God allowed my car to still be in the shop until closing and i told her i would not be able to go and if i did i would need to tell my new gf. We spoke and I told her i love her but not like that anymore and i made a commented to my new gf and if it did not work out chances i was not going to go back to her because I feel God has much better for her. I don't feel sad or painful if this was a few months ago it would be hurtful. I pray I did the right thing Please keep Irma in pray. Thank you
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How do you become a couple in 5 weeks? Is that even possible?
You need to spend some time being single so that you will become an independent man.
Where is your self esteem?
You are only hurting yourself.
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Since the ex came by that night and expressed her true feelings I think I made a huge mistake and made things more complicated. I called her yesterday to drop some stuff of hers that was still in my cars trunk she had all her grand kids and invited me to a graduation party after to eat food, well we would up being with each other and she wants me back and i feel confused and sick inside don't know why i did this. I love both woman put now because of this I guess I'm not in love with my current gf I feel i lost the peace I once had. Im so sorry
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My ex gf repented and said she can't live without me. I said yes and now I have to tell and hurt the new gf. Maybe this is for the best the last time I saw the new gf I was starting to dought how it could last since how do you put your in a relasobship on Facebook a week after you meet someone new and the pic of me and her kids up? I'm sorry for the hurt this is going to cause
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BFine
Seed Planter
Don't take the bait.
Until she's actually shown real signs of
a changed life, don't jump back into an
old familiar relationship because of "familiar
ties" and old fumes of love.
You know the pattern with your former gf,
while it's nice she's "repented" and said she's
sorry, there should be effort put forth to show
she's genuine...this means time and effort would
be spent in working on her own issues-- and you
working on yours before getting into another romance
or re-entering a former romance that
has an established status as being "unstable"
and there's this quickness to move on to someone else and then back-peddle-- I don't think you two are ready to be in a romance...there are "issues" you need to work on first.
Until she's actually shown real signs of
a changed life, don't jump back into an
old familiar relationship because of "familiar
ties" and old fumes of love.
You know the pattern with your former gf,
while it's nice she's "repented" and said she's
sorry, there should be effort put forth to show
she's genuine...this means time and effort would
be spent in working on her own issues-- and you
working on yours before getting into another romance
or re-entering a former romance that
has an established status as being "unstable"
and there's this quickness to move on to someone else and then back-peddle-- I don't think you two are ready to be in a romance...there are "issues" you need to work on first.
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Do I tell her it's not working out? If I tell her I cheated with ex won't it hurt her more? This is the first time I have not heard from her all day maybe she already suspects something is wrong
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Hi messy, I felt she repented and now has a change of mind for me and we even went to church together I'm trusting GOD on this was very hard to break up with new girl because I was happy but I felt as a Christian I should give her one last chance because I see the change in her. A couple of my friends think I'm blind and she will hurt me again. Can you pray for me and Irma. Do you think I did the right thing?
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Unfortunately, based upon the fact that you are so easily manipulated by your on-again off-again girlfriend, and that you easily jump to hurt another lady's feelings because you are being manipulated (again), I would say that you are not in a position to have a healthy relationship at all. This doesn't sound like a relationship, it sounds like an addiction. I think you really need to spend the next year with the Lord, and no women. Otherwise, I wager that you'll be back again telling us how your girlfriend is stringing you along... again. Fool me once...
I hope I'm wrong, but from what you've said, I doubt it. I wish you well.
I hope I'm wrong, but from what you've said, I doubt it. I wish you well.
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