ex gays?

[mylittlelambs]

Ok if someone is in a gay relationship and they decide to not act on this anymore yet still have strong feelings or love for their ex-partner are they still gay in the Lord's eyes? Can Gay people not have sex and be ok? Or are they going to go to hell for what is in their heart?

Can they still sleep in the same bed with clothes on? Can someone explain this to me?

 

[headedhome]

You where never gay in Gods eye's. You where a person sinning. God knows we go through stuggles thats why His Holy Spirit is here to guide us. God also left us His Word to follow. Its up to us to follow the Spirit and not the flesh. Its up to us to read His Word. God loves you and wants to draw you close to Him but He will not force you to draw near to Him. You can't just decide not to act on this desire anymore. You must confess it as Sin, agree with God that it is sin. Then you have to repent of this sin, turn from it. You may still struggle and may even fall. The Holy Spirit will convict you of the Sin, get up, go on and sin no more. Each time you fall down get up, you will be convicted and eventually this desire will be defeated. God wants you to pursue Him not sin. If you confess Jesus as Lord and believe in your heart God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. Believe in the heart, not just the head. If you believe in the heart you will want to live a life pleasing to Him. If you really beleive in Jesus then He has begun a good work in you, and He will perfect it. It's up to you as to how hard this will be. Will you look to God, listen to God, follow god, or will you look to your flesh, listen to your flesh, follow your flesh. Your choice, your the one who will live with the misery, confusion, pain, and possibly much worse if you choose the flesh, but if Christ has begun a good work in you He will finish it, even if the perfecting process causes you more and more misery, as it will if your going away from Him. If you've turned to Jesus, please don't turn away, at the risk of the life you have been given here and now.

 

[Nektaria]

Ok if someone is in a gay relationship and they decide to not act on this anymore yet still have strong feelings or love for their ex-partner are they still gay in the Lord's eyes? Can Gay people not have sex and be ok? Or are they going to go to hell for what is in their heart?

Can they still sleep in the same bed with clothes on? Can someone explain this to me?

Let me begin by saying that I am not homosexual and these are my personal views only. We all have our own personal struggles. Yours is a difficult one, and one I am glad that I do not have to face myself.

I don't believe that you can be an 'ex-gay' any more than a heterosexual who takes a vow of chastity becomes an 'ex-heterosexual'. I also don't believe that love can be evil, even if it is for someone of the same sex. Being gay is not a sin in and of itself, although many people believe that acting upon homosexual sexual desires is. We can all choose to be celibate but not very many of us make that choice.

I also do not see why sleeping in the same bed would be considered a sin as long as you do not do so with the intention of acting upon your desires. Although I don't know how fair this would be to your partner if she does not have the same beliefs that you do.

I know that I am supposed to put my faith in my Church to interpret the Bible accurately, and my Church says that acting on homosexual desires is a sin like any other as it goes against family. However, if you do some research into early translations of the Bible you will find some dispute over what was originally intended in regards to homosexuality. As well as many disputes over the original meaning of the word 'sodomite', which is the word interpreted by some as condemning homosexuality.

No one can give you the definite answers that you seek, we can only tell you what we believe and what our respective churches tell us. Your answers lie within your own heart and in your relationship with God. If I were you I would pray to Him, do some research and try to find what YOU believe and are comfortable with. Just know that your love for your partner is not a sin in and of itself, although acting upon it might be...I will pray that you find the answers you need and achieve a higher relationship with God as a result.

(I have found that each time I have had a difficult decision to make, sometimes the hardest choice is the proper choice, yet after making it I reap rewards beyond my wildest dreams...I hope you have the same experience.)

God Bless You!