Ex Boyfriends suicide

[Delivered17]

Hello. I was just wondering if anyone could tell me what they think. My ex boyfriend committed suicide and the thing that concerns me the most is that I do not know what his beliefs were or if in fact he was saved when he died. No note was left. The only thing I keep recalling in my mind is that 3 weeks before his suicide he told me that he would always be my guardian angel. I keep wondering if he is with the Lord and will I one day see him again in Heaven. Thankyou. God Bless.

 

[kaykay08]

Wow. Well, I think this is one of those things you can only put in the Lord's hands-He knows the heart. We don't. I know that's not easy. My condolences to you. I know even if you guys weren't together at the end, it must be still very tough.
Hugs~~~

 

[DoubtingThomas29]

Martin Luther use to teach that suicide victims can be forgiven by God too. I hope you will see your friend some time in heaven, and I am sure that God is not a punishing God, but a forgiving and loving God. You'll probably need grief counseling from a trained therapist, perhaps a psychotherapist. Hang in there.

 

[valary the slu7]

Chances are your ex boyfriend is burning in the pits of hell because you had to have sex with him. YOu are a very sad sad woman, and you didn't even deserve him. You have caused his family enough grief, so just let them be.

 

[PastorGadget]

Hello. I was just wondering if anyone could tell me what they think. My ex boyfriend committed suicide and the thing that concerns me the most is that I do not know what his beliefs were or if in fact he was saved when he died. No note was left. The only thing I keep recalling in my mind is that 3 weeks before his suicide he told me that he would always be my guardian angel. I keep wondering if he is with the Lord and will I one day see him again in Heaven. Thankyou. God Bless.

Not knowing is one of the hardest things suicide survivors face. (And yes, because you knew him and he killed himself, that makes you a suicide survivor.) We have so many doubts about our friend or loved one, wondering what spiritual state he or she was in right before death. Since you aren't sure if he had accepted Christ, there isn't much you can do except pray for him and keep him dearly in your thoughts. Yes, he's an "ex" but he was still a friend at some point, and that in itself demands a certain commitment to continue loving him even after death.

As others have said, even a suicide can be forgiven by our ever-loving God. That is God's decision, and none of us could ever deny God that right. What we can do and should do is to pray for those who have chosen to kill themselves, and to pray for those who survive (even ourselves), so that we can all get through this. Therapy is a good thing, too, if you have doubts. I would even go so far as to say you ought to talk to a pastor who might have known the family, so that you can share your doubts and fears. Maybe you could even talk to others who knew your ex-boyfriend to find out if they knew if he'd been saved. In any case, don't let doubts about his salvation be a hindrance to your own faith. Trust that the Lord will judge him fairly for the condition of his heart, regardless of his inner pain, regardless of whether he went to church or not, regardless of what others thought about him. Trust that God will share His grace even with those who may not have known Him in life.

In short, Trust God.

Peace,
Pastor Gadget