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Ethical or Unethical?

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stray bullet

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Is this an ethical guide for women planning on being housewives? In other words, are they fair instructions to please the husband, or sexist and unfair demands?

The following is from a 1950s Home Economics textbook intended for High School girls, teaching them how to prepare for married life.

1. HAVE DINNER READY: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal - on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him, and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.

2. PREPARE YOURSELF: Take 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.

3. CLEAR AWAY CLUTTER. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too.

4. PREPARE THE CHILDREN. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces if they are small, comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.

5. MINIMIZE THE NOISE: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of washer, dryer, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Greet him with a warm smile and kiss, letting him know you're glad to see him.

6. Some Don'ts: Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he's late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day.

7. MAKE HIM COMFORTABLE. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lay down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.

8. LISTEN TO HIM: You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.

9. MAKE THE EVENING HIS: Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment; instead try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his need to be home and relax.

10. THE GOAL: try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can relax.
 

Ave Maria

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No, it seems rather sexist and rude to me. Sure, politeness is definitely a good thing but this paper makes it sound as though you have to be perfect for your husband. Nobody is perfect. I especially didn't like the don'ts. Sometimes you need to tell your husband about things as soon as he gets home.
 
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It is not completely realistic as to what most women would be able to acheive everyday - but it is a decent guide. If you are a housewife; cooking, cleaning and taking care of the kids is your job. No one should be greeted at the door with a list of complaints - everyone needs unwind time. Big deal... What I would consider sexist is the undertone that suggests that her day has been less important than his...
 
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There's nothing ethical or unethical about it. It's a strategy proposal for having a good marriage. It would doubtlessly work for some people and not work for others.

In our house, for example, I work at home while my wife commutes. So with the exception of "Prepare the Children" (ours are grown and out of the house), I do everything the list says.

Why wouldn't I? I love and respect my wife and want to show my love for her by making her return home as easy and as pleasant as possible.
 
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