Estranged!

[INFJ]

Hi there!
Yep that is me...my parents do not like me really, they adore my brother. Let me give you a bit of a back ground to why this is. Well my parents thought the world of me. They thought i was super KIND and nice cause I did NOT say anything to them bout there habits that are extremely UNGodly. Yes we all sin I totally know that..but there habits are TOTALLY against God. For one mother is a closet drinker. My father...well I will not get into that. Anyway my brother for many years did nto want to do anything with them cause he was married to a controlling wife. Now they are not married anymore my brother wants to come around to my mother and father. My father and mother adored my brother more than I cause he was the golden child IN THEIR EYES...he was the Jock he was "mr. popular" in High School. I WAS NOT! I kept to myself and spend alot of time with my Guardian/compainion angel that God gave me. Well to top it all off I am the one who became a Christian several years ago and they can not stand that. PLUS I do not have a kid and my father likes it that my brother has a kid.
They called me the other day, I have not heard from them in SOOOOOOO long. I tried to open up to them but they cut me off and said that they had to go. They never invited me over like they use to. I felt as if I should not be alive, I felt as if I am some kind of mistake in their eyes! Thanks for listening! God be with you all!!!!

 

[SoleOrison]

You're not a mistake...don't think that way, you're wonderfully made. I'm sorry about your parents....some people just are who they are, but they can change, and with a little time and prayer, God can change their hearts. I have to keep this short because I'm in a little mental rut myself, but I know how it feels...and I like to help in whatever way I can...even if it's just a few sentences.

 

[Amin]

Hi there!
Yep that is me...my parents do not like me really, they adore my brother. Let me give you a bit of a back ground to why this is. Well my parents thought the world of me. They thought i was super KIND and nice cause I did NOT say anything to them bout there habits that are extremely UNGodly. Yes we all sin I totally know that..but there habits are TOTALLY against God. For one mother is a closet drinker. My father...well I will not get into that. Anyway my brother for many years did nto want to do anything with them cause he was married to a controlling wife. Now they are not married anymore my brother wants to come around to my mother and father. My father and mother adored my brother more than I cause he was the golden child IN THEIR EYES...he was the Jock he was "mr. popular" in High School. I WAS NOT! I kept to myself and spend alot of time with my Guardian/compainion angel that God gave me. Well to top it all off I am the one who became a Christian several years ago and they can not stand that. PLUS I do not have a kid and my father likes it that my brother has a kid.
They called me the other day, I have not heard from them in SOOOOOOO long. I tried to open up to them but they cut me off and said that they had to go. They never invited me over like they use to. I felt as if I should not be alive, I felt as if I am some kind of mistake in their eyes! Thanks for listening! God be with you all!!!!

Hi,
I believe what you say. I have a brother that for some unknown reason will not talk to me even tho I've done nothing to upset him. I know he's not a christian and that has something to do with it, but as far as the rest of the reason, who knows. I've come to the conclusion that I've done nothing for him to react this way, so I'm just not worrying about it anymore. Sometimes we have to let people come to see things for theirselves, because if we've done nothing wrong, what can we say that would change their mind. Chuck.

 

[INFJ]

You're not a mistake...don't think that way, you're wonderfully made. I'm sorry about your parents....some people just are who they are, but they can change, and with a little time and prayer, God can change their hearts. I have to keep this short because I'm in a little mental rut myself, but I know how it feels...and I like to help in whatever way I can...even if it's just a few sentences.

I feel aweful that you are feeling blue...PLEASE PM me if you want to chat bout anything my dear sister!!!! God be with you and thank you for your kind advice!!!!!

Hi,
I believe what you say. I have a brother that for some unknown reason will not talk to me even tho I've done nothing to upset him. I know he's not a christian and that has something to do with it, but as far as the rest of the reason, who knows. I've come to the conclusion that I've done nothing for him to react this way, so I'm just not worrying about it anymore. Sometimes we have to let people come to see things for theirselves, because if we've done nothing wrong, what can we say that would change their mind. Chuck.

Hi there Chuck. i am sooooooo sorry that your brother has done this to ya!!!... but I want to thank you kindly for your advice as well!

God be with you!!!!

 

[PrairieGurl]

my parents do not like me really, they adore my brother. Let me give you a bit of a back ground to why this is. Well my parents thought the world of me. They thought i was super KIND and nice cause I did NOT say anything to them bout there habits that are extremely UNGodly. Yes we all sin I totally know that..but there habits are TOTALLY against God. For one mother is a closet drinker. My father...well I will not get into that.

I can not tell you what your parents think, but as a Mom that was a 'closet drinker' and worse....knowing someone...especially a child that makes better choices than I did, causes guilt and a person tends to pull away from the person who is making the right choices. This sometimes feels like they are no longer 'liked'.

Anyway my brother for many years did nto want to do anything with them cause he was married to a controlling wife. Now they are not married anymore my brother wants to come around to my mother and father. My father and mother adored my brother more than I cause he was the golden child IN THEIR EYES...he was the Jock he was "mr. popular" in High School.

I don't know why it is when there are two children...one always seems to 'be favored'. This has happen to my two sons. The 18yr old is a Jock...popular...blah, blah...all the 'world' see's as good in people...yes he is a great young man...but he is favored in all our circles...not with me because I dearly love both my boys...just in different ways as we are all individuals and have different needs.

I WAS NOT! I kept to myself and spend alot of time with my Guardian/compainion angel that God gave me.

Now you are speaking of my childhood and how my 17 year old feels. He is into drama, arts and being 'totally off the wall', (which doesn't seem to be accepted in a 'mans world') This is very much the way I was and still am. Many times he feels he is not liked and many times unfortuanately he is correct.
That my dear, is NOT his fault...people are missing out in getting to know and be around a very special young man...as is the case with you...someday...those who you feel have not liked you will be sad for the time they did not give you and of missing out in getting to know you.
God sending you a Guardian/Companion Angel just shows His love and concern He has for you! I have been blessed many a time with these Angel's...definatly a gift from Above.

Well to top it all off I am the one who became a Christian several years ago and they can not stand that.

Glad to know you're my lil sis in Christ and that our Heavenly Father adores you!!!

They called me the other day, I have not heard from them in SOOOOOOO long. I tried to open up to them but they cut me off and said that they had to go. They never invited me over like they use to. I felt as if I should not be alive, I felt as if I am some kind of mistake in their eyes! Thanks for listening! God be with you all!!!![/quote] I am sad that your parents didn't give you their time. Someday they will so regret this. Thank you for sharing...you are NOT a mistake, but fearfully and wonderfully made!

I pray you will find some comfort from the love and encouragement I have found here at CF.
With Love,
Because you are more than special!
Wendy

PS...what is INFJ ?

 

[INFJ]

HI there Wendy!

Thank you so much for you kind words!!!! they really did touch me!!!! You have sooooo much logic in your words of wisdom. I totally agree with you that others will be sadden that they did not get to know me and your son. But like you said we are ALL in the family of the LORD!!!!

OH you had asked me why I picked INFJ..that is my personality type. I took a myers-Briggs test and i got this result (Introverted, intuitive, Feelings, Judging!)

God be with you sister and once again THANK YOU so much for taking the time out to write such kind words!

BIG HUGS TO YA!

 

[Amin]

I feel aweful that you are feeling blue...PLEASE PM me if you want to chat bout anything my dear sister!!!! God be with you and thank you for your kind advice!!!!!


Hi there Chuck. i am sooooooo sorry that your brother has done this to ya!!!... but I want to thank you kindly for your advice as well!

God be with you!!!!

I don't worry too much about it anymore cause i know i did nothing wrong. Don't forget you can PM me too if you feel the need . Take Care.
Chuck.