engaged couple in trouble!

[natgirl2002]

PLEASE PRAY for me and my fiancee, we are going through a VERY hard moment...the biggeset problem is distance..stance is REALLY getting to us...luckily i have my very best friend helping me (ileany 11) ...but i need prayers and advice...allll i do is cry cry cyr cry, i think i mustve cried a couple thousand gallons of tearsin the past week...and well he soemtiems gets mad at me for crying so much...so i dont know im just so confused!! HELP!! we are sinking bc of distance and we cant help it!!!!! hellp!

 

[LadyBird]

Hmmm...well I have never had a long distance relationship before...thank goodness for that because I would probably be the exact same way as you. Anyways...when you talk to him on the phone or msn do not tell him that you are crying and don't cry when you are on the phone either...tell him you miss him...but that' it. My boyfriend hates it when I cry because he says he doesn't like seeing me in pain. But anyways, live for the day...don't think about how far away your are. Think about when you will get to see each other. I would suggest if you're not far away...maybe meet each other half way. When are you guys getting married? Just think about when you do get married, you will get to be together all the time...and you will get to spend the rest of your lives with each other. This is just a hard part right now...but things must get worse before they can get better. And they will get better! Just let them. Don't feel bad when you don't cry or miss him for a day..reward yourself with something instead. When you feel like crying, pray for strength, when you miss him...occupy yourself with other things. I personally don't think that you are sinking because of distance, however, I do think that it does have a part to with the problem...does he feel the same way you do? Or is it just you crying all the time. It's good that you have your best friend with you. Spend lots of time with your friends...they are great company. Well, I don't really know what else to say. I hope everything goes well for you and your fiancee.

 

[Lizzi4Christ]

One concern I have when reading this was when you mentioned the distance. If you feel like your relationship is sinking because of it, then maybe you should wait longer to get married. Distance is a difficult thing (I know this because I've seen my boyfriend 11 days out of 391), but it's something that should make your relationship grow stronger, rather then tearing apart.

 

[LadyBird]

Lizzi makes a great point!

 

[DaveKerwin]

What is there to cry about?

If this guy is the center of your world, then your priorities are way off. I understand that your desire to be near him is perfectly normal, but I think you have taken it a step too far. Your desire for him seems to have turned into an idol or an obsession. Do you think this is true? Can you find your security in Christ?

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Distance will make you or break you.

He shouldn't get upset when you cry. If you get married, is he going to get upset every time you cry?
He is supposed to be there to comfort you. That's what it's all about, being there for each other.
You fight the battles together. You shouldn't be one of the battles.

 

[PegasusOnFire]

I agree with Mr. Cheese. I was in a long distance relationship for 4 years. It was really hard to keep it going, but we did. One thing that held us together was that we kept God at the center of our relationship. There were times when all I wanted to do was cry, about missing him, about his safety, about his walk. God gave me the comfort that I needed to get through it. I don't know how far you two are separated, but if you are truly met to be with him, pray for him, pray for you, and pray for God's hand on your relationship. It was war that separated my finacee and I, but it was God that kept us together.

 

[Cherub8]

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[Cherub8]

Moderator, now that those posts have been removed, please remove my post also.

Thanks.

 

[Glorianna]

I will be praying for you.