engaged and stressed

[JennLynn456]

My husband to be and I will be married in 28 days. That part is no stressful. It's perfect. We're moving him into what will be our new apartment this week in between both of our full time jobs.
This past week I can't hold any food in, or sleep. Idk what's going on. Every time I eat I have to go potty and I can tell that's starting to take a toll on how I feel. I am restless and tense when I can sleep. Also all of a sudden my hair is really greasy. My hair use to be so dry I would put leave in conditioner after washing and conditioning in the shower. Now I use only drying shampoo and it cooks greasy by the time it dries. What do I do? I wish I could take a day off but I can't. Even if I did, I'd spend it working on stuff at home anyway. Prayers and advice?

 

[Lethe]

Planning a wedding was too stressful for us.

We eloped. Six coworkers, three parents. All fun.


All in $600 including the getaway weekend for two in a mountain/desert town.

 

[JennLynn456]

We're not even having a wedding. Its just him me the pastor, his daughter And our too witnesses. It is not that stressful in itself but there's still so much to get done and I already am down to 13 he's of paid time off after we get married, which has to last somehow until June 10th 2014.

 

[Lethe]

Ah. Well so much for the suggestion to elope then.

It is not that stressful in itself but there's still so much to get done and...

That sentiment seems to be in two directions at once. Is it stressful or not?

 

[JennLynn456]

Haha practically doing that! Thank you though

 

[Lethe]

What is the most difficult part?

 

[CounselorForChrist]

Even if its a simple wedding, the fact your getting married may be stressing you in the back of your head because this isn't some small event in life like getting a tooth pulled. Its a life changing event. My wife before we married couldn't eat, had an acne break out and everything. After the honeymoon it went away.

 

[Luther073082]

Are you sick? Either you are under a lot of stress about something or you are sick.

 

[Inkachu]

Getting married is stressful. Joyous and exciting yes, but it's such a momentous, big occasion, that it can easily be overwhelming, even if you aren't planning a big wedding.

I'm not sure what advice would be helpful here. You seem 100% sure you want to get married. I guess just take extra good care of yourself. Even though it's difficult to eat and sleep right now, make sure you're giving yourself extra time and opportunities for both. Make sure you're eating WELL... fresh fruits and veggies, lots of water, whole grains, avoid too much caffeine (which can make you feel more stressed/anxious). Give yourself an hour or so of "wind down" time before bed, where you turn off the TV and get off the computer, maybe read your Bible or another relaxing book.

Good luck

 

[claramatt]

You are stressed due to your marriage. Just relax and and do not take unnecessary tension.

 

[iambren]

Premarital jitters are COMMON even if you have a simple ceremony. I'd like to ask however--is there anything deep down inside that is a problem for you;something you are not facing. If any barrier is there you can postpone until resolution/peace comes.

If you ARE at peace take a deep breath,fight to keep things simple for your wedding day,and thank the Lord for the man given you so you can relax and enjoy the experience together. Best wishes to the bride!

 

[Inkachu]

The OP was several months ago - I wonder how things went?

 

[iambren]

Thanks Ink. I didn't see the date. She's now married and pregnant.

 

[ParentofChildren]

My husband to be and I will be married in 28 days. That part is no stressful. It's perfect. We're moving him into what will be our new apartment this week in between both of our full time jobs.
This past week I can't hold any food in, or sleep. Idk what's going on. Every time I eat I have to go potty and I can tell that's starting to take a toll on how I feel. I am restless and tense when I can sleep. Also all of a sudden my hair is really greasy. My hair use to be so dry I would put leave in conditioner after washing and conditioning in the shower. Now I use only drying shampoo and it cooks greasy by the time it dries. What do I do? I wish I could take a day off but I can't. Even if I did, I'd spend it working on stuff at home anyway. Prayers and advice?

You are feeling pre-marriage stress. This is a major life change, and normal. Confide in friend, and fiancé. Lighten work load, keep journal, and simplify. I hope you had good pre-marriage consoling. Peace <><

 

[Inkachu]

Thanks Ink. I didn't see the date. She's now married and pregnant.

Wow, she went full speed ahead lol.