Ending Friendships

[chaoticfirefly]

At the advice of someone from a different forum, I finally cut off all ties with someone. He is a diagnosed sociopath and for whatever reason, I clung onto him out of desperation. Sociopaths are cunning folk, and manipulative, so no matter how badly he treated me or ignored me, and I would confront him about how friendships go both ways, he'd make me feel bad.

He'd only talk to me when he needed an ego boost or he didn't want to deal with his roommates boyfriend (who is incredibly abusive, but hey, I'm the bad guy if I call the cops) or couldn't find a party to go to.

And...

I don't know what to do. I'm really down because of it. And I don't have very many friends for obvious reasons. I keep stewing over this and it isn't healthy.

I looked everywhere and can't find any good resources so:

How do you get over ending a friendship? Especially with a sociopath.

 

[ToBeBlessed]

Did you ever think about what personal qualities that he had that you are so attracted to and missing? Is it a negative quality that you feel you deserve?

It might give you some clues as to why you are missing this friendship so much.

 

[chaoticfirefly]

I think it might be because I could say whatever I felt without censorship or much judgement.

 

[mimibeloved]

Firefly you obviously value friendship which is a great quality and you seem thoughtful and sensitive too. It is tough to draw the line between forgiving others for their faults and protecting ourselves from undeserved hurt. Sometimes we can bounce back and restore the friendship, but if the damage continues there will be a steep price to pay eventually. I do hope you find other soul mates too.