Encouragement? Advice?

[SDlooking4hope]

Hi. This is different, I know. I didn't know where else to go. This just seemed right. I hope it is.

I know a lot of the posts in this category are step-parents reaching out. Well, I am a step-daughter reaching out. I need help.


Please?

SDl4h

 

[Bryne]

Hi,

My daughter is a step-daughter. It can be difficult for her sometimes.

I don't know how I can help, but I will try if I can.

 

[bliz5]

Willing to "listen" and help if I can.

 

[SDlooking4hope]

Bliz and Bryne, thank you..so much. I will just put it all out there okay? Here it goes..


My mother died in 2005 when I was out of State. It was a bad Winter that year and I was unable to fly home for her funeral. This devastated me. I was 22, living in a horrible place, and couldn't get home. What made this all worse was that my dad asked my mother, while she was in the hospital mind you, if she died can he marry someone else. The "someone else" was a close friend of the family for years. By the end of the year my mother died, he remarried. So, my sister and I gained her and her two daughters.

It's been 6 years now. Why am I having such a hard time embracing this? I've had counseling, I pray and seek God, but this wall just isn't breaking. As lame as it sounds, I feel like I don't have a family.

It's all just so hard to accept. I want to be able to accept it.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

Bliz and Bryne, thank you..so much. I will just put it all out there okay? Here it goes..


My mother died in 2005 when I was out of State. It was a bad Winter that year and I was unable to fly home for her funeral. This devastated me. I was 22, living in a horrible place, and couldn't get home. What made this all worse was that my dad asked my mother, while she was in the hospital mind you, if she died can he marry someone else. The "someone else" was a close friend of the family for years. By the end of the year my mother died, he remarried. So, my sister and I gained her and her two daughters.

It's been 6 years now. Why am I having such a hard time embracing this? I've had counseling, I pray and seek God, but this wall just isn't breaking. As lame as it sounds, I feel like I don't have a family.

It's all just so hard to accept. I want to be able to accept it.

Did your parents have a good relationship? It would be normal for your dad to seek out another wife if he enjoyed being married to your mom. As far as discussing the topic of remarriage in the hospital- you sound very bitter about it. Were you there? Is it possible your mom brought it up?

It really sounds like there's a few issues going on; the grief of losing a parent, anger towards your father, and the issues with your step-mom and her kids.