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DaveKerwin
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It's one of those things where you could decide either way. The bible forbids sodomy (but how that applies to married heterosexul christians is debated). Then there is a verse that says the marriage bed is undefiled. I would say to use your conscience on the matter.
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I have to second Dave on this issue.
Given that the Bible doesn't come out and condemn anal sex in marriage, it should probably be something that you and your husband spend some time praying about. Untimately, if either of you feel uncomfortable with the prospect, then that should be the end to the discussion. All sex should be entered into comfortably and with love.
Given that the Bible doesn't come out and condemn anal sex in marriage, it should probably be something that you and your husband spend some time praying about. Untimately, if either of you feel uncomfortable with the prospect, then that should be the end to the discussion. All sex should be entered into comfortably and with love.
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^ what they said. Also, i'd look into the health concerns beforehand as well. Check out www . themarriagebed . com, they have some good information.
edit: for the ridiculous "must have 15 posts to link to an external site" rule
edit: for the ridiculous "must have 15 posts to link to an external site" rule
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Is it the wife or the husband that wishes to have such relations?
This I believe falls under, if a wife does not feel that this action is pleasing or ok with God, she has scripture to back her up on saying no.
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This I believe falls under, if a wife does not feel that this action is pleasing or ok with God, she has scripture to back her up on saying no.
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I may be new, but don't worry about offending me
!! Until a couple of days ago, I was dead set against it. The reason being, I didn't want to sin. If it is not going against God, then I don't think I would have a problem with it. By no means would my hubby force it upon me, so I want to clarify that! Thanks for your replies.
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!! Until a couple of days ago, I was dead set against it. The reason being, I didn't want to sin. If it is not going against God, then I don't think I would have a problem with it. By no means would my hubby force it upon me, so I want to clarify that! Thanks for your replies.Nenners
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The Bible forbids sodomy, and while our contemporary definition of sodomy includes anal and oral sex, Biblically, sodomy was sex practiced by Sodomites (people of Sodom). We often use the story of Sodom and Gomorrah to prove the sinfulness of homosexual sex, and as such, I find it difficult to then use that story (and the contemporary use of a word stemming from it) to condemn anal or oral sex within a heterosexual marriage.
If it's something you would both like to try, I suggest reading up on it first, and certainly taking it slow. If you want to talk more about specifics, feel free to PM me.
If it's something you would both like to try, I suggest reading up on it first, and certainly taking it slow. If you want to talk more about specifics, feel free to PM me.
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The wife has to obey her husband on an issue such as anal sex?????I'm sorry, I just have a real problem with that statement.
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As others have said, it isn't addressed in the bible per se, however, I think we need to consider what God intended our specific body parts for, and what health implications there are, before making a decision.
Personally that thought process has led me to the conclusion that it is not what God intended when he created man/wife and sex. But this is very much up to the individual couple involved.
Personally that thought process has led me to the conclusion that it is not what God intended when he created man/wife and sex. But this is very much up to the individual couple involved.
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The Bible's only reference to sodomy is in reference to the practice of the Sodomites. It included homosexual sins including gang rape.
This is further expanded upon in Ezekiel 16:49-50 where the sins are defined as "arrogant, overfed and unconcerned; they did not help the poor and needy", and in the epistle of Jude, where Jude qualifies the sins of the Sodomites to be "sexually immoral and perverted". (Jude 7).
Nowhere does the Bible use sodomy in any other terms.
Therefore, one can only come to the conclusion that it is up to your own discretion, and it is something that BOTH must agree upon.
The only thing I can thing of is you may want to bring up the issue of natural use.
This is further expanded upon in Ezekiel 16:49-50 where the sins are defined as "arrogant, overfed and unconcerned; they did not help the poor and needy", and in the epistle of Jude, where Jude qualifies the sins of the Sodomites to be "sexually immoral and perverted". (Jude 7).
Nowhere does the Bible use sodomy in any other terms.
Therefore, one can only come to the conclusion that it is up to your own discretion, and it is something that BOTH must agree upon.
The only thing I can thing of is you may want to bring up the issue of natural use.
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That's not at all right.Archivist said:
Me to.Archivist said:
Very True.drfeelgood said:
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MOD HAT ON.....
This is not going to turn ugly in here, This not a debating thread. Nenners came here asking ADVICE, Not for anything else. If members can't post kindly and caringly, I will close and trash the thread. IS THAT CLEAR ??
MOD HAT OFF.....
This is not going to turn ugly in here, This not a debating thread. Nenners came here asking ADVICE, Not for anything else. If members can't post kindly and caringly, I will close and trash the thread. IS THAT CLEAR ??
MOD HAT OFF.....
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nenners said:
I believe that the post that stated that a wife had to obey her husband on this matter was removed. You probably noticed a couple posts by those of us who strongly disagreed with this statement but the original post appears to have been deleted.
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