- Feb 23, 2006
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I've been separated for nearly a year. Filed for divorce the first available opportunity. I won't go into why it has taken this long, but ex has finally decided he is ready to be divorced too. The only contact we have is because of the children. Anyway, my divorce is soon to be final 
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Recently I was asked out by a business man that comes to our town every few weeks. I didn't even know he has been divorced for 2 years although I've known him for 10+ years. When I say known I don't mean personally. I really know nothing about him personally. Anyway, I let him know my divorce was not final. He told me to let him know if I was interested in going out - I let him know that at this point I am not ready (even when my divorce is final I can't say I will be ready - this is a part of being divorced I didn't think I would want to face). He let me know he would be in town every few weeks so I suppose it's an open invitation to let him know??? He lives about 2.5 hours away so I don't know what he has in mind. There is no way I can go out during the week when he comes to our shop - small kids.
I thought that when he comes back around, *if* he mentions it again, I'd like to suggest that maybe we communicate some before we go out. I want him to realize that I am not ready. However, I want to get to know him better to see if we would even be compatible. I thought about giving him my cell number but I don't know when he would call and I don't want my kids involved at this point - plus I'm not big on talking on the phone. I thought about suggesting email or texting. Then I thought about IMing. Does that sound like a dumb idea? And then there is the whole idea that he might not be computer literate. He is maybe 8-9 years older than me and although some people in their late 40's love the computer, others don't. I just don't want to sound like an idiot by making that suggestion. Plus, it might not be easy for us to talk privately while I'm at work so I wouldn't have a long time to discuss how we could communicate in the future.
And then there's the question of what if he doesn't bring it up again? He's kinda put the ball in my court but I'm uncomfortable of seeming too forward at this point.
For all I know he could have a girlfriend in every city he visits although I don't think that's the case - he sounded like he was a bit scared of the dating world. I was burned once, I refuse to be burned again by a cheater.
OK, none of that will probably make any sense to anyone but me so sorry for rattling on.
. Recently I was asked out by a business man that comes to our town every few weeks. I didn't even know he has been divorced for 2 years although I've known him for 10+ years. When I say known I don't mean personally. I really know nothing about him personally. Anyway, I let him know my divorce was not final. He told me to let him know if I was interested in going out - I let him know that at this point I am not ready (even when my divorce is final I can't say I will be ready - this is a part of being divorced I didn't think I would want to face). He let me know he would be in town every few weeks so I suppose it's an open invitation to let him know??? He lives about 2.5 hours away so I don't know what he has in mind. There is no way I can go out during the week when he comes to our shop - small kids.
I thought that when he comes back around, *if* he mentions it again, I'd like to suggest that maybe we communicate some before we go out. I want him to realize that I am not ready. However, I want to get to know him better to see if we would even be compatible. I thought about giving him my cell number but I don't know when he would call and I don't want my kids involved at this point - plus I'm not big on talking on the phone. I thought about suggesting email or texting. Then I thought about IMing. Does that sound like a dumb idea? And then there is the whole idea that he might not be computer literate. He is maybe 8-9 years older than me and although some people in their late 40's love the computer, others don't. I just don't want to sound like an idiot by making that suggestion. Plus, it might not be easy for us to talk privately while I'm at work so I wouldn't have a long time to discuss how we could communicate in the future.
And then there's the question of what if he doesn't bring it up again? He's kinda put the ball in my court but I'm uncomfortable of seeming too forward at this point.
For all I know he could have a girlfriend in every city he visits although I don't think that's the case - he sounded like he was a bit scared of the dating world. I was burned once, I refuse to be burned again by a cheater. OK, none of that will probably make any sense to anyone but me so sorry for rattling on.
