Found this forum, figured i'd give it a try...
I have divorce papers to file at the courthouse and it has been hard to get myself to bring it down there. I love my husband and i want things to work out, but....
Years of 'later'... and then 'that's past', or 'heard it before...' have suceeded in nothing being dealt with or resolved...
been separated for more then a year and he's living with his parents who act like i'm a dirty word or dead... i don't think there is a chance of working things out cause he's chosen to live where i am not welcome and with my inlaws who have been angry i took him away from them since the day he married me. Within a month of the wedding they were pointing his ex girlfriends out to him etc... He tells me how they get angy if he's out to late or he gets in trouble for spending time with me, HE constantly breaks his promises to be there for or with me or help me because anytime anyone in his house call, he goes running even if it's to sit there and do nothing...
I mentioned the paperwork and he asked what would happen if he did not sign then proceeded to say if i filed then he would sign. He says he loves me but keeps asking if i've filed yet, has said i've gone too far and that he can't deal with me- he has his family and work and housing and all to deal with first... When we were living together he was always too busy even when he didn't have a job....
I hurt, have never been lonelier in my life. I don't think anyone truly knows loneliness til their married and left alone...
I'm surpirise i want to work things out after the years of him yelling at me for hours at a time, yelling at me til i cry and then yelling at me more... The stress has made my health quite bad...
I pray that God will help him. I believe i've done all i can, i think i deserve a life where i don't have tolive with anger disappointment and fear... I hope there is such a love out there as somone to hold you when you are hurting, somone who will say sorry nicely when they hurt you, someooe who will let you discuss something and work on something together, and someone who believe you are a top priority after God.
I have divorce papers to file at the courthouse and it has been hard to get myself to bring it down there. I love my husband and i want things to work out, but....
Years of 'later'... and then 'that's past', or 'heard it before...' have suceeded in nothing being dealt with or resolved...
been separated for more then a year and he's living with his parents who act like i'm a dirty word or dead... i don't think there is a chance of working things out cause he's chosen to live where i am not welcome and with my inlaws who have been angry i took him away from them since the day he married me. Within a month of the wedding they were pointing his ex girlfriends out to him etc... He tells me how they get angy if he's out to late or he gets in trouble for spending time with me, HE constantly breaks his promises to be there for or with me or help me because anytime anyone in his house call, he goes running even if it's to sit there and do nothing...
I mentioned the paperwork and he asked what would happen if he did not sign then proceeded to say if i filed then he would sign. He says he loves me but keeps asking if i've filed yet, has said i've gone too far and that he can't deal with me- he has his family and work and housing and all to deal with first... When we were living together he was always too busy even when he didn't have a job....
I hurt, have never been lonelier in my life. I don't think anyone truly knows loneliness til their married and left alone...
I'm surpirise i want to work things out after the years of him yelling at me for hours at a time, yelling at me til i cry and then yelling at me more... The stress has made my health quite bad...
I pray that God will help him. I believe i've done all i can, i think i deserve a life where i don't have tolive with anger disappointment and fear... I hope there is such a love out there as somone to hold you when you are hurting, somone who will say sorry nicely when they hurt you, someooe who will let you discuss something and work on something together, and someone who believe you are a top priority after God.
