I have a problem guys and gals, I'm hoping God's word will be given to me through one of you, because I'm needing it. This is also going to be long. Me and my gf of 2.5yrs recently broke up, but not your run of the mill break up, a real BREAK UP! She just said that she didn't love me anymore, she didnt' feel that way for me. This of course greatly upset me. We have worked together for quite some time now, 3.5 yrs about, and I always noticed her, I've always thought she was very beautiful and really enjoyed her personality, we became friends but we both always had someone else, finally we were able to come together, from day one she has ministered to me about being saved, and blessed be, almost exactly a year after we came together I made Jesus my savior. I've been attending our church since we've met and even started to get into leadership Our relationship has always been awesome, truly a light to other couples and youth, we had made vocal choices to abstain and even not to move in with each other to avoid unnecessary temptation and to give example to our work(very secular place) Truly a heavenly blessed relationship, our families loved each other person the whole nine yards. We had talked many times of marriage and children and all was grand, until about 6months ago, she finished school (batchelors) and started her new job. she started to have new friends from her new job, something I feel definately affected us, one day she said she was drifting. I tried to make things more exciting, did more of the stuff we used to, go on "dates", trust me I have tried but to no avail, we broke up 2 months ago now, I have pretty much spoke with her every day until recently, I keep trying but she doesnt' want it, she has told me that she can't see marrying anyone else and that I would make a perfect father for our kids, but then she doesnt' love me? I just don't understand how something so heaven sent and blessed could fall apart? I firmly believe we met for a reason(my salvation) and that we have always been so happy, I thought it was seriously "It". I love her so much, she is for me. I have been praying on it and really wanting to put it in God's hands which of course is not easy. She wants to be best friends but I'm not sure that is possible, she has another life now, one without me. She is still going to church as am I and we are trying to refocus on God but I guess my question is, I thought love never fails? What happened? I feel someone pulled the plug and I just don't understand. I need prayer please, also suggestions, there is so much more I can say about it but I would write a book lol, please if anyone has anything to offer or if you need more details please, i would appreciate it
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Down and trying not to be out :(
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Pope Gonzo
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I Corinthians 10:13 - "No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it."
This verse helps me greatly whenever I struggle
Also, if you're looking for some consistency in your quiet times, going through Job is a good project.
This verse helps me greatly whenever I struggle
Also, if you're looking for some consistency in your quiet times, going through Job is a good project.
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silentpoet
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I am not much of one to be offering advice, but just give it to God. Let God Handle it. He has His reasons. Even our stumbles and hurts are there for His purposes.
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Don't try to talk to her everyday. Give her some space and she will probably come back. I have seen other couples go through this stage and many get back together and get married. It sounds like she may be taking you for granted so make yourself scarce. She figures you will always be there, so why not look around? Its not fair, but it does happen.
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Not that I know everything but things happen for a reason. I can understand you feel bad but you never know what God has reserved for you. If she is to come back to you leave it in God's hand. But, waiting for her to come back to you wouldn't be a good idea. Maybe in the future God will give you somone else who would love you back as you deserve.
But for now reading the bible brings comfort for those who are troubled.
But for now reading the bible brings comfort for those who are troubled.
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I appreciate the advice, I am actually already walking away from her, her recent actions have very much prompted me to do so. I have been reading but my daily bible has me stuck in the OT, not neccessarily the greatest for an uplifting message lol
Steve
Steve
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Pope Gonzo
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One of the most encouraging things I get out of the OT is the fact that God is constantly giving the Israelites another chance. Yes, finally his wrath burns on them, but even then (I'm in Ezekiel right now), he offers them hope and restoration.
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Rorschach
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Wow that must be tough. I remember my ex did the same thing, she told me she just didn't feel the same for me anymore and it was very hard times from there. You know sometimes God "tests" us and puts us through trials and tribulations to help us grow in our relationship with Him. My advice is, just turn to the Lord and stay faithful to Him and pray constantly. And just read your bible too.
I hope everything works out for you and I'll be praying for you!
I hope everything works out for you and I'll be praying for you!
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Thanks everybody, my situation is still very much a daily struggle, this Has very much been a test of my faith, unbearable at times. I still hurt and still pray, I just want this to be over already, I'm so spent. My emotions run the gambit daily. Please continue to pray for me
Steve
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A broken relationship is very painful!
I do not understand post-modern break-ups where the two people pledge to remain best friends... I would hope that two people who had so much caring for ne another could maintain a friendship, but it is totally unrealistic to think that this can happen within a week or two... or even a few months. Your heart is broken! To exchange pleasentries every Sunday is asking a bit much right now! Speaking to her every day is not helping your heart heal. You know full well that each time you hear her voice, you are still waiting to hear "I've been such a fool!"
Take a break. Not in hostility or anger, but as a First Aid measure. Go and visit churches in the area for awhile, don't try and build a friendship on the rubble of your emotions and dreams yet. Pray for healing... and when you start to feel sorry for yourself, get out and do things for others.
I do not understand post-modern break-ups where the two people pledge to remain best friends... I would hope that two people who had so much caring for ne another could maintain a friendship, but it is totally unrealistic to think that this can happen within a week or two... or even a few months. Your heart is broken! To exchange pleasentries every Sunday is asking a bit much right now! Speaking to her every day is not helping your heart heal. You know full well that each time you hear her voice, you are still waiting to hear "I've been such a fool!"
Take a break. Not in hostility or anger, but as a First Aid measure. Go and visit churches in the area for awhile, don't try and build a friendship on the rubble of your emotions and dreams yet. Pray for healing... and when you start to feel sorry for yourself, get out and do things for others.
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