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Living4Him03

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I have started dating a guy I've been friends with for a few months. We both have friends that are couples. However, we mostly prefer to spend time with each other, not on a double date. It's not that either of us mind a double date, it's just that we just started dating, so we want to spend some time with each other.

One of the couples is a girl he wanted to date at one point and her boyfriend. It's fine that they are friends, but going on a double date would probably be weird, especially since she recently told him she is a bit jealous that he is in a relationship. I don't know her and I would like for us to at least be nice to one another, even if we don't become the best of friends. The problem is that she wanted my guy and I to hang out with her and her boyfriend Saturday and I told him I didn't really feel like doing that, that I just wanted it to be us. He agreed. Well, I don't want her to think that I am being a snob or being rude.

So, I'm wondering, what is a good way to decide which couples you hang out with without hurting someone's feelings? Chris and I are just not the party types and this friend of his is.
 

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You could go bowling or something...
I can totally understand what you mean... I am a bit of a jealous person at times and I would feel awkward knowing that this girl likes him. I am in a new relationship too and I like spending time with my boyfriend to get to know him but I have had one of my girl friends hang out with us a few times, that was kind of fun.
 
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Actually if you and your boyfriend could get both of your friends together I think that would be great. Ive been dating my boyfriend for almost three months now and I've always loved the idea of including our friends in the things we do. We do spend a certain amount of time alone because a relationship needs that, but even though we dont get to see each other alot because we're both away in different colleges, we make sure our friends are involved in things we do. This past week during spring break we've gone on a douple date with another couple (his best friend and his girlfriend, both of whom are now close friends of mine) and also had a big group of his friends get together for an Italian dinner and some video games. It's great and it only helps your relationship if you can get along with his friends!!
 
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Well, it sounds to me like you and your boyfriend have already made up your minds. You told him you want it to be just the two of you and he agreed. So make it just the two of you on Saturday. Don't go on a double date with which you feel uneasy just because you are feeling pressured by this other girl to do so.

Hope this helps.

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Living4Him03 said:
So, I'm wondering, what is a good way to decide which couples you hang out with without hurting someone's feelings? Chris and I are just not the party types and this friend of his is.
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Nah, don't worry about it. You guys should do your own thing.
 
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I totally agree with this statement. Plus the girl says she's jealous of him starting a relationship with you. Sounds like she may want to start some drama.
 
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I totally agree that a double date with this couple would probably be weird. Friends are important, and it's also important that you don't spend too much time alone, but you have every right to pick & choose who you hang around with. And someone who may be looking to cause trouble (that was my initial thought when you said that she's telling your boyfriend all about her regrets... very odd) definitely wouldn't be my first choice.

If you don't have much in common with this other couple, and your bf isn't too keen about the idea either, then hang out with your other friends. You don't have any obligation to them. You do have an obligation to each other, and you may be doing each other a favor by avoiding potential high stress situations like that until you're a bit more established yourselves. Jealousy is not pretty. Avoid it if you can!
 
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My boyfriend and I deal with this too. We usually only get one day a week together excluding school which hardly counts and then we only get a couple of hours. Don't take that as a complaint. I am thankful for anytime we get together, but anyway. Some of our really good friends are couples.Anyway they want to go on double dates too. We just tell them we don't get really any opportunities to be just us, although alot of times I am not sure that they know. Just tell them the truth is about all I can say.
 
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