Don't understand what is happening in my life...

[margaret1]

Ok, quickly, to cut a long story short. I left my emotionally abusive husband last year after finally getting up the courage when my lovely boyfriend came into my life who was in the same situation as me. We moved in to the house I had inherited from my mum 2 years ago. I know what I did was not exactly right but my husband found a girlfriend who has now become a Christian. I told my boyfriend to go back to his estranged wife although he didnt want to. I couldnt take her pressure any more and I was feeling confused about my husband. (The divorce is going through, which I filed for) I have tried to get back with my husband but he doesnt want to know and wants the divorce to continue. My boyfriend is back with his wife but is miserable and I am hoping he comes back as we do love each other. I feel so scared. I have no close family or friends, my parents are dead. I am only 33 and have 2 little girls which keeps me busy and in a way does help me although some days they are a handful! I don't know what I am supposed to do next as I have put out feelers to see how my husband felt but he doesnt want me and who can blame him.

 

[margaret1]

by the way, we are all Christians. I pray every night and often call out to Jesus to help me.

 

[AWorkInProgress]

hmm im no expert in these areas. All I can tell you is you have quite a mess there. Stop running from your problems and resolve them. If you don't love your husband or hate his abuse. Then go thru with divorce.

Your boyfriend got his own problems to deal with. He too has to face his problems.

Right now those 2 girls are more important than him. Also since you are christian, I humbly suggest you read the bible and make Jesus' teachings your own. Thru that you will be stronger and not get washed away by the rain. Specially New testiment, recommend getting New living translation, life application bible.

Luke 6:46-49
Building on a Solid Foundation
46 “So why do you keep calling me ‘Lord, Lord!’ when you don’t do what I say? 47 I will show you what it’s like when someone comes to me, listens to my teaching, and then follows it. 48 It is like a person building a house who digs deep and lays the foundation on solid rock. When the floodwaters rise and break against that house, it stands firm because it is well built. 49 But anyone who hears and doesn’t obey is like a person who builds a house without a foundation. When the floods sweep down against that house, it will collapse into a heap of ruins.”

I think your spirit will guide you from there.

 

[Miracle Storm]

Ok, quickly, to cut a long story short. I left my emotionally abusive husband last year after finally getting up the courage when my lovely boyfriend came into my life who was in the same situation as me. We moved in to the house I had inherited from my mum 2 years ago. I know what I did was not exactly right but my husband found a girlfriend who has now become a Christian. I told my boyfriend to go back to his estranged wife although he didnt want to. I couldnt take her pressure any more and I was feeling confused about my husband. (The divorce is going through, which I filed for) I have tried to get back with my husband but he doesnt want to know and wants the divorce to continue. My boyfriend is back with his wife but is miserable and I am hoping he comes back as we do love each other. I feel so scared. I have no close family or friends, my parents are dead. I am only 33 and have 2 little girls which keeps me busy and in a way does help me although some days they are a handful! I don't know what I am supposed to do next as I have put out feelers to see how my husband felt but he doesnt want me and who can blame him.

I know how difficult this must be for you. But it is okay to be alone sometimes.
God promises never to leave us nor forsake us.

Right now you need to be stable for your two little girls. The only way to do that is to put God first. Meditate on His Word, pray, grow in relationship with Him.
Then He will take care of the rest.

I cannot tell you that means that you will be back with either your husband or your boyfriend. God may have a totally different walk for your life. When we look to God first, He takes care of the rest. Sometimes what we have planned or are hoping for may not work out. But when we set our eyes on the Lord first, He will take care of everything else, and it will be better than anything we planned.


May God bless and guide.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

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[Mr.Cheese]

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[BigToe]

Leaving an abusive situation is a hard thing to do. It's emotionally exhausting too. This might be a time God wants you to have for yourself, without a significant other. It's ok.

 

[ktfereva]

hello?

 

[madison1101]

Ok, I am going to go out on a limb here. My husband left me, and started dating the day after he moved out. That is adultery. Our divorce was not final for almost two years, and to date, go out with, sleep with someone other than me before the divorce is final is called adultery. The Bible says that is a sin.

It is understandable that you would leave an abusive marriage. It is wrong to live with a married man while your divorce is not final.

I would strongly urge you to live alone, with your children, and sort things out emotionally. I would also suggest that you seek therapy, as living with any kind of abuse is going to mess with your mind. Get stable and seek the Lord for your life.

I have been divorced for six years, and have only dated a few times since my husband left me. I have grown in leaps and bounds since then.

 

[iannassah]

Sometimes God allows people or things to be taken away from us so we can see Who is really truly there for us, and Who we can completely rely on.... our faithful, unmovable Husband, Friend, Strength, Shepherd, the Alpha & Omega.........
Jesus Christ

 

[Peregrino]

Ok, I am going to go out on a limb here. My husband left me, and started dating the day after he moved out. That is adultery. Our divorce was not final for almost two years, and to date, go out with, sleep with someone other than me before the divorce is final is called adultery. The Bible says that is a sin.

It is understandable that you would leave an abusive marriage. It is wrong to live with a married man while your divorce is not final.

I would strongly urge you to live alone, with your children, and sort things out emotionally. I would also suggest that you seek therapy, as living with any kind of abuse is going to mess with your mind. Get stable and seek the Lord for your life.

I have been divorced for six years, and have only dated a few times since my husband left me. I have grown in leaps and bounds since then.

I was going to post something meaningful and helpful, but Madison already said something with loads of wisdom in it.

I agree that learning to be alone is essential, if you don't want to fall into another abusive/inadequate relationship. If you find it too hard and the anxiiety is too much, it would be advisable to seek professional help.

And pray! The Lord is with you. Find Him in the small things and larger ones.