There's a problem that's been going on in my life for a while and I am stuck at the moment trying to work out what is the best way I should do this. I have been praying and have been thinking a lot, but I think I really need your input and suggestions.
1 1/2 years ago, I started a relationship with this guy. At that time, he was very talented and he is very keen and seems mature too. I can see his potential and the changes that's been happening to him. After we got together for a week, he had to go overseas to see his family. Ever since he came back, he started to become a very different person. He started to have very bad temper and gradually I could see his selfishness. At that time, I was trying my best to do what Christines do to use love, acceptance, appreciation and encouragement to direct him back to the right path. During our relationship, there was lot of ups and downs and there was times where we couldn't stand each other any longer. I am a very soft and genuine person and likes to see the good in people rather than the bad. However, he likes to judge people and take extra caution to anyone he meets.(I kept telling him that people are not as bad as what you think and we shouldn't judge people because we are not any better ourselves) However, he never listens and when ever he hears something that offends him, he will become very angry.
Anyway, this morning when I woke up, I have decided that we need some serious talking because I can't love someone like this and let him carry on his selfishness and torment his family and me. Around dinner time I got home and his mum told me that she has saw his saving statements and he has been spending a lot of money in gambling. I was so upset about it and I think the emotion has got into me that I started to feel like giving up. However, deep down I don't want to because I can see his potential and his goodness. But, some reason I couldn't bring it out of him and I can't change him at all. I thought being a example of a loving person and to live consistant with my values will infuence a person. But, now I think I am starting to lose faith.
I really needed help because I don't want to see him end up in the wrong place but I am starting to feel really pressured by this relationship. (You know when the person you love could hurt you the most)
Could someone give me some advise on how I should approach him and what I should do? I appreciate all of you for taking the time to read my message.
1 1/2 years ago, I started a relationship with this guy. At that time, he was very talented and he is very keen and seems mature too. I can see his potential and the changes that's been happening to him. After we got together for a week, he had to go overseas to see his family. Ever since he came back, he started to become a very different person. He started to have very bad temper and gradually I could see his selfishness. At that time, I was trying my best to do what Christines do to use love, acceptance, appreciation and encouragement to direct him back to the right path. During our relationship, there was lot of ups and downs and there was times where we couldn't stand each other any longer. I am a very soft and genuine person and likes to see the good in people rather than the bad. However, he likes to judge people and take extra caution to anyone he meets.(I kept telling him that people are not as bad as what you think and we shouldn't judge people because we are not any better ourselves) However, he never listens and when ever he hears something that offends him, he will become very angry.
Anyway, this morning when I woke up, I have decided that we need some serious talking because I can't love someone like this and let him carry on his selfishness and torment his family and me. Around dinner time I got home and his mum told me that she has saw his saving statements and he has been spending a lot of money in gambling. I was so upset about it and I think the emotion has got into me that I started to feel like giving up. However, deep down I don't want to because I can see his potential and his goodness. But, some reason I couldn't bring it out of him and I can't change him at all. I thought being a example of a loving person and to live consistant with my values will infuence a person. But, now I think I am starting to lose faith.
I really needed help because I don't want to see him end up in the wrong place but I am starting to feel really pressured by this relationship. (You know when the person you love could hurt you the most)
Could someone give me some advise on how I should approach him and what I should do? I appreciate all of you for taking the time to read my message.
