Don't date, no social life, in college, stuck in a rut

[RileyG]

Any advice?

I seriously feel like my life is going nowhere.

I do not drive (panic attacks/anxiety), don't really have friends (just acquaintances), basically spend most of my time at the college either doing work on campus, homework, going to class, some activities, some hobbies etc.

Anyone else in the same boat?

 

[BookofMatt]

I'm 27 now, but when I started college I was pretty much in the same boat. I thought it would be a fresh start with new beginnings, but likewise, I ended up not getting any new friends, not getting any dates and really had no new prospects, direction or additions to my life other than classwork.

Ultimately, I had to drop out of college and find my prospects somewhere else, but I'm definitely not suggesting you do that. Everyone's situation is going to be drastically different. I can't effectively give specifically advice without taking into consideration your career/academic goals, your activities and hobbies, etc. I personally focused on what was most important to me, what I most wanted to do and what I could do to achieve it, eliminating whatever I felt was unnecessarily keeping me from it (which, for me, was college, but again, that's not my advice. ).

 

[WretchedGoat]

I'm in a similar situation. I have a lot of issues getting along with other people and have a lot of anxiety issues that keep me very close to home most of the time. I don't date and haven't for a long, long time. I have a couple IRL friends, but we aren't close and don't talk often. It's lonely sometimes.

 

[grandvizier1006]

Try and get to know all of those acquaintaintences. Ask if you can hang out with them and let them offer to do stuff with you. I know how it feels, but once you start getting to know people it gets easier. Don't give up and remember that God will always be your friend!

 

[Sir Robbins]

I'm 26 going on 27 and spend much of my life alone. I'm very indecisive about many things. I work in a different place every job being self employed and always travelling and when I'm in town, I run a small landscaping business on the side. I work alone, eat alone, sleep alone and often times find my hobbies being done alone. I volunteer Saturday nights to my church when I'm in town on the production staff as it's what I do as a profession. I have never been on a date in my life. I too mostly have acquaintances as my 2 close friends are living several states away and I rarely have free time when they too are free. I understand the frustration in all of what you are doing. I went to college only for a semester before dropping out due to a degree not being needed for my profession, having that entrepreneur mentality and it was costing money out of pocket from me so I never had free change to do anything. It's not fun and I really don't see a change. I rarely run into the same people on jobs but most I do are in the same boat as I. Alone, a lot, and when they aren't, it's because of work and even then, in the entertainment industry, behind the scenes is very non-personable and all business. I also dislike people as a generalization. Sounds bad but I honestly tolerate most people I'm around. Keeping my distance is best for me. I hope you don't go down that road because it is the polar opposite of what we as humans are designed to do. Even my relationship with Christ is sometimes feeling absent. I don't know sometimes.