does God say not to do things that are ok?

[Amleto]

To cut a very long story short, I was unsaved and dated a believer.

God brought to her attention the passages about do not be unevenly yoked and we split up.

It has been quite some time since then. I have now found my salvation, thank God

this girl believes me and she has told me on more than one occasion that she still loves me, but thinks it is not ok to get back together because of God.

I am just wondering if God would actively discourage two Christians dating.

Confused and hurt,

Amleto

 

[William Nunn]

I'm not sure if I'm reading this right Amleto. You're a Christian, and so is she, and you're asking if God would be against you two being together?

There is no more uniting bond that two people can share than both serving the Lord, and the Lord wants us to date Christians (if we are Christians ourselves). A loving relationship between two Christians who fear the Lord is a wonderful thing, and I have never read any doctrine that discourages it.

 

[JillLars]

There may be a reason unrelated to the status of your faith that you two shouldn't get together. God may want her to focus on her schoolwork, or to focus on Him more right now. God may also have other people in store for the both of you. While it's OK to date each other, it may not be in your best interests right now.

 

[Amleto]

I'm not sure if I'm reading this right Amleto. You're a Christian, and so is she, and you're asking if God would be against you two being together?

That is what she thinks. That God meant it is not right for us until he gives a 'green light' even though the scriputure He showed her now seems no longer relevant.

 

[Amleto]

There may be a reason unrelated to the status of your faith that you two shouldn't get together. God may want her to focus on her schoolwork, or to focus on Him more right now. God may also have other people in store for the both of you. While it's OK to date each other, it may not be in your best interests right now.

The only reason she cites as to why we cant be together is because God said she had to leave to relationship (by showing to her the unevenly yoked passages)

 

[JillLars]

I think she it is wise to remain in a platonic relationship, look at it from her perspective.

She feels like God is telling her to end the relationship, maybe he showed her those passages, but she probably had some other doubts goin on as well, and finding the passages were just cementing her decision.

She probably had other reasons to leave the relationship besides the fact that you weren't a Christian, try asking her what is stopping her from being in a relationship with you now that you are a Christian? Its obviously not about being unequally yoked, so it must be something else.

 

[Amleto]

I think she it is wise to remain in a platonic relationship, look at it from her perspective.

She feels like God is telling her to end the relationship, maybe he showed her those passages, but she probably had some other doubts goin on as well, and finding the passages were just cementing her decision.

She probably had other reasons to leave the relationship besides the fact that you weren't a Christian, try asking her what is stopping her from being in a relationship with you now that you are a Christian? Its obviously not about being unequally yoked, so it must be something else.

This is the problem - I have asked, and this is the only reason. We were in a great relationship and she kinda knew that it wasnt right for a Christian to be with a non-believer but she loved me too much to break things off. When the passage was brought to her attention she knew she had to act though.

Those are basically her words. I know she wants to get back together - we kissed after a Christian Unioin meeting one evening, and on the way home she drove through an amber light, got pulled up by the cops and took it as a sign that we shouldn't be together.

 

[JillLars]

Maybe she is seeing signs that you aren't, unless she is completely nuts, she has other reasons to suspect God doesn't want her in a relationship right now (besides getting pulled over by the cops).

 

[Amleto]

well then it would be hard to explain why she said that very evening when she got home that it (the cops) was a sign and that it still wasnt right for us to be together. just before she left in her car she said that it felt like we were slowly gettin back together again and it was nice.

And yes she is completely nuts, but thats one thing I like about her.

 

[12volt_man]

jj

 

[goodgirl]

Honestly, if that's the only reason, I wouldn't date her anyway... and if it's NOT the only reason and she isn't being honest, there ya go.

Seems a bit immature either way...

p.s. someone ought to tell this girl that getting pulled by the cops for running a yellow COULD be seen as a sign from God that one shouldn't run yellow lights. Or maybe God has not revealed to her yet the scriptures about obeying the law?

 

[Amleto]

12volt, I don't get it.

goodgirl, I wish my heart was more logical too...

 

[12volt_man]

12volt, I don't get it.

It doesn't mean anything. I tried to delete my post to you since, after re-reading it, it didn't really answer your question and the software wouldn't let me go without putting something in so I just hit two keys at random to get out.

 

[lil_god_lova]

look calm down ok.. why don't you pray about it... I believe that you are a christian, but i woul d also ask how long you've been a christian and how long she has... I went out with a guy last year and i broke it off.... Yes my reasons were becuase of god, and even the unequal koked thing.... the thing was, i've been a christian for years and years,, and he'd been one for a very short while... and i went out with him, and now he's struggling really bad and that...but the point is, i stopped ogoing out with him because the unequal yoked thing somewat applies to how deep the relationship is and the strenght and the length of time ok?

 

[Amleto]

look calm down ok.. why don't you pray about it... I believe that you are a christian, but i woul d also ask how long you've been a christian and how long she has... I went out with a guy last year and i broke it off.... Yes my reasons were becuase of god, and even the unequal koked thing.... the thing was, i've been a christian for years and years,, and he'd been one for a very short while... and i went out with him, and now he's struggling really bad and that...but the point is, i stopped ogoing out with him because the unequal yoked thing somewat applies to how deep the relationship is and the strenght and the length of time ok?

2 Corinthians 6
13As a fair exchange--I speak as to my children--open wide your hearts also.

Do Not Be Yoked With Unbelievers

14Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 15What harmony is there between Christ and Belial[1] ? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?

1. 6:15 Greek Beliar, a variant of Belial

I do not see how that applies to two Christians, nor how one person being a Christian for longer would cause an uneven relationship in and of itself.