Does e-dating work in the long run?

[Royals IS]

So Ive been single for the past three years. I am not able to meet new people or engage in relationships in the place I am commited to. So I was wondering about e-dating, because I am generally only out in the community about 3 hours a week its very hard to meet people or even make friends. Would it work? Where do I even go for this type of thing? Dating sites are out of the question because of personal reasons. Any advice would help.

 

[com7fy8]

You might tell us what you mean by e-dating. I would think it would mean the same thing as a dating site. Maybe you mean by e-mail. This could be essentially the same as a dating site. But you would need a reliable way to select and connect with someone suitable.

I think we have people who are too hasty to get connected with people their own age and interests. We need to share with our mature senior Christian examples, so we can learn how to love, have them to help us grow in Jesus, and they can help us to have a standard for how a Christian person is, so we can get with a Christian companion, not a charmer or smart talker.

And if you trust God, He can have you discover how He has made His way for all He has for you. So, it can be wise not to say something doesn't work, just because it hasn't. But I personally would prefer to go with personally getting to know someone while we share in our real lives together. And in case this really is what God is committed to, with you, this will work when and how He pleases. Meanwhile, you can invest in sharing with various Christians who help you grow in Jesus and discover how to relate and how to do well in marriage.

 

[ArmenianJohn]

So Ive been single for the past three years. I am not able to meet new people or engage in relationships in the place I am commited to. So I was wondering about e-dating, because I am generally only out in the community about 3 hours a week its very hard to meet people or even make friends. Would it work? Where do I even go for this type of thing? Dating sites are out of the question because of personal reasons. Any advice would help.

There are two things at play here - technology and dating.

Dating is meeting people and going out with them to learn about each other and see if there's some kind of chemistry or match. That doesn't change. How you get to that point is what can vary.

Technology changes and opens up new ways to meet people. Dating remains the same but technology opens up new and different ways to meet those people who you then will date.

So, "e-dating" - dating people you meet through technology, especially the internet - is just another way of making the connection to set up a date. The dating part doesn't change, you still meet up in person and interact and go through the whole personal part of it. Technology/e-Dating simply opens up a way for you to set up more of these opportunities. E-dating "works" for setting up opportunity, but the dating that comes out of it is what ultimately has to "work" for you to be with someone.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

It depends on what type of girl you are looking for. At your age I'd focus on increasing my smv. I'd hit the gym, get a social group of friends, and do things that you like to do. To try to date now when you aren't doing or don't have any of these things is selling yourself short. You'll just end up frustrated on these apps. If you put in the work then apps make more sense. It's well known the bottom 20% of women aren't able to find anyone on dating apps, and the bottom 80% of men aren't either. This is a general statement but it's something you need to be aware of as a man you need to have your stuff together. I wouldn't go on an app till my appearance, social network, and i have a life are all checked off. If you go now you'll just be frustrated.

 

[( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)]

How are you going to "e-date" without signing up and using a dating site?

There have been several people who have met, fallen in love, and gotten married from here (CF) but I imagine it took time for things to click. If you want to go that route, be prepared to engage in the conversations and let yourself be known. Either way, it's nice to welcome you and wish you luck on your desires. God bless!

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

No more e-dating
I'm just waiting!

 

[blackribbon]

Mostly it only works if there is a real opportunity to turn it into a real life dating arrangement.

 

[Gnarwhal]

So Ive been single for the past three years. I am not able to meet new people or engage in relationships in the place I am commited to. So I was wondering about e-dating, because I am generally only out in the community about 3 hours a week its very hard to meet people or even make friends. Would it work? Where do I even go for this type of thing? Dating sites are out of the question because of personal reasons. Any advice would help.

You get out of it what you put it into it, just like any relationship.

I know people who've had success and I know people who can't even get off the ground with it. Me personally, I would advise more against long-distance relationships than I would online dating. Use it if you want, see if you find someone you match well with nearby, but keep the range close. It doesn't matter if you met online or through more conventional means, dating long distance rarely works out. I speak from personal experience.

 

[Srom]

It works for some people and others not so much. I've tried different Christian dating site, and even secular ones and all of the girls just simply left me on read. They didn't want to talk to me and if they did they replied to me, and simply haven't logged in forever.

 

[Niels]

It's another way to meet people. Whether it will work for you depends on whether compatible women happen to be using the same service.

 

[yam]

How about you try CF singles .

 

[blackribbon]

How about you try CF singles .

CF singles isn't a dating service or about dating. It is a way to make some online friends though.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

How about you try CF singles .

Cf is a bit more complicated than a dating site because you don't know who here is interested in a relationship or not. Where as on a dating site everyone knows why everyone is there. I don't think it would be a bad idea for CF to actually make it a more straightforward process for people on CF looking for a relationship because I believe there are some really high quality people here, higher quality than you would ever find on a dating site. The only way I think it could be done if there was some sort of sister site but I wouldn't count on that happening.

I was able to enter a relationship with someone on here but the process is quite cumbersome and you would first need to spend enough time here for something to even possibly occur. Assuming you do, most people aren't interested in a long distance relationship. You have to beat a lot of odds for it to work. It can be done but not something I would ever recommend due to the complexity of it all.