Do you think you have the ability to break someone's heart?

[Stanfi]

This is a question that popped into my head last week while I was traveling. I'm not sure if I can explain it correctly or not. I'm sure that each one of us have experienced some sort of heart break at one time or another. However, when you think of yourself, Do you see yourself as somebody who could break someone elses heart? Do you see yourself as a person that someone of the opposite sex would be attracted to you and easily care about you. Then when the parting of ways came about, you would leave them heart broken?

I guess this is a question of how you look at yourself. Personally, I have never seen myself as a "catch", and someone that would be considered a heartbreaker.

Any thoughts on this one?

 

[ps34_18]

I'm with you on that one. I have a really hard time seeing anyone falling for me, hence, I have a really hard time seeing anyone having their heart broken over me. Sometimes it feels like I'm doomed to be the one whose heart is getting broken. Maybe one of these days I'll finally figure out how to keep myself from getting too emotionally involved in my relationships...

 

[SAPguy]

It doesn't matter how you see yourself. If someone else is totally into you and it gets called off, they are going to be upset, plain and simple.

 

[desi]

It doesn't matter how you see yourself. If someone else is totally into you and it gets called off, they are going to be upset, plain and simple.

True. I'm not a good catch to look at but I've got skills which I try to avoid using for obvious reasons if you've read many of my posts you'd know why. With my meh looks they never see me coming but when I leave it is often hard for them. How you impact other's lives and how important they see you in their lives are what determine your impact on them/break their heart.

 

[Super Gnat]

I think I could solely based on the fact that I'm a bit of a flirt and a committment-phobe. If a guy *did* like me, my first impulse would be to string him along. That's not something I'm proud of, and since I became aware of it it's something I've consciously fought against.

 

[Hewitt]

It's very possible for anyone.

 

[wvmtnkid]

I think SAPguy nailed the issue. Attraction is a funny thing. Sometimes you never know what is going to attract you to someone. We are all attracted to people based on different things. For some it may be looks, it may be personality, and for some it may be money, wealth or power. Whatever the reasons, if those feelings are not returned, than you have the potential to be a heart-breaker. Maybe not intentionally. I hope no one sets out on purpose to break people's hearts (even though I know some I think that do!).I guess it really isn't how you see yourself, but how you handle yourself and the feelings of others. You can let someone down, hopefully without breaking their hearts. Causing disappointment, probably, but not out and out breaking there hearts.

 

[Donny_B]

Another way of putting what has already been said, we probably break a lot of hearts without even realizing it.

 

[pinPoint]

you cannot go through life expecting nobody to never let you down. its human nature, but to trust God -- there are no let downs except for Beautyfull Letdowns(you know what i mean).


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[the_man]

However, when you think of yourself, Do you see yourself as somebody who could break someone elses heart? Do you see yourself as a person that someone of the opposite sex would be attracted to you and easily care about you. Then when the parting of ways came about, you would leave them heart broken?

I guess this is a question of how you look at yourself. Personally, I have never seen myself as a "catch", and someone that would be considered a heartbreaker.

Any thoughts on this one?

Unfortunately for me, it's something I've been told and have experienced.

Growing up as a lad, I was not what one would consider as a "catch" These days I'm told that I am. The problem is that since I'm not use to viewing myself as such, I have not been careful with my interactions with the opposite sex. As such I've been ignorant to the feelings that have been developed until it was too late

On one hand, if you are a man/woman after God's own heart, you ARE going to attract people. There is nothing you can do about someone who has a crush from a far, see's you with your significant other and they are heart broken. On the other hand, I would quote a wise friend of mine (paraphrase rather than quote) '...you are a [good] man and an attractive man, women are going to fall for you 15 times easier than they do for others, so you have to be 16 times more careful than others' That is the lesson I've had to learn the hard way.

So, to answer your question, I do believe I have the potential to hurt others in matters of the heart, I've learned to be a lot more careful with such matters. I didn't use to believe when others told me that I was a "catch" but now I do and am accepting the responsibility that comes with such. Please help me God.

 

[cutekid 4 Jesus]

I have been told by 2 guys that i have broken their heart,I know now that one was lying but as for the other one i think he was genuinely hurt and it was so sad to see him cry,ive never made anyone cry before that-well not in that way,and i was not flattered or anything it was horrible.However i think he just had a puppydog love for me and he was probably fine the next week!or at least i hope...
I think pretty much eveyone can 'break someones heart' we must try not to,but sometimes u gotta do what u gotta do.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Yep, broke one about a year ago. I'd like to call her and see how she's been doing, but that would be a bad idea.

 

[ZiSunka]

Sometimes I've felt like only my heart gets broken, and the other person is out partying while I'm crying.

It's probably not true, but it feels like it sometimes.

Sometimes I wonder if any of my ex-boyfriends even remember my name...

Not that I want any of them back. I just feel like I'm so easy to walk away from that they probably don't even think about me after we break up.

 

[esseJ]

I busted one up pretty good in high school, so I know I have it in me...

...attraction is a very subjective thing...ya never know who's going to like what.

I think we all have it in us to be a heart-breaker...the question is, how to not get caught in a situation where someone gets a broken heart...yeh, yeh, I know that sometimes it can't be helped...

 

[Stanfi]

Well, I think I may have just broke someone's heart. I at least let her down and disspointed her. This was kind of a first for me. Well, the first time that I have ever been aware that I hurt someone else. No, it not feel good. I think being the purpatrator almost felt worse than being the victim. When you are the victim, there is nothing you can do about it, it's out of your hands. However having the power to make someone's day, or break there heart is unsettling. I really didn't enjoy it. It felt weird having someone else show a genuine intrest in me, but I just did reciprocate the same for them. I often wonder if I will find a situation like this where feelings are mutual? However, I felt that by being honest with the girl as this point would do less damage than later. She is looking for something very serious in her life, and I just wasn't intrested in being that person.

Pray that she finds what she is searching for.

 

[rach]

I feel exactly the same way Lambslove!!

Sometimes I've felt like only my heart gets broken, and the other person is out partying while I'm crying.

It's probably not true, but it feels like it sometimes.

Sometimes I wonder if any of my ex-boyfriends even remember my name...

Not that I want any of them back. I just feel like I'm so easy to walk away from that they probably don't even think about me after we break up.

 

[wvmtnkid]

Well, I think I may have just broke someone's heart. I at least let her down and disspointed her. This was kind of a first for me. Well, the first time that I have ever been aware that I hurt someone else. No, it not feel good. I think being the purpatrator almost felt worse than being the victim. When you are the victim, there is nothing you can do about it, it's out of your hands. However having the power to make someone's day, or break there heart is unsettling. I really didn't enjoy it. It felt weird having someone else show a genuine intrest in me, but I just did reciprocate the same for them. I often wonder if I will find a situation like this where feelings are mutual? However, I felt that by being honest with the girl as this point would do less damage than later. She is looking for something very serious in her life, and I just wasn't intrested in being that person.

Pray that she finds what she is searching for.

I'm sorry Mrstace. Sometimes handling situations in the way we know is right just isn't fun, is it? But you did the right thing. If you had no romantic feelings for her, it is better to let that be known than let her go on thinking she had a chance only to discover at a later time that she, in reality, did not. Trust me, been there, done that. But just because there aren't romantic feelings involved, doesn't mean you can't be friends. Unless, that would be too akward. You may feel bad now, but at least you know you handled things better this go around and you won't have to feel guilty later on. Stinks to grow up, doesn't it?

 

[wvmtnkid]

Sometimes I've felt like only my heart gets broken, and the other person is out partying while I'm crying.

It's probably not true, but it feels like it sometimes.

Sometimes I wonder if any of my ex-boyfriends even remember my name...

Not that I want any of them back. I just feel like I'm so easy to walk away from that they probably don't even think about me after we break up.

I understand exactly where you are coming from, lambslove. I have felt is if there is a choice to be made, I always seem to be the one who comes in second or third or tenth. I have made the comment to myself before I must be easy to walk away from. Or at least they don't seem to have any qualms in doing so. But than one day I decided that they just didn't really know what they were losing out on. And it was truly their loss. Not that I think I am Ms. America or something, but I am not chopped liver either!

 

[hotarugari]

Without over simplifying, is really comes down to having the ability to do something stupid.

I mean if you've ever done something stupid, then you can break someone's heart. Just that easy.

 

[hotknikkels]

hotarugari, yep, it can be that simple. I am learning!