Do you pray with your spouse?

[desmalia]

I've read some stats on this issue and wanted to do a poll to see if they're similar to the book I was reading.

DH and I say grace together and pray together over the big things, but are still working on establishing a regular prayer time together.

 

[jessesgirl]

Hubby and I pray together daily. We do our devotions together and pray, we say grace, and we pray whenever one of us needs to. I woke him up @ 130 this morning to pray with me, he prayed with me and went back to sleep. We never question each other when the other asks to pray. We have a really great relationship prayer-wise, we are definitely blessed!

 

[JulySheMustFly]

If I could change anything about my marriage, this would be it. I don't feel like I can ask my Christian husband to pray for me. I know he does as he has admitted but I don't feel like I can say, "I'm struggling today. Could you pray for me?"
I continue to pray that we will get their someday. It is one thing I dont' understand.

 

[bliz]

We have tried from time to time, but we both find it disruptive to have the other righ there when we are praying. When with other people, our focus can stay on God, but with each other, we each have to admit we get distracted and worry more about what the other is praying or thinking that we should or want to.

We both pray, and talk about what we are praying about, but doing it together has not worked for us.

 

[desmalia]

Jessesgirl, that is so great! Would you mind sharing how you got into the habit of doing it and what it's like?

I totally understand how hard it is to pray together. It's so intimate that it's almost scary at times. But know it's a really important aspect of the Christian marriage. The book I've been reading is called "Praying with the One you Love" by Art Hunt. It's a beautiful book, honest, deep, and practical. DH isn't much for reading, but I'm hoping he'll get into this one. You can even use each chapter as a devotional time together.

 

[bleek1977]

I have never heard my wife pray. We pray together sometimes and I always lead but I never heard her pray. We definitely need to change that

 

[Assisi]

I voted daily. We aren't always successful in praying together everyday, sometimes we miss a day.

We have a private devotion which we pray together every evening after tea. It was easy to fall into this habit because it's a family tradition, so we were used to praying together as a family when we were at home.

I don't know what we'll do when we have kids though, because our current practise will turn into family prayer, we're going to need something more for just the two of us. We also often have spontaneous prayer together. We started doing this when we were betrothed. It's my favourite type of prayer together. Also, I say the 'Angelus' (a formal prayer about the incarnation of Christ) every day at midday and 6pm, and on weekends my husband says it with me.

 

[Chan1976]

We pray together every night before we sleep.

 

[GodrockDJ]

Jessesgirl, that is so great! Would you mind sharing how you got into the habit of doing it and what it's like?

I totally understand how hard it is to pray together. It's so intimate that it's almost scary at times. But know it's a really important aspect of the Christian marriage. The book I've been reading is called "Praying with the One you Love" by Art Hunt. It's a beautiful book, honest, deep, and practical. DH isn't much for reading, but I'm hoping he'll get into this one. You can even use each chapter as a devotional time together.

Yes I'd also love to hear how you established this habit!

In addition to grace I'd say we pray together around once a week. We know we need to improve that but knowing is much easier than doing.

 

[HeatherJay]

We do pray together often, but not daily at any sort of scheduled time. We say grace together and as a family whenever we sit down at the table or go out to eat (several times a week)...but we're not so good about saying grace whenever we don't all get to sit down together and end up eating at different times. We also pray together at church (we're at church for morning service, Sunday School, and evening service on Sundays, Tuesday nights for Bible Study, and Wednesday nights) and we go together to the altar to pray nearly every Sunday during service. Even though we're not always praying outloud at the altar, we are always holding hands, and it's so comforting to me to be joined together during that time.

Whenever we're praying, however we're praying, we're holding hands or otherwise touching each other...I find a lot of comfort and strength in that small gesture.

All that said, we don't have a daily routine of prayer...and that's definitely something we could improve upon.

 

[mittmitt]

I can't even get my husband to go to church with me. He used to but I don't know what happened or why he won't. Everytime I ask him if he wants to go he acts like it aggervates him that I asked.

 

[oliveplants]

We have family "Bible time" every evening; when DH isn't working in the evening he leads it, when he is working I do it myself.

We were just talking yesterday that we need to have another time, too, where we can perhaps go more in depth.

 

[jessesgirl]

Jessesgirl, that is so great! Would you mind sharing how you got into the habit of doing it and what it's like?

I totally understand how hard it is to pray together. It's so intimate that it's almost scary at times. But know it's a really important aspect of the Christian marriage. The book I've been reading is called "Praying with the One you Love" by Art Hunt. It's a beautiful book, honest, deep, and practical. DH isn't much for reading, but I'm hoping he'll get into this one. You can even use each chapter as a devotional time together.

Well, I can't really tell you how we got started...I just know that even when we were dating, we prayed together. It was always a great way to end our days together. I guess it really helped that we met at church and stayed involved. We also made clear from the beginnin that we wanted a Christ-centered relationship above anything else. We have been married almosta year and we have been through SO MUCH. We both know that the ONLY way we have made it through everything is with God's help and our willingness to humble ourselves before him as a couple. We have gone through all kinds of devotionals together...Five Love Languages, The Marriage Bible, The Couple's Bible...
Nothing special that we did, really, we just made it a priority. In return, God has blessed our marriage SO MUCH!

 

[DamagedNothing]

My husband and I had a daily devotions/prayer routine, but it's gradually been replaced by television. We gotta work on that.

 

[trackgurl521]

This is one thing we are really wanting to establish on a consistant basis. We started to get in the habit of praying together more often and then he left on deployment, but when he gets back it is something we really want to do, I'm so excited!

 

[ImaginaryVoyager]

Occasionally, but it varies. Probably 2-3 times a week. It used to be pretty close to daily, but with everybody's wildly different schedules, we've let it slide quite a bit, not that that is a valid excuse, but it does make it harder.

 

[icbeckyc]

We say grace at dinner but that is it. I would love to pray with him more, but he's not comfortable with it. Actually right now I am not sure what he is feeling in reguards to church and God. I think he may be a little lost. I can barely drag him to church these days I told him he has to go this week, kids are doing their Christmas play. He will go on Christmas Eve, but I don't know if I can make him go back for the evening service. Oh I hope so.

 

[Catholic Wife]

Because of our work schedules, we don't have the opportunity to pray together daily. We do, however, say grace before all meals, pray over "big" things, and make it a point to pray the Rosary together at least once a week. This is our minimum; sometimes we have more time to pray together.

 

[seamonster]

We pray together daily before bed and before one of us leaves the house.

 

[Beth1231]

Well, my husband's personal mentor at the time of our dating told dh that we shouldn't pray together until we're married because it would bring us together emotionally prematurely and make sexual tempation worse. Terrible advice!
Our marriage suffered on the prayer end (unless we were in big trouble or saying grace) for the first year. Now at nearly two years, we pray together a few times a week, always holding each other or at least holding hands. I love it. I wish it was a bit more, actually.