Do you look different...in your mind?

[memoriesbymichelle]

You know how some people have a warped view of themselves like people with anorexia that think they are fat when they don't even weigh 100 pounds? Well my view of myself, well let me clarify first of all, I'm not fishing for compliments or encouragements or anything of that sort. I just realized that my view of myself is kinda warped. I mean I truly am unhappy about not being able to maintain or attain the weight that I want, so in that respect I'm not happy with my looks. But the other side of that is that when I look in the mirror I don't think I'm unattractive and I think to myself, hey you don't look too bad for a 50+ year old. But then.....I see myself in a picture? and I go What the???? I AM NOT attractive and I don't get it. The picture I have in my mind of how I look is actually alot better than it is in actuality. Does this make ANY sense?

 

[Mydnyte]

Yeah it makes sense. I don't really like the way I look. I need to lose weight but for a month now I've been working very hard at it. I hate pictures of me, there's very few pictures of me I've ever liked. Maybe after a few more months of working out, I'll have my weight where I want it and will have a better opinion of myself.

 

[dayhiker]

I need to lose over 10lbs myself. But don't forget some people just look better in pictures than others do. So a picture doesn't have the final in how we look.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Well I never have really liked pictures of me, but looking back I don't think I look so bad. Then when I think of memories, I would like my kids to have me in pictures (and friends) just for that reason, so I have tried to overcome caring that I don't like myself in pictures. But this is MORE than that. I'm saying when I look in the mirror I don't see ugly necessarily, but when I take a picture I DO! I look at it and go who IS THAT? How can my minds eye be so skewed and I don't really see a remedy for it.

 

[Inkachu]

Yes!!! I "feel" much better-looking than I really am lol. I go through life pretty confident and secure until I walk past a big window or a mirror. Then I'm like "Dang...is that what people are really seeing? Ewww..."

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Yes!!! I "feel" much better-looking than I really am lol. I go through life pretty confident and secure until I walk past a big window or a mirror. Then I'm like "Dang...is that what people are really seeing? Ewww..."

Exactly what I think LOL. Especially when I see myself in pictures. Oh well what can I do? I just pray that when I get my immortal body I get the one I've always wanted. The pretty one with Dyan Cannon hair and cute figure (even though it won't matter then lol)

 

[dayhiker]

MbM is going to be hot in her resurrected Body!

OK, ya, sometimes I don't think I look that good either. I've accepted that I might look better than I thought the last couple of years. When I was young I had very feel women chasing me, so I wasn't one of the hulks. But My GF really thinks I'm fine now... so I accept her evaluation. After all she has such good taste! LOL

I think the important thing is to learn to tell a good story, to be able to compliment people. A loving attitude and a caring heart will make anyone look 50% prettier than they would be without those qualities.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Thanks Dayhiker I sure hope so!

 

[josephbonello]

look up 'photogenic' on wikipedia. seriously, people look different in real life than in pictures! so don't worry

 

[Jenster]

I think the important thing is to learn to tell a good story, to be able to compliment people. A loving attitude and a caring heart will make anyone look 50% prettier than they would be without those qualities.

Amen to that!

look up 'photogenic' on wikipedia. seriously, people look different in real life than in pictures! so don't worry

Yeah, I agree about that. The other thing is, when I see myself, I'm in a mirror and I'm fairly close up. I honestly look different closer up than farther away because the shape of my eyes and my mouth stand out more. From afar, there are all the proportions and things with hair, face shape, that factor in as well.

But Michelle, to your question, I do tend to think of myself as younger looking than I appear in photos. I'm getting fine wrinkle lines on my face now, and I've wondered where in the heck THEY came from all of a sudden! Then there's my hair, which is needing more help to stay "full" than it used to. LOL!

 

[peacechild4]

It depends on what day it is.. and what has been happening.. LOL.. some days.. I am cheery and my hair is doing the right things.. lol.. and I don't know.. I feel better inside which seems to make me look better on the outside.. spring in my step.. glow on my cheeks.. other days I avoid mirrors.. everything is older.. and well I see the age in me.. the spots..

I think attitude makes a big difference..

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

well again, I always look thinner in my mind than I actually am and that is a perception problem isn't it?

 

[hope4today]

Yes!!! I "feel" much better-looking than I really am lol. I go through life pretty confident and secure until I walk past a big window or a mirror. Then I'm like "Dang...is that what people are really seeing? Ewww..."

That is me exactly!! How you been spying in my head??

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

"whew!" Glad I'm not the ONLY one!

 

[The Beautiful Heresy]

Yes, in my mind I am much thinner until I pass a mirror and reality kicks in..

 

[The Beautiful Heresy]

"whew!" Glad I'm not the ONLY one!

You? I thought I was the only one..

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Yes, in my mind I am much thinner until I pass a mirror and reality kicks in..

Personally I think there is a mirror conspiracy and they(the mirrors) make us THINK we look fat because they are evil. Remember "mirror mirror on the wall?" LIARS all of them! Down with mirrors! Whose with me?

 

[The Beautiful Heresy]

Personally I think there is a mirror conspiracy and they(the mirrors) make us THINK we look fat because they are evil. Remember "mirror mirror on the wall?" LIARS all of them! Down with mirrors! Whose with me?

I am with you, "Down with Mirrors". Something evil is going on with the mirrors, I believe they have ganged up on us somehow--Yeah a "conspiracy" sounds jut like it..

I feel about 20 pounds thinner than I actually am..

 

[exitstageright]

You know how some people have a warped view of themselves like people with anorexia that think they are fat when they don't even weigh 100 pounds? Well my view of myself, well let me clarify first of all, I'm not fishing for compliments or encouragements or anything of that sort. I just realized that my view of myself is kinda warped. I mean I truly am unhappy about not being able to maintain or attain the weight that I want, so in that respect I'm not happy with my looks. But the other side of that is that when I look in the mirror I don't think I'm unattractive and I think to myself, hey you don't look too bad for a 50+ year old. But then.....I see myself in a picture? and I go What the???? I AM NOT attractive and I don't get it. The picture I have in my mind of how I look is actually alot better than it is in actuality. Does this make ANY sense?

Well,All cameras distort.A tv camera,with the wide angle lens, may make a person appear 20-40 pounds heavier than they are in real life.I hear this all the time at football games.People who go to a game for the first time tell me that the field,the stadium,and the players look bigger on tv. Hope this cheers you up.

 

[peacechild4]

I feel much younger then I am...