Do you hold grudges????

[ydouxist]

Towards other people.
Consciously or subconsciously.
Whether it's racial,social,cultural,economical ect.
I did and I didn't even realize it.

 

[heartnsoul]

When I was in my younger years, I held grudges more often. Now, I immediately hold up that person in prayer. Whoever wronged me, I submit that person in prayer and ask God to intervene and take care of the problem. Also, because I choose to love God daily, I also choose not to dwell on past and unpleasant memories. I choose to focus my mind, heart and thoughts on the goodness of life, blessings and all the positive people/things. This way, I don't get caught up in destructive or negative thinking. Also, by daily choosing a positive, cheerful mindset, I leave no room for grudge holding. So as quickly as negativity comes my way sometimes, I quickly let them go...for if I choose to hold on to negative events/people, my spirit will be dragged down.

Nurturing our Spirit is important. It keeps us centered on God and our hearts humble with gratitude and love. May we seek God to replace our grudges with His joy. God bless.

 

[bondsdw]

I'm a lot better about it than I used to be, but every now and then I will catch myself holding one. I usually feel stupid when I realize it since they will be over the most trivial and stupid things. But overall, I'm pretty good about forgiving and forgetting.

 

[VivDaGurl]

Hhhmm.....this is a tough question for me and something that I really should pray about it seriously. Yes, I do hold grudges towards other people especially those people who had hurt me, people who reject me badly, people who said things that irritate me and so on. Usually, when such things happen, I tend to move myself away from the person and do not want to go near the person. I know this is bad.....

 

[WeakButHopeful]

Sadly, I do hold grudges. It is a part of my self I need to surrender to God, to become more self-less. I know that I am an insecure individual, and that is what the grudges spring from. But that is not an excuse, it is all the more reason for me to work hard to understand the eternal security I can have in Jesus Christ and that nobody can really hurt me unless I take my eyes off Him and look down at the water I'm standing on. Regardless of the chronological years I've racked up, I am still a newbie Christian in this area. Tomorrow morning when I drive to work in rush hour traffic, or walk in and see the boss of my department, or the co-worker who feels I talk too much and work on only what I feel like, I need to put into practice what I said a few sentences back. I pray in Jesus' name that I make the right choices and let my old self die a little each time I do.

 

[whatseekye]

Unfortunately, I think I unconsciously do. I thought I was forgiving people but sometimes I remember some of the things they have done to me, and then I feel just as upset and angry as when it first happened. I pray about this a lot. I would love nothing more than to learn to be at peace about my relations with people. I suspect it boils down to a distrust of God's provision for me and that God will deal with everyone in his own time.

 

[Evie]

Towards other people.
Consciously or subconsciously.
Whether it's racial,social,cultural,economical ect.
I did and I didn't even realize it.

a few years back,I was hurt so deeply by someone that I thought was the greatest person alive. This person hurt me beyond measure,grudges? Yeah,I feel it's human,but God does not want us to. He says to forgive,Okay,I forgave,but I struggle with the whole forgetting part. I have never really held a grudge until then.

 

[BattleAxe]

I had to reply to this question because I am guilty of doing this. I won't even justify it by saying 'not often' or anything like that because one time is deadly. I am working hard to forgive others and remember all the things God forgave me for and is still loving me.
Someone said it is only human and I agree. It is hard to have people step all over you in big and small ways and not want to get revenge or hold it against them. But that is what Jesus asked us to do. Pray for those who spitefully use us. It is a challenge and I find myself more and more chastising myself and the Holy Spirit correcting me when I find myself dwelling on some slight someone did to me.
I liked this post because it was a reminder for me today to stay on task and not hold grudges and take every little slight so personal.

 

[angelwind]

When I was in my younger years, I held grudges more often. Now, I immediately hold up that person in prayer. Whoever wronged me, I submit that person in prayer and ask God to intervene and take care of the problem. Also, because I choose to love God daily, I also choose not to dwell on past and unpleasant memories. I choose to focus my mind, heart and thoughts on the goodness of life, blessings and all the positive people/things. This way, I don't get caught up in destructive or negative thinking. Also, by daily choosing a positive, cheerful mindset, I leave no room for grudge holding. So as quickly as negativity comes my way sometimes, I quickly let them go...for if I choose to hold on to negative events/people, my spirit will be dragged down.

Nurturing our Spirit is important. It keeps us centered on God and our hearts humble with gratitude and love. May we seek God to replace our grudges with His joy. God bless.

I need to do this more too.

 

[BlessedVegan]

I admit it, I do. I think everyone does, even if it's unconscious.

 

[Laurel Crowned]

I stumbled across this thread today of all days! I was battling with resentment on more than one front. Resent often turns into a driving force for me and many of my negative/ungodly actions (unfortunately) are a result of grudges/resentments. Mostly, my grudges center on people who have hurt or wronged me. If they say that they are sorry... I am quick to forgive. It's those people who hurt me and then act like nothing was wrong or that they were justified in hurting me... those are the people I hold grudges against. I pray for them. I pray for my attitude... but the hurt doesn't always go away quickly and the more I think about what happened the more bitter and resentful I become and the grudge becomes a huge wall. I hate that this is a part of my personality and I pray about it daily.

 

[angelwind]

I stumbled across this thread today of all days! I was battling with resentment on more than one front. Resent often turns into a driving force for me and many of my negative/ungodly actions (unfortunately) are a result of grudges/resentments. Mostly, my grudges center on people who have hurt or wronged me. If they say that they are sorry... I am quick to forgive. It's those people who hurt me and then act like nothing was wrong or that they were justified in hurting me... those are the people I hold grudges against. I pray for them. I pray for my attitude... but the hurt doesn't always go away quickly and the more I think about what happened the more bitter and resentful I become and the grudge becomes a huge wall. I hate that this is a part of my personality and I pray about it daily.

I pray for you Laurel Crowned...I pray the Lord will open a stream of healing rivers to your heart...washing the deep hurts of the past and present away. He is able to heal these things...I know from my own experience.

 

[loves god]

Im a terrible grudge holder, unless the person apologises and ask forgivesness i can hold a grudge for eternity, its not my fault its just the way i am! wink

 

[ydouxist]

Im a terrible grudge holder, unless the person apologises and ask forgivesness i can hold a grudge for eternity, its not my fault its just the way i am! wink

I agree, that comes naturally. We can even justify it most of the time.
If we love those who love us what credit is that? Even the heathen do that.

btw you might want to look in Proverbs concerning a wink.

 

[Peter]

Yeah, at times.