Some people think you have to have a ring before you can tell anyone that you are getting married. Is that true? I am in that situation right now actually. Me and my boyfriend have talked about getting marriend for a while now and we are starting to tell friends....however....i dont have a ring yet. I am fine with that, the wait is well worth itand i am very excited, however why does everyone EXPECT to see a ring?
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Do you have to have a ring?
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Beautiful Fireball
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For some reason the ring shows people you aren't just talking about it and that you're serious. My fiance and I told my family our plans to get married this April before I got the ring. They kinda brushed it off and thought I wasn't that serious, the ring showed them that we were very serious about it.
I don't think a ring is necessary and if you and your bf can't afford one or could use the money for something more useful then why not? It will make people take you guys less seriously, but does it really matter?
I don't think a ring is necessary and if you and your bf can't afford one or could use the money for something more useful then why not? It will make people take you guys less seriously, but does it really matter?
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He can afford it but he is waiting for the "right time". I guess my main question was, why is a ring the most important thing?
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Beautiful Fireball
Tomorrow is another day
My only guess is that its a physical representation of how serious you guys are. People figure if a guy is willing to spend a good amount of money on a ring then he is serious about the relationship. It sounds kinda dumb, but thats my best guess.
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peanutbutter12
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Lynn has the right of it. A ring is more than a piece of jewelry, it's a symbol of commitment, love, honour, fidelity, and eternity; much like you will probably hear at your own wedding about the purpose of a wedding ring.
The question I ask is when will be the right time? You both are already telling people, so the right time seems to be, well... now.
The question I ask is when will be the right time? You both are already telling people, so the right time seems to be, well... now.
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Coconut12
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For some reason the ring makes it real to everyone. Have you started planning a wedding or are you waiting for the ring? I think people can be engaged without a ring, but I think it is so cute that he waiting for the right time, that means he wants it to be really special for the two of you. My bf and I have talked about getting married and we have planned a lot for what we want our wedding day to be like, but I will not set a date or really start planning until we are engaged with a ring!
My bf also is waiting for the right time, I know he wants to plan everything just right and have it be the most special moment for us! I was watching some love stories today - http://www.youtube.com/user/greatestlovestories and thought they were all so cute! Then of course my mind started running and I was hoping he would enter the will you marry me contest! If he won that then so many of the expenses with the wedding would be taken care of with their prizes. A girl can dream
Isn't that a romantic contest idea though? I love it!
My bf also is waiting for the right time, I know he wants to plan everything just right and have it be the most special moment for us! I was watching some love stories today - http://www.youtube.com/user/greatestlovestories and thought they were all so cute! Then of course my mind started running and I was hoping he would enter the will you marry me contest! If he won that then so many of the expenses with the wedding would be taken care of with their prizes. A girl can dream
Isn't that a romantic contest idea though? I love it!
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i think a ring is just exciting and i love wearing mine it shows that some one loves me and wants me.
the ring doesnt mean every thing tho. my friend never had a ring they just desided to get married they didnt class them selfs as engaged.
the ring doe not need to be expensive. me and kev both have rings. and his cost £15 pounds ( thats just under $30 (american) i think) i bought his because the design was the same as mine its not a ring he is going to wear forever but he know that i gave it to him because i want to spend the rest of my life with him.
the ring doesnt mean every thing tho. my friend never had a ring they just desided to get married they didnt class them selfs as engaged.
the ring doe not need to be expensive. me and kev both have rings. and his cost £15 pounds ( thats just under $30 (american) i think) i bought his because the design was the same as mine its not a ring he is going to wear forever but he know that i gave it to him because i want to spend the rest of my life with him.
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Wow, thank you all for all the different point of views. We are both ready to tell people and really excited. I think he is really wanting to suprise me....anyway, thank you for sharing your thoughts with me!
BFN
God Bless
BFN
God Bless
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HisLittleHazelnut
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I didn't have my ring for a month after I got engaged. Of course, since we got engaged not even a month after we started dating he didn't have time to look around.
Then we got a steal off of E-Bay.
Mine's genuine white gold and sapphire, we got it for $26.
Then we got a steal off of E-Bay.
Mine's genuine white gold and sapphire, we got it for $26.
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Shannie
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I'm not engaged but my b/f and I discuss getting married and have a rough timeline of when we expect it to happen, etc. I wouldn't say I am engaged though until I'm officially proposed to. I think if you get an official proposal (or give one ) then you could say you are engaged without a ring. But to me planning on being married and actually being engaged are different things.
) then you could say you are engaged without a ring. But to me planning on being married and actually being engaged are different things.
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k450ofu3k-gh-5ipe
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By default, because a ring is so customary in our culture, I'd say yes. But if the woman doesn't want a ring, I don't see any reason why the couple would have to get one. My friend's mom was so anti ring back in the day when she got engaged to her future husband that she told him to not get her a ring. Basically, do whatever floats the future wife's boat.
My fiance's ring scratches me--it hurts.
My fiance's ring scratches me--it hurts
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