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I was raped and lately I've been wondering if it would have been better that he just killed me, because of all the emotional stuff that I have had to deal with. It hurts.
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While I can't explain why this happened to you, I'm confident that God has a good outcome planned from the evil attack you experienced. When we turn to Him with our hurt and anguish, He takes the tragic events of our lives and forges them into tools to help us, and for us to help others. Yes, it's painful, and sometimes it seems the world holds only darkness for us,
but placing yourself in His hands is the best way back to wholeness and strength.
I hope you're getting counseling or therapy also, to verbalize and work through the inevitable issues.
And I will pray for you - prayer is the strongest agent for beneficial change in the world.
but placing yourself in His hands is the best way back to wholeness and strength.
I hope you're getting counseling or therapy also, to verbalize and work through the inevitable issues.
And I will pray for you - prayer is the strongest agent for beneficial change in the world.
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DEAR ONE,
i know that i cannot begin to comprehend all the many facets of the terrible trauma created by rape. May God bless, keep, protect, and heal you from the effects of what you have been through!
My question is, why do you seem to be trying to deal with the effects of this horrible event by yourself?--i.e., "all the emotional stuff that I have had to deal with."
God has promised us healing, comfort, and peace beyond all understanding if we will just turn the sources of our suffering over to Him and allow Him to deal with them in the manner He knows best for us. He has also promised that He will bring good out of the most evil occurrences if we will just trust Him enough to allow Him to do so. i pray that you will do so if you haven't already!
Lastly, have you checked out:
Over the Rainbow: Helpful Links for Rape Survivors
Perhaps you will find some useful tools there.
MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU, MAY HE PROTECT AND HEAL YOU, MAY HIS GLORIOUS FACE ALWAYS SHINE UPON YOU AND KEEP THE DARKNESS AT BAY!
ABBA'S FOOL,ephraim
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Please hang in there. The words you've posted under your username are true - God is not finished with you yet.
I'm praying for you.
Love from a sister in Christ,
Jess
I'm praying for you.
Love from a sister in Christ,
Jess
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I am in therapy and working through things. I think I have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder because of what happened and I often have flashbacks and panic attacks, and it's just hard right now, because it makes you feel really weak.
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Praying for you right now. Please hang in there, and keep staying strong for Him.
Love and e-hugs from a sister in Christ,
Jess
Love and e-hugs from a sister in Christ,
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Thanks for praying for me. I felt like I didn't matter yesterday. I didn't want to live.
Thanks for the hugs.
Heidi
Thanks for the hugs.
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So sorry to hear that. Please know that you matter SO much to God, every day.
Sending you more prayers and hugs,
Jess
Sending you more prayers and hugs,
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Heidi, I understand - I have often felt that way too. It's hard to remind ourselves that we are not supposed to be ruled by our feelings (or by anything other than God) when our feelings are so overwhelming. Even when you feel weak, remember that you are actually strong - you are a survivor. And we know that God is close to the broken-hearted, so He is close to you now.
I've found that sometimes writing things out can be helpful - whether you share them with anyone or not - maybe that's something you can try when you're feeling very badly?
Love in Christ,
Jess
I've found that sometimes writing things out can be helpful - whether you share them with anyone or not - maybe that's something you can try when you're feeling very badly?
Love in Christ,
Jess
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Hi Heidi! Last night I read an about how to deal with grief/negative feelings. It basically said to take some time each day to write out what you are feeling and let yourself cry/feel badly. Then when you're finished, do something fun/light to distract yourself. (The point being that we need to express our feelings, but if we get stuck in dwelling on them that can be destructive.) I tried this last night - wrote a letter which I will not ever send and cried quite a bit, then youtubed one of my favorite sitcoms which made me laugh a lot - and I did feel better afterward. (Crying, by itself, rarely makes me feel better.) It was nice to feel a balance between not repressing and not dwelling. 
I'm praying for you girl!
Love in Christ,
Jess
I'm praying for you girl!
Love in Christ,
Jess
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