Do you ever wish

[LovesOfMyLife]

You didn't have kids? I NEVER DO!! A friend said to me "Man, sometimes I wish I didn't have my kids" and I thought....WHY?????? I LOVE MY SON and I can't imagine life without him. Am I in the minority? Or is it just because he's still so little??

 

[~Mrs. A2J~]

I have never wished I had never had my daughter but I have wished for 5 minutes peace when she's having "one of those days". Maybe that's how your friend meant it? Not that she regrets having her kids but that maybe she just wishes she had some alone time every now and then?

 

[LegacyOfLove]

Well...I have wished from time to time that I could actually have a short break from the kids (like an afternoon to just go to the park and walk, or to the bookstore to read and have a coffee)...but I NEVER wish that I didn't have my kids! I, too, love my children so much that I don't ever want to imagine my life without them in it!

 

[Jenna]

Oh no, I never wish that I didn't have my kiddos. There have been times when I have desperately prayed for just five minutes of quiet though. lol

 

[Redguard]

I would feel empty and worthless without my kid.

 

[LovesOfMyLife]

THat is how I feel, my son completes my life. Without him I would be lost. I can only hope that when she said "I REALLY wish that I didn't have kids sometimes" that she was in the middle of "one of those days" but even at that (my son is only 15 mos, granted, but he's still feisty) I would NEVER think I wish he wasn't here. I am glad to know I'm not alone

 

[Jenna]

I won't go so far as to say that my child completes me. I figure that that is my husband's job. However, my child does give me a greater sense of purpose. My husband wants me and needs me, but he doesn't NEED me like our daughter does. I find her to be a great friend, and a wonderful opportunity for my own growth, as well as giving me a chance to invest my education wisely.

 

[Zoomer]

I have wished for a babysitter so I could have some free time. I became a mother at 20, and can hardly remember life before. Being a mother is such a big part of me, that I literally would not know what to do without my children.

 

[okiemommy26]

I understand about wanted time away but I have never regretted having my children. I do not know what I would do without them. I have wished for time away when we have our days but just for some peace and quiet.

 

[selune]

Never wished for that. I think about all the little kids fighting cancer, having other health problems, being abducted, and I thank God every day that, even though I get over frazzled at times, I'm so very thankful that He chose to bless me with them. I can't imagine the heartache that parents go through when a child dies.

 

[PegasusOnFire]

I did, please don't get on me about it, I am going through PPD. There have been days that I just wished that I didn't have my daughter. Though I never will get rid of her, I just love her to much. But when I am at my darkest, I do sometimes wish that she had never been born.

 

[LovesOfMyLife]

Oh Pegasus, nobody should EVER jump on you for that. PPD is a serious SERIOUS disease and not nearly enough is done about it. I thought I was going insane sufferring from Baby Blues after the birth of my son, but it is nothing compared to what I have witnessed friends go through.


My prayers and thoughts are with you, because I KNOW what you are going through is difficult. The Lord Bless You and Keep You.

 

[Diane_Windsor]

You didn't have kids? I NEVER DO!! A friend said to me "Man, sometimes I wish I didn't have my kids" and I thought....WHY?????? I LOVE MY SON and I can't imagine life without him. Am I in the minority? Or is it just because he's still so little??

Dr. Phil had a show on moms who regretted having their children. Here was his advice: Getting Moms to Embrace Motherhood.

I'm not a mom, and this is one of the reasons why. I probably would be one of those moms who would regret having taken that path. I can fully understand why moms (and dads) can regret having children, and I don't want to go there. I take the issue of having children very seriously, and have done much research into parenting, etc.

THat is how I feel, my son completes my life. Without him I would be lost.

I won't go so far as to say that my child completes me. I figure that that is my husband's job.

I think this is the wrong type of thinking. Please don't put this burden on your loved ones-they cannot complete you. IMO, the only Person who can complete us is Jesus! Can I get an AMEN?

Diane

 

[Kiwi]

Maybe what the lady meant was she would like to go back to the time before she had children. Now that I have my girls I love them alot, but there are days when I would like to go back to being free and independent. Of course that is not possible so we get on with our lives, but that is not to say some do not miss those things (especially those of us who not really 'mummy' types). You see all people are gifted in different areas and some women are really gifted in homemaking, and looking after their children and cannot understand why not every mum feels this way. But other women are gifted in other areas that come easy to them (like business, studying etc), so with the kids they have to work harder to do the 'mummy' thing and it is harder for them than those who get real enjoyment from doing mummy stuff. But I do it anyway cause I know it's the best thing for them to have their mummy at home, even if it is not fulfilling for me.

 

[Diane_Windsor]

I think this is the wrong type of thinking. Please don't put this burden on your loved ones-they cannot complete you. IMO, the only Person who can complete us is Jesus! Can I get an AMEN?

AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Katydid]

I think this is the wrong type of thinking. Please don't put this burden on your loved ones-they cannot complete you. IMO, the only Person who can complete us is Jesus! Can I get an AMEN?

I'm sorry, I can't give you an AMEN! though I understand what you are saying, I do disagree. Mainly because of this verse....

paraphrased...

It is not good for man to be alone, I will make him a help meet

THEN HE SAID IT WAS GOOD.

Before I was married, I did not need my husband to complete me. But now, we have become "one flesh". So yes, if something happened to him, I would be very incomplete.

Now, as far as wishing I never had kids, yes, there have been times. Before I had kids, I had a job that I loved. I was paid to play music, which was my life. I had free time, and was able to be selfish. Now I don't feel that way any longer, but I still have days when I do think about it, but I push it out of my mind before I can dwell.

 

[southrnbygrace]

I don't think I've ever wished I didn't have my sons. But I have often thought if I had it to do all over again, knowing what a difficult job parenting has been, I would have chosen to not have children. I have so many moments of self doubt when it comes to my parenting skills it scares me. LOL.....My sons are now almost young men....16 and 13 respectively. They are good, sweet, courteous and kind young men, but like all teenagers they make bad decisions occassionally. I always feel as if I've failed when they do. I know in my head that they are way past the age of accountability but my heart still often feels like I've failed them in some way.

 

[Kiwi]

I don't think I've ever wished I didn't have my sons. But I have often thought if I had it to do all over again, knowing what a difficult job parenting has been, I would have chosen to not have children. I have so many moments of self doubt when it comes to my parenting skills it scares me. LOL.....My sons are now almost young men....16 and 13 respectively. They are good, sweet, courteous and kind young men, but like all teenagers they make bad decisions occassionally. I always feel as if I've failed when they do. I know in my head that they are way past the age of accountability but my heart still often feels like I've failed them in some way.

yeah, that is what I wanted to say

 

[LovesOfMyLife]

I understand, Diane, what you are saying HOWEVER, my family DOES complete me. BUT it is BECAUSE of Jesus that they do so. Because God gave them to me and me to them we complete one another. THat's all I meant by that.