when people respond to all the posts around your's in a thread but ignore your posts??? 
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CF has always been a site that welcomes people from different backgrounds and beliefs to participate in discussion and even debate. That is the nature of its ministry. In view of recent events emotions are running very high. We need to remind people of some basic principles in debating on this site. We need to be civil when we express differences in opinion. No personal attacks. Avoid you, your statements. Don't characterize an entire political party with comparisons to Fascism or Communism or other extreme movements that committed atrocities. CF is not the place for broad brush or blanket statements about groups and political parties. Put the broad brushes and blankets away when you come to CF, better yet, put them in the incinerator. Debate had no place for them. We need to remember that people that commit acts of violence represent themselves or a small extreme faction.
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TexasSky
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I haven't felt that way in a long time, but then, I dont' tend to think about things like that much.when people respond to all the posts around your's in a thread but ignore your posts???
Maybe they don't respond to you because they agree with you.
People tend to respond more often to things they don't agree with, or to things that "almost" say what they would say, but don't QUITE say it.
Maybe you say it the way they would have said it, so they just let your post stand alone as it is.
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J
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Yeah, it depends on the content of the thread. The peeve I have is when I say the same thing as someone else, and I post the opinion first, but people respond to the other person! 
Oh well. I think it's the nature of the Internet. Sometimes all we have the bandwidth for is replying to what immediately grabs us, especially if two or three other people have posted in the interim.
Does this question relate to a particular experience, D?
Oh well. I think it's the nature of the Internet. Sometimes all we have the bandwidth for is replying to what immediately grabs us, especially if two or three other people have posted in the interim. Does this question relate to a particular experience, D?
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FlatpickingJD
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I can address a couple things in the question: first, the answer is yes and, like Jenster said, it's annoying when others respond to other people who say what you did and ignore your post.
Also, I've not answered questions either because my answer has already been given and there's no point in saying ^^ what s/he said. I also may avoid questions if it's getting too close to me and is something that I am not all that comfortable answering in a forum or requires me to own up to things that I don't want to admit to myself.
Also, I've not answered questions either because my answer has already been given and there's no point in saying ^^ what s/he said. I also may avoid questions if it's getting too close to me and is something that I am not all that comfortable answering in a forum or requires me to own up to things that I don't want to admit to myself.
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Yeah, it depends on the content of the thread. The peeve I have is when I say the same thing as someone else, and I post the opinion first, but people respond to the other person!
Does this question relate to a particular experience, D?
I was mostly referring to what you and JD said - about people responding to a thought or opinion that you posted first and yet they respond to someone else...or in the fellowship threads - when you respond to someone and they end up responding to everyone else and ignore your post...or you share a story or something and they respond to a post 5 posts before your's and ignore you...
It's not that big of a deal, it's just that sometimes I want to say HELLO....do you see me here!
Oh and TexasSky - you're probably right - I was just thinking more along the lines of fellowship type threads rather than debate or issue type threads...
Thanks guys...
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ido
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If I don't always respond to something someone has said, it's usually b/c I end up just going with the flow of conversation that has transpired.
I don't tend to take it personally if someone doesn't respond to my posts. I figure if it is that big of a deal for me to know what they think, I'll PM them. lol
I don't tend to take it personally if someone doesn't respond to my posts. I figure if it is that big of a deal for me to know what they think, I'll PM them. lol
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J
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Well, it's a good reminder for all of us, D. It only takes a bit of time and a little more awareness to make sure everyone's been responded to. I always appreciate it when someone "sees" my post, esp. when it's been overlooked.
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FlatpickingJD
Losing the battle with oxalis
My not responding to something someone has said isn't a reflection on that person, it's a reflection on me and the particular question or comment. As I said, sometimes questions or comments hit too close to home and I'm not sure how to answer.
If I've done that to anyone here, I apologize.
If I've done that to anyone here, I apologize.
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Could be that they're working off a slow connection and haven't seen your post when they refer to a post 5 slots up. I know sometimes my service can't keep up with the flow and I'm behind!
Or what they said...
Or what they said...
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ido
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Good point. I know sometimes if I post at the same time as someone else, I don't always see their post until the next time I check the thread.Could be that they're working off a slow connection and haven't seen your post when they refer to a post 5 slots up. I know sometimes my service can't keep up with the flow and I'm behind!
Or what they said...
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Thanks Jen...
flnativegrl - yeah, I'm not really talking about flow of conversation - I was referring to being specifically ignored - I'm sure I'm not explaining it right...
JD - I wasn't trying to point fingers at anyone or anything and didn't mean for you to apologize
It was just something that has happened to me and I was thinking about it and wondered what others thought
Anles - you could be right - it might have something to do with their connection speed.
flnativegrl - yeah, I'm not really talking about flow of conversation - I was referring to being specifically ignored - I'm sure I'm not explaining it right...
JD - I wasn't trying to point fingers at anyone or anything and didn't mean for you to apologize
It was just something that has happened to me and I was thinking about it and wondered what others thoughtAnles - you could be right - it might have something to do with their connection speed.
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FlatpickingJD
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I'm glad, because I really don't want to hurt anyone here. Yes, I know the feeling and that's why I'm not posting as much down below anymore. It's like I'm being specifically excluded - and I hate feeling paranoid - and it's kind of annoying. Some down below do respond, but it seems most don't. ANYway, I do know the feeling and have wondered the same thing myself.
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when people respond to all the posts around your's in a thread but ignore your posts???
i have, but not in this forum. I am registered at many (too many) forums, and there are some in which my posts NEVER get answered. I keep trying for a while, then just stop going. The people oin those forums have 'cliques' and if you aren't one of 'them' you are just posted around!
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HopeFaithLove4u
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i have, but not in this forum. I am registered at many (too many) forums, and there are some in which my posts NEVER get answered. I keep trying for a while, then just stop going. The people oin those forums have 'cliques' and if you aren't one of 'them' you are just posted around!
Yeah, I've experienced that on another forum, as well.....so, I just simply stopped going there. There's a couple different sections on here, that I don't join in either, because I'm of a totally different mindset.
Overall, just keep in mind that your posts are seen and I'm sure nobody is trying to ignore you on purpose.
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You know what I realized this morning...I do this to people and I don't mean to but I do...
I need to realize that if I don't mean to do it then they probably didn't mean it either...but I'm definitely more aware of it now and will try to make sure I acknowledge people!
Chalk this one up to another lesson learned!
I need to realize that if I don't mean to do it then they probably didn't mean it either...but I'm definitely more aware of it now and will try to make sure I acknowledge people!
Chalk this one up to another lesson learned!
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Somebody say something ?!?when people respond to all the posts around your's in a thread but ignore your posts???
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