do we try again?

[RushtonMom]

Is this my time to stop having children? Is God telling me four is enough? Is it biblically okay to have my tubes tied? Is there anyone out there a member of the Quiverfull movement? I am a Christian mother of four children. I also have two in heaven. I am sympathitic to the Quiverfull ideals in that I am pro life and anti contraception. I have three girls and one boy. I really want another boy. When my son was born (third child) I suffered hemoraging from retained placenta. I had to have a d&c. I lost a baby the following year which required another d&c. Then came my current youngest. I began to deliver at 19 weeks. Six weeks of hospitalization and medications and stiches kept her in until 25 weeks. She was a micro preemie weighting one pound seven ounces. It has been a long hard road filled with prayer and answers from the Lord. Her biggest problem is that she has chronic lung disease. A second miscarriage happened last month. My last three pregnancies failed and now that I have a Christian OBGYN I know why. The d&c's caused Asherman's syndrome; massive scarring inside the uterus making embryo implantation nearly impossible. When pregnancy does happen the baby will grow near the bottom of the uterus instead of the top as is normal. The scar tissue also can cause limb detachment or death inutero if it gets wraped around the growing baby. Is this my time to stop having children? Is God telling me four is enough? Is it biblically okay to have my tubes tied? Is anyone out there a member of the Quiverfull movement?

 

[goldenviolet]

bless your heart you are carrying alot on your mind.
i had a tubal-ligation after my fourth child. i had so many complications while pregnant,
that the doctor said it would be in mine and future babies best interrest.
i don't think it's a sin to stop pregnancy after out our bodies say enough.
so by the time you are hungry for more babies,
little jewels called grandchildren... come along.

have you thought of being a hospice home for children in fostercare?

bless you, xo dee

 

[Criada]

I don't see anything wrong with preventing further pregnancies, particularly if they may be unsafe for you or the babies. I know some denominations have an issue with it, but .. you and your doctor know your body best. And you have four children who need you to be healthy and able to care for them... long periods in hospital will be hard for them.

Praying for you, sister, for wisdom and clarity. God bless you.

 

[BelindaP]

I don't see anything wrong with preventing further pregnancies either. But, I do have a suggestion. You might want to post this in OBOB (the Catholic forum). Since they are also against birth control for reasons of faith, they might be able to give you good guidance on when exceptions would be merited.

 

[Assisi]

I'm so sorry for your losses and the hardships you've had with your daughter. I've had two miscarriages too, and it is a hard road to travel.

Can your doctor not remove the adhesions? You say that you want more children, and if it were me I'd try to find a way to make that happen. Personally, I don't believe sickness ever comes from God, even in the form of a sign. I believe that our fallen world means that sickness of many kinds can plague even the most faithful of us and that no sin, or lesson, or message is the cause of miscarriages. Like you, I am prolife and I would not use any kind of contraception. But in my opinion, it's one thing to use something to prevent/cure illness, and quite another to 'prevent/cure' children.