Do These People Have the Wrong Idea?

[fluffy_rainbow]

I think so! Taken from: http://www.cfalive.org/ccourtship3.htm

[font=arial, Arial, Helvetica]A young once woman told me she was going out with a man for three months, but she wasn’t sure what his intentions were. She asked if I thought she should tell him how much she cared for him so as to get things going. I told her “No way. He should start that kind of talk.”[/font][font=arial, Arial, Helvetica]

“Well then, Father, what should I do? We’ve been going out for three months and he’s never even kissed me”[/font][font=arial, Arial, Helvetica]

“Next time you go out, when he takes you home, back up against the door jam and say, ‘You may kiss me if you like.’”[/font]

I'm sorry, but tempting a guy with a kiss while not even in the relationship phase is insane. How can you test a guy as to whether or not he's ready for a marriage-minded relationship with a kiss? "Hey, I'm tired of waiting to see if you'll ask me out, slowpoke. Now pucker up!"

 

[Dr. Holly]

Wow! I'm somewhat appalled at this advice. Seriously - is this from a pastor? If so, I will keep my mouth shut because I could say things but I would be judging & I choose not to.

The whole idea of using a kiss to kick-start a relationship is unreal. What ever happened to spiritual connection ordained by God? You would think a man of God would uphold that. I guess I am wrong.

Do I think they have the wrong idea? Absolutely. But I guess I'm in no place to say one way or the other I'll just give my opinion as I see it.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

That seems to illustrate her intentions rather than his.
But it would definitely dispel any worries about whether or not he should kiss her. That takes the ol' shaky knees right out of the picture.

 

[Tuffguy]

I couldn't imagine dating for 3 months w/o a kiss. That would be kinda nuts for me.

 

[InTheFlame]

Wow - so a chat over coffee and an honest question like, 'where do you want this relationship to go?' is completely out of the question? To me all that inviting a kiss does to work things out is to work out whether he wants to kiss you... *blink*

 

[invisiblebabe]

Some people do believe in dating without any physical intimacy at all. I partially admire it, and yet partially believe them to be fools for it, no offense intended to anyone who may choose that way to go though.. I think kissing is part of the bonding process between two people who are dating. But if you really feel like the kissing is simply just going to lead to other temptations, if you seriously have that little self control after a kiss, well I guess its better not to do it at all

Why is it necessary to kiss, when you're able to hold hands, hug, or other less intimate forms of affection? I agree that physical affection has to have some place in a relationship, but I don't think kissing has to be part of it.

I do have my own biases, of course... I grew up deciding to save kissing for the one I'll marry. Someone who grew up with a different background would see things differently... and I respect that.... I'm just saying, I don't think kissing is absolutely necessary when dating

 

[invisiblebabe]

Its not necessary to kiss thats just my own personal opinion on the subject, just as that is your opinion. I personally would never count kissing out while dating someone while another person might, I dont think hugging and holding hands comes anywhere *close* to that special feeling you get when you kiss someone. But its not necessary for everyone*shrugs*

although if you think about it I did technically date my husband for a couple months without kissing him, since we met on the internet

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