ummidrinkcherrycoke said:
I feel like that a lot too, it's like the odds are always against me.
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ummidrinkcherrycoke said:Another problem of mine is that I'm not into competition when it comes to relationships so if I'm interested in a woman thats being pursued by other guys I'll usually just let it go.
oworm said:This whole generation seems obsessed with looks. I know they play a part but i just cant help feeling that character,personality,temprement, etc are so much more important. Looks fade with age but everything else remains.
mbotz72 said:I have been wondering about this for a while, but haven't really reached a conclusion that makes sense. Do guys get scared away from girls because they think they are too good for them? I know I automatically throw some options out the window because I see them as too good for me. They already have multiple girls that like them, they are too good-looking to ever like someone like me, they are way more talented than me to even notice me. I pray that I will not undermine myself and abilities and get scared off by such crazy things. Those guys that are Christian, smart, good-looking, athletic, genuine, and loving.... sweet, but wait, I can't have him because he is the guy every other girl wants it seems like, so I better run, I am not good enough for him. Hence, an opportunity is lost. Do guys think this way? or more arrogant, confident, looks more important?
brettnolan said:Women don't scare me so much as being rejected by women. THAT petrifies me. From that perspective, any girl that I THINK will reject me, scares me. Then when I get turned down by women that I think won't reject me, it terrifies me even more.
If you're interested in a guy, and you know he's not seeing someone, all you need to do is LET HIM KNOW that you're interested. Guys are so easy. Except that you CANNOT be subtle. A guy may not understand it even if you come right out and say "I like you, let's date." So if you think you're coming on to him because you laugh at his jokes, think again. We all think we're funny anyway. Smile at him a lot and ask him what his weekend plans are, tell him he looks nice today when he wears a "nice" t-shirt, etc. Putty in your hands.
Being honest and up front with people the only way to go. It saves so much confusion and heartache, and that is a very good thing!!mbotz72 said:I like these thoughts and they way you put them. I think a lot people are really more scared of rejection than the person. I definitely agree that we can not be subtle; it just doesn't work unless you are completely up front. Thanks for sharing, it helps out a lot!
I totally agree with you and the other poster (sorry forgot your name!) about this, rejection is not good. How you reject someone can be as important as how you accept them (well to them anyway).mrstace said:Being honest and up front with people the only way to go. It saves so much confusion and heartache, and that is a very good thing!!
Wide-eyedWithWonder said:Wow, it was so sad to read all the posts from y'all who don't have confidence around other people, especially the opposite sex. The thing is, I can relate so much to this, or I used to, at least. Don't believe that this is a permanent thing, because it's not.
Easy to say when you're 20.
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