Divorced more than once?

[HeKnowsMyName]

Are any of you hesitant to date someone that's been divorced more than once? I have a friend that is divorced for her second time. She is struggling with that fact and that everyone will see her as the problem and no one might ever want to get involved with her.

 

[dayhiker]

I have no problem dating a woman in her situation. It does raise a flag tho. By my age we all have a flag that we have to check out. Its just part of the process of learning about each other.

 

[mjmcmillan]

I've been divorced twice-- from the same woman. The reconciliation marriage lasted almost two years.

 

[Humble Pie]

My sister is a "third wife"

 

[mjmcmillan]

It should be noted that by the time you get this far along, the pool of never-married virgins is drying up fast-- so if you want a spouse near your own age you're probably going to get some baggage to go with the new marriage.

That makes it highly likely that if I ever do marry again, the woman will have either been divorced-- possibly more than once-- or widowed-- hopefully not too often (that could get scary in a hurry). Some history wouldn't be a bad thing, necessarily.

 

[HeKnowsMyName]

Love the widow remark. I honestly think (I hope no one take this wrong) if I had to go through a second divorce, I'd try to find happiness in being single. Divorce just has too many emotional issues to deal with and I just don't think I could ever handle it again.

 

[dayhiker]

Quite a few years ago, I knew a woman who had had two husbands die on her and was married a third time. 1st husband was in his 50's and dies of a heart attack I believe. That was before I knew her. 2nd was older, just retired. They were married about 3 yrs. He had been a business man had a average place on the water. Then she married a guy who didn't have much. They were still married last I knew. But I'd not heard anything from them in a number of years now.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Well I have only been married once, BUT....my late husband had been married twice before me. I had no hesitation because I felt that God brought us together. It wasn't without challenges, only because a person that has already been divorced sometimes does not want to really try another time if the going gets tough. But I did get to know him first and tried to figure out some of the "whys" of why his first 2 marriages didn't work. In the end we ended up being married for 25 years.
Most people know (or should) that it takes two to tango, so it really cannot be just one person's fault. Some people are more committed than others and will work things out, and others want to bail at the first sign of trouble.

 

[SLTMLO]

Honestly, I would want to know the circumstances. And I expect I would have gotten to know more about him than just the divorce statistics

 

[HeKnowsMyName]

An update on my friend. She's dating her second ex-husband so I'm assuming this is not an issue for her any more.

 

[dayhiker]

Thanks for the update ... always good to get an update.