Divorce

[Lik3]

I wish I knew about relationships between men and women from a personal standpoint, but I don't. I am not in a relationship but I know what is right and what is wrong. Infidelity is wrong, fornication is wrong, and every other form of disrespecting your spouse. It is sad that some men and women cannot trust their own spouses, the person they share their homes and families with. I wish that all of us would take marriage seriously, but many don't.

It has been on my mind since I have read about a famous person who may be going through a rough divorce with his soon to be ex-wife. The saddest thing is that they have children together. Is there a selfishness when it comes to this issue? I don't know, but one thing is for sure: the children come first.

Divorce is not something God takes lightly and neither does marriage. I guess marriage is hard. This is a sad state of affairs with no-fault divorces and the seemingly increasing divide between men and women. This story upset me because of the lack of trust and respect between the spouses. It is even worse when there are children involved. I wonder how people have become so selfish. I wonder a lot of things. But the answer is sin. Sin is lawlessness. It is breaking God's laws yet we are all sinful beings. Everyone except Jesus has walked on this planet has been and are sinners.

Some of us are struggling with sin to this day. Divorce is ugly, regardless if it is amicable or not. I am a romantic and it is sad when a couple splits up. It is so sad. Divorce isn't always the answer to one's marital problems.

 

[theophilus40]

This is a subject that preachers should speak about more. The divorce rate among Christians is as high as it is among other people. Many people oppose same sex marriage because the Bible teaches that marriage is a union between a man and a woman but the overlook the fact that it is a permanent union and they fail to realize that they should be just as opposed to divorce.

 

[Sketcher]

Yes, it is terrible, and regardless of whether people in the church actually divorce less than people in the world (which I believe we do), we divorce way too much in view of Jesus' teaching on it. And remarriage should be a non-starter in most cases, per Matthew 19:9.

 

[SayaOtonashi]

http://www.brutallyhonest.org/bruta...sconceptions About Divorce and Remarriage.pdf

 

[SayaOtonashi]

in O.T a man could not remarry his ex wife if you remarrys.

 

[Faith.Man]

Yes, it is terrible, and regardless of whether people in the church actually divorce less than people in the world (which I believe we do), we divorce way too much in view of Jesus' teaching on it. And remarriage should be a non-starter in most cases, per Matthew 19:9.

My wife and I have been happily married for 33+ years. We are each others best friends. She is my better half and one of the main reasons I have the relationship with my Lord and redeemer Jesus. I've only been married once; my wife twice before we met. Her first husband (now dead) threatened her and himself with a gun. He also cheated on her with other women. The marriage lasted around four years including a separation. [She still has nightmares about him.] Her second marriage lasted about 14 months. He told her he only married her because she was a good housekeeper. There was a civil marriage ceremony I believe, she had fallen away from the church.

I rejoice that God picked this woman for me. [I was not a Christian or anything else at the time.] One thing we should remember, if a person is unable to follow Biblical marriage practice to the letter, it is not the unforgiveable sin. Let's not condemn people when God doesn't. I don't believe in happenstance, I'm a Calvinist afterall. So I believe everything my wife and I went through is making us the people God wants us to be. He brought us together. I submit my will to His and thank God daily for Jesus and the wonderful woman He provided for me as my wife.

 

[Albion]

This is a subject that preachers should speak about more. The divorce rate among Christians is as high as it is among other people. Many people oppose same sex marriage because the Bible teaches that marriage is a union between a man and a woman but the overlook the fact that it is a permanent union and they fail to realize that they should be just as opposed to divorce.

Good points there, but we need to remember that divorce is not forbidden in Scripture. It is severely restricted, true, but there are exceptions...and adultery is pretty common in our society.

 

[Bjornke]

Dear Brothers and Sisters,

It is such a travesty, especially to our children when we divorce. But I think reason people divorce so much more often now is because of the individualistic, selfish view our cultural prospers. The idea that "if it feels god for me, then it has to be done" instead of the idea of "how will this effect my wife or my family?" It was clearly laid out by Jesus that the only reason one should ever divorce is on the ground of sexual immorality, otherwise divorce is against thew will of God.

Now, I am not saying the sin is unforgivable brothers and sisters. If once divorces, it is not as if one has cursed the spirit.

Matthew 5:32
But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

There we have it.

Divorce seems to me that our own selfish gains get into the way of our families and love for our spouses. Instead of being able to sacrifice or compromise with our spouse, we get the attitude of "well my spouse doesn't like this and I like it this way and since we can't compromise, then fine, I'll leave!" If we would just stop and think of each other first, instead of thinking of ourselves first, the divorce rate would decrease. We must learn to love and endure all things which is love, instead of letting ourselves get the better of us.

The worst of divorce is the damage to the partner who doesn't want a divorce. How sad! And the children who see mom and dad struggle and then leave! Only the instigator of divorce benefits! The other who wishes not for divorce looses!

As in for clearly objectionable marriage reasons, such as the one stated above, where the wife was only married to basically be a house slave, this situation is dire and sad! Good now that your wife is with you, a very loving man! Without God marriages can be something else - a game of selfishness. I am glad your wife is now with you and God sir!

Please though brothers and sisters, do not take my word for it. Read the bible yourselves and ask more knowledgeable people! This is just my opinion: that divorce is terrible and hurtful, and is largely done out of selfishness.

Thank you,

Brandon