Divinely chosen spouse

[tennyson]

I suppose everyone want to have the right life mate. I hear some say we all have one chosen by God. I don't know about that. I'd like some more views on this please!

 

[looksgood]

I thought at one time that we chose. But when God let me know I should be with my gf I am now begining to think maybe God does the chosing. To tell the truth I am glad He chose for me. The girl is past all my hopes!

 

[tennyson]

I don't have a gf atthe moment - too scared to choose the wrong one!
Did you choose ... and then God said "OK"?

 

[invisiblebabe]

I don't believe God outright TELLS us who to marry, nor "fixes us up". He won't override our free will.... and to me, it seems as if God telling us "Hey, THIS is your guy" is bordering on that. Romantic love is a chosen love. However, I believe God has "veto power," as my friend Jordan says.

 

[mathias1979]

My belief is that we all make our own personal choices...it's just that God knows what those decisions will be. So although God may know who we are going to wind up marrying when we are born, from our point of view, it's something that we will arrive at through our own personal choices and (hopefully) prayerful consideration. Does that make sense?

-Matt

 

[looksgood]

I don't have a gf atthe moment - too scared to choose the wrong one!
Did you choose ... and then God said "OK"?

Actualy no lol. I had an idea...but wasn't going to act on it. See I had been searching a while for someone and God just let me know He didn't want me with those I had talked with. But I had a friend I had found out was just like me. We joked about being twins even lol. Well I did start to think maybe her. But I wasn't going to put our friendship in jepardy. So I just desided to let God have it. Finaly for the first time I let go and let God do what He would and I desided I would go as normal.

But I had asked God for some things. I asked Him to bring me a woman who would keep me accountable, I asked for her to have kept her body, I even asked for a lot of silly stuff lol. Like having her bring up a certain movie. Just silly things really. I didn't expect my gf to bring all these things up. But she did. Out of no place too.

Well it also happend that after all that, God layed it on my heart to tell her some things. Like God being in control and that there was no fear in me when it came to any relationship I may have. I also told her how I felt about her but that I was willing to just be friends first and not expect any more than that. Well she then told me (after being silant about 5 minutes lol) that she was blown away because she had asked God for Him to show her who she should be with. And she asked that He show her by those exact words being said. That was how it started. I have found her to be a PERFECT match for me in every area of my life. She even told me God layed it on her heart to encourage me in the call He placed on me from before I told her what the call was. God already told her. Not only that but someone once gave me a profacy type thing (they said it was that but I just put it in my "if it happens it happens bag"). They told me bout my calling, and bout my wife to be and HER calling. Her calling was to be a help to me. Well my gf told me she felt God had a calling for her to be a help to her husband. Not just a wife, but a help in minustry...which most ppl dont see as a calling but she does.

I don't know how to say it really...all I know is that God has been confirming it in every way.

 

[Pope Gonzo]

The Bible never tells us to marry the one we love. The Bible does tell us to love the one we marry.

I believe that God wants Steph and I to get married, but I don't believe that I am the sole person that she could have a successful marriage with, nor is she the sole person that I could have a successful marriage with.

 

[mathias1979]

The Bible never tells us to marry the one we love. The Bible does tell us to love the one we marry.

well put

-Matt

 

[Pope Gonzo]

My dad has used that phrase in giving me advice about eighty thousand times over the past year... and every time he finds a new way to squeak some wisdom out of it

 

[invisiblebabe]

looksgood-

I'm glad you and your girlfriend are doing well!

I got burned pretty badly by interpreting various "signs" such as the ones you've mentioned, as being God's way of telling me "This is the one!" That was years ago, though, and he and I weren't even together at the time...

Anyway, just a reminder to you to seek God in the practical aspects of your relationship (i.e. what you can see, actions, words you say) before the things you can read (too much, as in my case) into.

She may very well be the one for you... which is awesome!

God bless

 

[looksgood]

looksgood-

I'm glad you and your girlfriend are doing well!

I got burned pretty badly by interpreting various "signs" such as the ones you've mentioned, as being God's way of telling me "This is the one!" That was years ago, though, and he and I weren't even together at the time...

Anyway, just a reminder to you to seek God in the practical aspects of your relationship (i.e. what you can see, actions, words you say) before the things you can read (too much, as in my case) into.

She may very well be the one for you... which is awesome!

God bless

Yep...I know what ya mean. See there is a lot of reasons I love her. And a lot of reasons I know she is the one for me. The bigest thing...is that God is STILL #1 in this all. He is blessing us very much. Even took care of the little details bout how we would tell our families. Anyway, point is, I am willing to work at this. I know she is too.

Basicly God was the one that we went to first, and we still go to Him. Thats the MAIN reason I know this is the way it should be.

 

[tennyson]

I just want to make dead sure about about my future wife - you know? After all it is one of the biggest choices to make! Somehow I still think God can and will make that choice for me if I allow Him to.

 

[invisiblebabe]

I just want to make dead sure about about my future wife - you know? After all it is one of the biggest choices to make! Somehow I still think God can and will make that choice for me if I allow Him to.

I commend your heart for God! He truly wants to bless us.

I don't quite agree with you about God making the choice for you, as for who to marry. I believe God intended marriage to be a chosen love.... meaning that the two people, husband and wife, choose each other. God knows who we will choose all along, and He brings us together with that person... but I don't see Him outright deciding FOR us.

I agreed with your line of thinking a few years ago, and I got myself into a big mess. Freedom to choose is an amazing gift He's given us. Aim to use it to glorify Him, and He will guide and bless your choices.

 

[invisiblebabe]

Yep...I know what ya mean. See there is a lot of reasons I love her. And a lot of reasons I know she is the one for me. The bigest thing...is that God is STILL #1 in this all. He is blessing us very much. Even took care of the little details bout how we would tell our families. Anyway, point is, I am willing to work at this. I know she is too.

Basicly God was the one that we went to first, and we still go to Him. Thats the MAIN reason I know this is the way it should be.

Sounds great! Any clue when the proposal will be?

 

[looksgood]

Sounds great! Any clue when the proposal will be?

LOL araound the time I deside to buy the ring

 

[desi]

I just want to make dead sure about about my future wife - you know? After all it is one of the biggest choices to make! Somehow I still think God can and will make that choice for me if I allow Him to.

With people you always run the risk of getting burned, just ask God, without such risk relationships would be boring.

 

[oldrooster]

I believe that God sent my new bride to me, I have no doubts at all.....

 

[charligirl]

The Bible never tells us to marry the one we love. The Bible does tell us to love the one we marry.

I believe that God wants Steph and I to get married, but I don't believe that I am the sole person that she could have a successful marriage with, nor is she the sole person that I could have a successful marriage with.

Good wisdom!

I prayed for a man, God put a man in my path, let me know it was a good thing and was ok with Him but still allowed me to choose. He told me that I had free will, I could choose not to marry him and wait for another,, BUT if I took the plunge and said yes, He would give me everything I needed to make the marriage great!

 

[SirKenin]

I suppose everyone want to have the right life mate. I hear some say we all have one chosen by God. I don't know about that. I'd like some more views on this please!

I firmly believe that such does not exist. God does not choose a mate for us and say "There s/he is.. Take them". That denies us our free will, one of two valuable gifts God has given us (the other being salvation). I do not believe for a moment that there is only one "Mr/s Right". That just makes no sense.

The choice is yours to make through prayer and soul searching.

 

[Proverbs 31 Woman]

Actualy no lol. I had an idea...but wasn't going to act on it. See I had been searching a while for someone and God just let me know He didn't want me with those I had talked with. But I had a friend I had found out was just like me. We joked about being twins even lol. Well I did start to think maybe her. But I wasn't going to put our friendship in jepardy. So I just desided to let God have it. Finaly for the first time I let go and let God do what He would and I desided I would go as normal.

But I had asked God for some things. I asked Him to bring me a woman who would keep me accountable, I asked for her to have kept her body, I even asked for a lot of silly stuff lol. Like having her bring up a certain movie. Just silly things really. I didn't expect my gf to bring all these things up. But she did. Out of no place too.

Well it also happend that after all that, God layed it on my heart to tell her some things. Like God being in control and that there was no fear in me when it came to any relationship I may have. I also told her how I felt about her but that I was willing to just be friends first and not expect any more than that. Well she then told me (after being silant about 5 minutes lol) that she was blown away because she had asked God for Him to show her who she should be with. And she asked that He show her by those exact words being said. That was how it started. I have found her to be a PERFECT match for me in every area of my life. She even told me God layed it on her heart to encourage me in the call He placed on me from before I told her what the call was. God already told her. Not only that but someone once gave me a profacy type thing (they said it was that but I just put it in my "if it happens it happens bag"). They told me bout my calling, and bout my wife to be and HER calling. Her calling was to be a help to me. Well my gf told me she felt God had a calling for her to be a help to her husband. Not just a wife, but a help in minustry...which most ppl dont see as a calling but she does.

I don't know how to say it really...all I know is that God has been confirming it in every way.

Reading this has given me so much hope.