Me and my husband moved in with uncle and my uncle's 17 year old grandson. My once sweet husband turned into a pervert, with sexual joking and even touching the boy inappropriately. but they say my husband was just "joking" and won't let me call the cops. I want a divorce... what do I do?
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*Disturbing* Husbands misconduct
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Bumble Bee
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Call the police. The touching is an issue, whether he is joking or not. Call the police whether they want you to or not.
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Agreed. Call CPS and the police. As for a divorce, I think you have a Biblical basis for one considering his behavior here. "If you look at a woman with lustful thoughts, you have committed adultery." Your nephew isn't a woman but I believe the sentiment applies.
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Can you elaborate on the inappropriate touching? Is it something that's questionable, but you know it looks and feels wrong, or it is more explicit than that.
I am so sorry for what's going on, and am praying for all involved in this situation.
Sexual abuse of minors is evil. Start documenting dates and times and what occurred. That will make it easier to go to the police. Have you spoken to the nephew to see what he thinks and feels?
I am so sorry for what's going on, and am praying for all involved in this situation.
Sexual abuse of minors is evil. Start documenting dates and times and what occurred. That will make it easier to go to the police. Have you spoken to the nephew to see what he thinks and feels?
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Ugh, having had a super atheist friend for 10+ years of my life I learned how to be a perv and talk like on. I am so glad hes out of my life and I pretty much changed back to normal... well I only changed because of God. None the less your husband needs to not be a perv, its disgusting, even more so when your married.
As for touching a boy wrong, do you mean like touching near his "parts"? Regardless its not something someone should be doing. Seems creepy to me. >.>
As for touching a boy wrong, do you mean like touching near his "parts"? Regardless its not something someone should be doing. Seems creepy to me. >.>
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I consider a call to the police and CPS an overreaction, depending on the severity of the situation. "Inappropriate touch" is very vague. Involving CPS could have major repercussions for the boy, such as removal from the home. It could cause massive upheaval to his life, and he might not appreciate this intrusion. Without knowing more information about the situation, it is impossible to be able to tell whether involving the police and CPS is warranted. It very well may be. But we here don't know that.
While the inappropriate touching is 100% wrong, I do think this matter should be discussed with the boy and his parents first. You are not his parent. At this point, your husband should no longer be living in the same dwelling as the boy. And of course, it is fully within your rights to move out and separate and/or divorce your husband. Documenting this incident, as previous posters suggested, sounds like a wise thing to do.
While the inappropriate touching is 100% wrong, I do think this matter should be discussed with the boy and his parents first. You are not his parent. At this point, your husband should no longer be living in the same dwelling as the boy. And of course, it is fully within your rights to move out and separate and/or divorce your husband. Documenting this incident, as previous posters suggested, sounds like a wise thing to do.
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My husband rubbed his leg/belly. the boy is with us because his real parents verbally/physicaly abuse him.they won't call the law on his parents either, even though his siblings are being abused.
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Imagine you are a 17 year old boy whose stepmother physically beats him and yells at him. his dad does nothing and his grandpa won't call the police, but offers for him to live with granddad, his great cousin, and her husband.
The boy discovers the 55 year old man always likes to talk about anal sex with him, and likes to rub his legs and stomach.... the boy and granddad don't want the police called.
I'm stuck in the middle...
The boy discovers the 55 year old man always likes to talk about anal sex with him, and likes to rub his legs and stomach.... the boy and granddad don't want the police called.
I'm stuck in the middle...
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I'm sorry the boy is stuck in this situation, it sounds horrible. These are your relatives, right? I think the first step is that your husband should move out immediately.
Is counseling an option for the boy? He no longer lives with the abusive stepmother, correct? So (aside from your husband) he is now in a safe environment.
I don't really know what advice to give here. But I pray for the boy, as well as the whole family.
Is counseling an option for the boy? He no longer lives with the abusive stepmother, correct? So (aside from your husband) he is now in a safe environment.
I don't really know what advice to give here. But I pray for the boy, as well as the whole family.
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I'd be having a very serious "Come to Jesus" talk with your husband and let him know the weight of what he is doing. Talking about anal sex with a 17 year old boy in lieu of the "touching" is quite disturbing. If it continues, I'd get video evidence and go talk with either your pastor or the police...a prayerful consideration would be needed.
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Hes behaving better toward the boy now that we talked to him, but now hes acting out because we cant buy him a puppy... Like not accepting things we do get him. And doing wierd things like painting the same thing for days now over and over again.
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Your husband's behavior sounds alarming. I think he needs a psychiatric evaluation. Would he be open to seeing a counselor? Painting the same thing for days over and over again does not sound normal.
Prayers for a safe resolution for all involved.
Prayers for a safe resolution for all involved.
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If he is ever inappropriate again in any way, call police. They will then determine whether to involve CPS. If they do, CPS will investigate - interview the youth, interview you, the school and any other collaterals. They may not remove, but they may. At 17, where I live, they would likely not place into a home, but place into an agreement where he lives independently with supports, to help him transition to adulthood.
As for you, yes, if you want to leave the marriage, leave the marriage. I would not have even asked the question... something inappropriate happens and he`s out faster than I can dial the cops. Especially when a young lad has been assaulted.
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