DISCERNMENT IS NOT ABOUT YOU

[Michie]

It is quite traditional and correct to speak of “discerning a vocation” — particularly to consecrated life or the priesthood, though also in regard to marriage, careers, and other major commitments. In modern Western culture, however, the idea of vocational discernment has become problematic, producing unnecessary indecision and anxiety.

The problem is not with the traditional concepts and language, but with us and our mindset. Shaped by the modern sensibility of intense self-consciousness, and by the consumer culture’s obsession with options and the “pursuit of happiness,” we think too much about ourselves and our preferences. Often, we are looking for the wrong things in a vocation. And we approach the discernment of our calling in a correspondingly wrong way.

This is true across the board: with regard to choices like marriage and work, just as for consecrated religious vocations and the priesthood. In all these areas, we invest the idea of a vocation with expectations our forebears did not have. We think that discernment consists in figuring out whether those expectations will be met. Then we become frustrated when no option seems to fit the bill.

Continued below.

Discernment Is Not About You

The central question in discernment is: How shall I die with Christ, to rise with him? Such thinking is more than countercultural; it goes beyond our natural inclinations. But this is the perspective of the Gospel.

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[fide]

This may well be the best article I have read on this forum. Michie, I commend your discernment in choosing to post it here. Thank you. The author has said much, understood much, opened much of a universal intrinsic mystery in persons in a time of increasingly great and even urgent need.