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Discerning voices:

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EltronRangamma

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How exactly do we, succesfully, determine the source of the voice either tempting us to committ something or convicting us? Though I am confused about this, I am certain that this cannot be resolved through binary thinking -- it is very much a grey issue. For instance, I am currently dealing with guilt of having talked to my brother's girlfriend, 4 years ago, in a manner of sexual insinuations. And though I can easily resolve this by confessing (probably the most reasonable course of action to many Christians) to the one I commited wrong against, it would be, I reasoned, a selfish undertaking considering that part of me wants to do this just to release the guilt. Even more, my brother, then and now, never really cared for the girl making this past wrong less grave.

But then I asked myself, since confession is the right thing, wouldn't it be "right" to confess?

But on top of that question, a series of questions: since I need to confess this, wouldn't I need to confess every other wrongdoing I committed against someone regardless of the crime's gravity? And seeing that this issue died along with my brother's feelings for this girl, wouldn't this confession, if committed, strictly bring temporary satisfaction (temporary because I will feel the pangs of guilt later on) and not a reconciliation between the both of us (which is not priority considering the relatively good health of our current relationship)?

These questions then have me asking whether the rhetorical question was posed by Satan to set up the next set as a scheme to exacerbate my guilt or if the rhetorical question was given by God and the next set given by Satan to prevent me from making any confession.

And so on and so forth, the funhouse effect.

The best course of action to me was to give God my guilt but still, to this day, have I been continually bothered by this guilt. I just want to pop the bubble.

In other words, do I have to confess everything, even that time when I told my parent's I was sleeping over my friend's house, not mentioning the fact that I was going to do that later after I get inebriated off my nugget at another friend's house, totally slipping by their notice?
 

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LOL, wow! You odviously are really bothered by this. All I can do is give you my opinion and I am happy to do so!

I think it is important that we not only confess our sins to God but that we confess our sins we comitted against someone to that person we have wronged. I don't believe it's important at all that you start remembering all the wrongs you have done to people and start confessing them and asking for forgiveness. However for those things that bring you distress in guilty feelings yet are in the past you do need to somehow make amends.

The thing about your overnight drinking party you could probably keep quite about unless otherwise asked specifically about it. In otherwords you shouldn't lie about it but for now there's no reason your parents have to know about it. If your sorry you did something like that and lied about it ask God to forgive you, believe that he has and move on...repent. If I had to apologize for every lie I told since the time I could remember, I'd be constantly asking people for forgiveness and over some of the most stupidest things that people would just get annoyed with me, LOL! Not that I am now or was a big lier but if I went up to my sister and asked her if she remembers the time I told her she looked pretty and good enough for her first date when actually I was thinking she needed at least another hour in the bathroom fixing herself up I'd be opening up a big can of worms! LOL, do you see what I'm saying? Now I may not feel very good about lieing to her about that but that doesn't mean I have to confess something like that to her. sometimes it's better just to confess those sins to God and keep your mouth shut!

The thing about your brothers girlfriend seems very trivial to me but since it is giving you great distress I would go to him and tell him about it. I think you'd be very surprised on how forgiving he would be.All you got to do is show him honestly how this has bothered you and I think he will be happy to help you out by forgiving you. Although I'm not totally convinced that he really needs to do so but if it sets you at ease then do it!
 
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Thanks for your opinion, I decided not to confess since I will have to deal with the awkwardness that may arise out of confession.

I was never guilty about this until recently so I believe I can fare well with no confession. I think that dastardly diabolic just wants me to expend my mental energy on something as peanuts as this.
 
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Hola friend,

I don't really want to give advice...I've gone through much of the same things...even confessing to my parents of what I've done such as drinking, etc-and so much more. My parents are Christians, which makes it a lot easier to deal with. My relationship was strengthened with them after this, even though they have been able to see the things that they never thought that I had or would do. I was really open to confess after the Lord was doing so much in my life. Which may be similar in your case, if you are seeking the Lord, etc. I know that the devil would like to torment you...he'll never want anything better for you. The devil simply hates you and always will...he'll never want you to think that God cares for you or that he loves you, etc. I'm sure that you are aware of this. Well, I guess what I can do is atleast say a prayer for you. You've been honest enough to share this with us. Confessing your faults one to another, and so now we can pray for you...which is Biblical. God wants us to have peace in our lives and minds...that's what I'll pray for you. I don't want to tell you what you should or should not do. My parents have actually asked me to stop confessing some things to them, so I wouldn't know exactly what is really necessary or where to draw a line. I understand how you feel though. I'll just pray for you. I'm fairly young so I haven't gained as much experience or wisdom as others here have.

God bless you...thanks for being honest.

hola
 
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