Different musical tastes

[LynzLovedByCHRIST]

Do you and your SO have very different music preferences, as me and mine do? I was raised on gospel music, as well as country. I mean, those were the two radio stations that played in the car and at home. As I got older, I started listening to different kinds of music on my own and found out I also enjoyed contemporary Christian, pop, and some rock also. Oh, and I know lots of oldies too, from country to pop to rock.

But well, my guy was raised strictly on gospel- as in, if you're familiar with them, The Inspirations, The Chuck Wagon Gang, The Jody Brown Indian Family, Squire Parsons, just to name a few. His dad is a preacher too, so that was a reason why this was the only type of music ever listened to around their house and in their car. They would (and still do) go to the concerts of these people and everything. Joe knows a whole lot of facts about these groups, it's amazing.

Just since I've been dating him has he really branched out from that and started enjoying classical music and soundtracks from movies, and a teeny bit of country.

You may notice a little bit of a critical "tone" in this. And I suppose there is. But I don't think it could be justified. I just sometimes wish our musical preferences were more alike. While he is not really familiar with any country or pop artists, I am not very familiar with many gospel aritists either. But I must say, when we're driving around and he has the gospel station on in his truck and he's singing along with it, I love it. I'm not putting down gospel music or anything- I love hymns and watching Bill Gaither and his singers on their TV concerts, and I listen occasionally to the gospel station too. Sometimes, though, it would be nice if I mentioned the new...Faith Hill and Tim McGraw song, he'd say, what does is sound like, rather than, who are they?

 

[Inperfected]

Sweetheart.. It's something to get used to...People just aren't alike.

I listen to so many styles, but love soft worshippy/poppy music... and he simply doesn't. However we both love rap, and rock, and heavy rock and others. And then theres styles he loves, that i hate. Gotta get used to it and compromise on the cd player really.

Ahh i understand thinking of food. I'm a plain and fussy eater... He is NOT! When we get pizza, we get a chicken and brie and cranberry. Why? It's the only one I'll eat virtually... Believe me, he wants the others... But sometiems you gotta compromise (Or go to maccas instead )

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Holly grew up on 70s and 80s christian music.
I listen to black metal.

Investing in a good pair of headphones helps things out.

 

[LynzLovedByCHRIST]

Oh yeah, I know, it's okay that we have different music tastes. He's had the same reaction as I when he's mentioned someone I'm unfamiliar with..."You've never heard of them?"..."Do you mean to tell me you've never heard that song?"...and such.

Food, too, is where we're different. There is not much that I do not eat. He, on the other hand, is a lot more selective than I.

So oh well!

 

[Oblivious]

We both pretty much like the same music. This is a good thing as I really love music and would hate to be subjected to listen to music I can't stand!

 

[LynnMcG]

My husband used to tease me that we were going to divorce over our musical taste. He was SO narrow in what he listened to when we first started dating. I think the only band he listened to was the Rolling Stones... Anyway, we broadened our musical interests over time just like with everything else in our marriage.

I'm with Mr. Cheese on this. Headphones are an awesome invention!

 

[A2597]

You said in your post that he is expanding his musical horizens. He may come to enjoy the same music you do, or you may grow to love the music he does.

My girlfriend and I have very different taste, only common ground are praise songs and techno. (Of course, I listen to everything aside from Rap and Country, she refuses to listen to anything more than a few years old, I prefer classical and 80s music...)

Musical taste are such a small part of a relationship I think, and one that eventually sorts itself out.

 

[Carri20]

As a matter of fact, my fiance and I had VERY different musical preferences when we first met. I was deep into pop music, rock and roll, and even some heavy metal, while he was really into country. I had always hated country but it was getting harder and harder to find a clean rock/pop/heavy metal band, so one day I decided to tune in to a country music radio station to see if I could figure out why my fiance found it so appealing. Now, to the amusement of my parents who used to watch me throw fits every time I heard the twang of a guitar, I am a country music fan. :o

 

[Beanface]

That doesn't seem like a huge problem with that.. my ex girlfriend and I had TOTALLY different music tastes.. I grew up in a secular house and I listened to hard rock / heavy metal when we met, and she listened to dance music and hip hop.

we got around it though, finding the few songs we both liked when we were togehter, or we'd just talk in the car rather than listening to music.

Actually that's not really true.. she got her way most of the time, I'm just that nice..

 

[LynzLovedByCHRIST]

I just want to clarify and say that I don't consider this a problem between us. It's just one of the ways that we're different from one another. And yes, he does listen to more types of music than he used to. I have been doing that too, listening to the gospel and classical stations too on my own. So anyway, like I said it's no problem!

 

[Leanna]

My husband and I have almost the exact same taste in music..... we love music while we are driving, and we do a lot of driving down here. David (son, see picture) now has a strong opinion about music, its the craziest thing, he starts dancing in his car seat if he likes the song. Sit-dancing! If he doesn't like the song he starts whining about it until I change the radio station Demanding for a 14 month old!

 

[LynzLovedByCHRIST]

Hehe, that's cute!

 

[Amy47]

My husband and I have almost the exact same taste in music..... we love music while we are driving, and we do a lot of driving down here. David (son, see picture) now has a strong opinion about music, its the craziest thing, he starts dancing in his car seat if he likes the song. Sit-dancing! If he doesn't like the song he starts whining about it until I change the radio station Demanding for a 14 month old!

I bet you can't wait until he gets older, eh? lol. My sister used to do the same thing, man is it cute.

 

[Amy47]

Now satying on topic. Dan and I used to have VERY different taste in music. I liked Punk and he like his techno, and pretty much anything with bass. I LOVE bass now, and I'm not too interested in listening to punk anymore. But I still love my Dance music, something I listen when he's not around cuz I know he wouldn't like it too much.

You could find something you BOTH like and pop it in the CD player everytime you get in the car or just simply feel like listening to music.

 

[Maeyken]

I listen mostly just to country music. My fiance can't stand country music. I don't even know what he listens to is called... it's "radio music" to me! I can't really help it.. Music that I like really sticks in my head, and music I don't care for, I just can't remember no matter how hard I try! The stuff he listens to is alright, I don't mind having it on while we're in the car or whatever. But it's not something I'd listen to on my own.

There are some things we'll both listen to (like classical stuff, some folk-type music), and it's never been a big problem. I *try* to remember to turn off the country music when he comes over... It's more of a joke between us, and between anyone who knows his hate of country music. I think it's pretty funny. Sometimes he thinks it's less funny than I do... but ya... it's not an issue for us really.

 

[Inperfected]

I just sometimes wish our musical preferences were more alike.

heh, they can be! Just start listening to his more, but reading more of this thread... It seems that you are, well done!

Off topic, creed is the best ("who's got my back" going through my mind)

 

[Boss_BlueAngels]

My SO and I actually have incredibly similar tastes in music. She is a bit more tolerent of hip hop/rap... where as I tend to enjoy a little bit more metal. We're both definatly rockers at heart tho, having gone to Switchfoot, Weezer, and Foo Fighter concerts last month and HAVING A BLAST! Haha.

We have enough in common to never be annoyed with the others selection of music, but still some differences between us to keep things interesting and fun.

 

[evania]

Being a musician and a music major, music is a very large part of my life and immensly important to me........needless to say...if I hate it my s/o loves it. ...except for country music, thats common ground.

Sometimes it is deterring though, if I am really proud of a piece I just played in concert and he hears it and has no idea what he is listening to, it can be hurtful because it all goes right over his head and I so desperatly want him to have that understanding and appreciation. Occasionally there will be a piece I feel is really extraordinarily and he'll listen to a minute of it say 'thats nice' and go back to what he was doing....that burns. But besides my own pride it's really not a problem for us, just a deterrance.

Although....he has filled my ipod up with my consideration of 10gig of everything I would never listen to. But I asked him to give me what he had, so thats my own fault. We just stick to country while we're in the truck and remain happy.
I really do have to give him credit though, he was playing a song from a band and I really like what he was playing and I told him so and he went out the next day and got everything they had ever made, it totalled like 100 and some songs....that was really sweet.

Point being, yeah it gets hurtful occasionally and aggrivating because sharing music can be such a fun experience and usually isn't. But it isn't the end of the world, just more important to me then him. Moral of the story, turn up the country.