Did your hubby ask your dad...

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

for his blessing to propose to you?

I've heard mixed responses on this - some girls say they would have been disappointed if their hubby/future hubby hadn't, others say they would have been ropeable if he did!

For me, I see it more as a blessing than as 'permission' - I must admit that if SO (when he feels ready to make that step) didn't go and seek my parent's blessing, I'd feel sad.

I've lived out of home for 2 years now (almost -wow that flew!), so I guess I sort of see it as a way he includes them in this special event.

Anyway - did he? didn't he? Would you like him to? Would you have preferred he didn't?

Sasch

 

[~PICKLE~]

My dad actually walked up to my husband and told him, you better snatch her up before she flys away.

 

[LiberatedChick]

My husband didn't ask my dad. We got engaged when we were just 16. Obviously it was a long engagement. We went to my parents that evening and told them the news. My parents, well my mum mainly, questioned us about it but that was because she feared we'd run off and get married (though that was impossible as we both would have needed parental permission at that age).

Anyway, no permission or blessing was asked for but at the end of the day who I married was always going to be my choice. I wouldn't have wanted my husband to ask my dad for his permission as it's my choice and no one elses. I think it'd have made me feel as if my dad owned me if he was asked. Probably would have felt as if I was my dads possesion and what happened in my life was upto him. Again it would have taken away my choice in the matter if my dad was asked for his blessing. What if he didn't give his blessing? Then there'd be the decision of whether I should have gone through with it anyway and feel guilty for going against my dads wishes...or not going through with it to please my dad but not being happy myself.

Anyway, that's my feelings about it. So I don't feel disspointed that my dad wasn't asked and I am quite glad he wasn't asked.

 

[bkg]

I asked both parents... at the same time... cause they were both there and I was nervous...

 

[Svt4Him]

I did, but by email, as they didn't understand English. They replied before I asked my wife.

 

[Jenna]

*shakes head* Nope, he didn't ask my dad. To be honest, I'm not really sure that he really asked me. *laughs* He just expressed that he wanted to marry me, and I turned into a ball of mushy tears and somehow in the mix I ended up wearing his ring. lol

To be honest, I am not disappointed that he didn't ask my dad, though it would have been sweet if it would have worked out like that. Still, my dad is notorious for being impossible to please, and I think he would have just given Mike a hard time. After all, I was pregnant before we married, so he probably would have been more critical than honored. *shrugs* But, I'm happy, and I guess that is all that matters.

 

[PollyAnna]

My first husband didn't ask my parents, he just pretty much blurted out to my dad the first time he met him that we were getting married in 2 days at the JP. Wasn't a good scene, but I wasn't in good with my parents at that time anyway. Neither of us respected the other at all. That one ended in divorce.

My current hubby DID ask my dad for his blessing. He didn't ask for permission, he expressed how we felt about each other and asked for his blessing. I think there's a difference between blessing and permission. 11 years later, we're still going strong.

 

[PollyAnna]

Picklereed4 - that dancing pickle in your sig is hilarious! I can't stop watching it dance.

 

[HEMDA]

My Dad had already past away years before i met my husband.
But i am sure he would not have asked him.
My Dad wouldn't not have approved probably bc he is not Jewish.
But 11 years of ups and downs and struggles and trials.
G-d still is Good we have 3 children and we our blessed everyday.

 

[WolfGate]

I did not ask her dad, though I wish I had.

He is a man who has made a lot of mistakes. When we got engaged, I was in my early 20s, and I had allowed his mistakes to essentially eliminate my respect for him. I wasn't mature enough to understand that, regardless of his mistakes, he was still the father of the girl I wanted to become one flesh with me and was owed respect for that reason alone. I should have asked for his blessing.

 

[desi]

I told her step father, to be, that I was going to marry her after seeing her picture before I met her in person. He still chuckles about it when it comes up.

 

[katelyn]

My husband asked for a blessing from both my parents and his. This was important to everyone involved, I think, as a show of respect.

 

[desi]

My wife's natural parents were dead, I didn't ask her adoptive parents. As for my children my wife expects them to have their husbands to be ask us for permission but I don't care either way as I will be vocal about it if I don't like the guy.

 

[oldrooster]

I asked my wife's dad for permission, it is just respect.....

 

[Violet]

My husband called my father and asked him

 

[Melody Joy]

My FH (wedding Aug 28) went over to my parents house and talked to my dad. My dad gave his blessing. He was so happy that I found such a great guy!!

 

[Maxxie28]

My hubby asked my grandmother... My mom died when I was very young and my father is a child beater and no longer allowed in my life so he asked my moms mother and she thought it was the sweetest thing he could have done (and I did too, but I also told him I wouldn't marry him unless he asked first and only if she said it was ok).

 

[bliz]

My Dad made it very clear that he did not want to be asked for permission or blessing. He felt that neither was his to give. For the same reasons, he would not give me away at the wedding, which included, not walking me down the aisle.

 

[charligirl]

My Dad made it very clear that he did not want to be asked for permission or blessing. He felt that neither was his to give. For the same reasons, he would not give me away at the wedding, which included, not walking me down the aisle.

How did you feel about that? My husband didn't ask my Father because at 33 and 45 it would have seemed a bit weird, in fact as my parents live along way away so we were enagegd first, then went up for him to meet them. I did tell my Mother we were engaged and asked her whether we should not make it official and wait for my husband to ask my Dad in person.. she didn't see the point so I wore the ring and introduced him as fiance!! I would have been gutted if my Father hadn't given me away though.

 

[I'ddie4him]

My first marriage, I asked her Dad's permission and blessings. I did this the same time I asked her if she would marry me. I did this in January of 1990, just 6 months before we got married. 9 years later, We were divocrced.
I did the same with my current wife's parents, and my future mom in law cried and then she hugged me, and told me Take care of her or I'll be coming after you. We have been together for almost 4 years now and have a wonderful 26 month old son who fills our lives with joy and frustration. I was raised the old fashioned way I guess.