Tuffguy said:
I'm not sure i really understand the question. Why wouldn't a normal Christian ask for Gods input before getting married? How could you seriously date for x years and not have brought this person before God? I guess that kinda boggles my mind. And i'm FAR from perfect. LOL
Good point! Kudos (and reps!) for you!
Unfortunately, we as human beings, Christian or not, have a selfish nature. I'm not saying all Christians don't ask God, I'm just saying a lot of them don't (which is quite a shame, really!). They don't care as long as they can get their instant gratification (which is that emotional rush). What they don't realize is that a relationship is (or should be) about more than that "rush"; it should be about commitment, kindness, respect, and honesty. After all, that emotional high usually fades at one point or another during the duration of the relationship. Another thing is, if they know that God won't approve, they don't ask because they already know the answer!
The latter applied to me when I was engaged and unequally yoked. I didn't ask God because I cared more about my relationship and my (then) fiance than I did Him. Because of my selfishness, I had to bear the consequences. I went through a lot of emotional distress and heartache. Fortunately, eventually, I felt God tugging on my heartstrings.
The most important thing any two Christians that are courting can do is keep their relationship Christ-centered. One of my favorite Bible passages reminds me that we should do just that. Although I'm taking it out of context, it's still great to be able to apply it to my life the way I take it.
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Ecclesiastes 4
The Advantages of Companionship
9Two people can accomplish more than twice as much as one; they get a better return for their labor.
10If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But people who are alone when they fall are in real trouble.
11And on a cold night, two under the same blanket can gain warmth from each other. But how can one be warm alone?
12A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer.
Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.
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That last part of verse 12 I put in bold because I look at that triple-braided cord as my relationship with Jeremy (my new boyfriend) with Christ as the center of that rope. With Christ, our relationship is strong and nothing can break it.
So back to what TuffGuy said; I can't imagine ever making any decision about my relationship without consulting God about it, even if it might hurt.
for almost a year asking God for clear direction as to what I should do with the rest of my life. I gave God a "list" of qualities I wanted in a man if I was meant to be a wife (and hopefully a mother) instead of a nun. My fiance has every trait I asked for in a man except he isn't over 6' tall (but I don't mind that at all).
