Developing feelings toward a friend

[2soon2see]

I have been friend's with a girl for over four years now. We have grown up in the same church and attended the same high school. For the past year, she and I have grown as platonic friends. She and I have still have a good friendship although I am away to college. We have had a frequent Bible studies, encouraged eachother and shared personal things.

Through our coffee gatherings, in the past, I have told her she is not in a godly relationship. She knew it as well, as she grew in the Lord. About a month ago, her ex-boy friend broke up with her. She understands this break up is for the best and now she wants a "godly man in her life." After the break, she trusted and confided in me.

The past week, I have developed feelings toward her. I am now attracted to my friend. I see special qualities in her that I can't find in others. I have witnessed as she has grown into a godly woman. Now I do not know how to respond to these feelings. I have seeked after God's will. When would it be appropiate for me to tell her I have courtship feelings toward her. Any advice what I should do?

All your responses is appreciated! Thank you-- 2soon2see<><

 

[Nikoel]

So far I see nothing wrong with what you've done! You've recognised your feelings, and then asked God for help!

You are in a rather scary and confusing place right now, and I've been there myself! Before dating my husband, he was my good friend and then one day God made me to see him differently, perhaps this is what is happening with you!

Best of luck and my the Lord help you to find your path!

 

[gizmo03]

I think if this is something you truly want and after praying about you should tell her.

I had a somewhat experience with a friend of mine. We had been real good friends for quite a few years and after he started dating a friend of mine and the 3 of us hung out more often we became best friends. Shortly after their relationship ended, he had wanted to pursue something with me. But at the time I treasured his friendship more than anything and was afraid that if we were in a relationship and it ended our friendship would too. And our friendship hasn't been the same since and I miss it, he got married this past November and even though I was invited couldn't bare to go. And whenever we see each other out, we make small talk and that's pretty much it.

But I think you shouldn't hold back anymore and let her know your true feelings. Best of luck in whatever you choose to do!

 

[MrDude]

God bless man, I hope and pray everything works out for the best.

 

[2soon2see]

Thank you words of guidance!
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