Deserted

[els_bells]

Last night by best friend told me that she didn't really want to talk to me again until I had 'sorted my life out' which basically means stopped self harming.
I don't blame her, she's had to put up with my ups and downs for the past 5 years. It still really hurts though. She was one of the only people i could be completely honest with, i could tell her when things were bad and when things were good. She promised me she would never give up on me but she has.
I feel let down and deserted and feel so lonely.

 

[Cat59]

for you!


It's really hard when this happens and there are no words that can make it feel better. Perhaps she feels that if she does this, you might go to professional help instead which may be of benefit for you. I've known that happen before..
I'll pray you find the help you need soon to get through this. Just try and hold onto the fact that the Lord won't leave you in this, however much the people around may go, he will be always with you.

Cat

 

[Bevlina]

I am so, so, so very sorry to know this. Sometimes, those who support the hurting may feel they just need a little bit of space. This wouldn't mean she still doesn't love you and would be there for you is you truly need her. Just let her have a little bit of time and in the meantime, would you like to put up with us?

 

[els_bells]

Thanks for your support.
By her doing this it isn't going to make me seek professional help, in fact it's just made me want to withdraw completely and not talk to anyone about it. I guess it is not fair on other people when I am honest about what is going on so I might as well stop being honest about it all.

 

[Cat59]

I guess it is not fair on other people when I am honest about what is going on so I might as well stop being honest about it all.

It's not that its not being fair, it's that sometimes people can't cope with others problems, which is sad. I'm sorry that this has happened, I hope you'll continue to be honest here with us. Certainly I know we'll be here for you and be praying for you. I hope you find someone soon where you are too, who you feel you can trust and be honest with.

 

[oneandlonely]

I am so sorry, I know what thats like, I lost my best friend in the world when I told her, she said the same things. It hurts. I will be praying for you

 

[cracked_pelicans]

I can definitely sympathize with you. When I was in High School, my best friend told me he didn't want me to hang around him or any of his friends that he had introduced me to, because I scared all of them with my self-destructive behavior. That was such a hard time in my life.

Year later, we did hook up again, and were friends, but never really hung out like we used to. I realized over time, that he didn't deserve the honor of being my "best" friend, because that kind of friend is there for you when you need it. Luckily, I did make that kind of friend, and that was the friend that actually led me to Christ.

I pray that you can develop the kind of friendship with someone who can be there for you.

 

[NJA]

A brother /sister who loves The Lord will not desert you because he will keep focused on the healing and the joy and the victory that is already won.

I know people deserted by their relations who saw the difference with God's people !

And Ruth & Naomi were considered a liability, except by Boaz who saw the heart after God . . .they got blessed much more than the rest !