Depression from Loneliness

[Dying2Live4Christ]

Hi.

I am suffering really bad from depression. I have been feeling quite lonely the last 3 years and I just haven't seemed to find anyone. Even when I feel I have found someone, they don't feel the same way. It isn't anyone's fault that I am depressed, but I just can't get over the loneliness. All I feel like doing is crawling into bed and crying oceans of tears. I am actually starting to feel resentment toward God because my prayer is not being answered. I feel terrible for this and hope not to be this way. So, I tried to pick up the pieces today and join E-Harmony. After I filled out the test, they couldn't match me to a single person. I think that just added to my depression. I am really starting to feel like I am always going to be alone. I have a illness and my condition causes me to not have children. This, in return, has caused a lot of conflict while dating. Another, is that I am rather restricted in my means to meet someone because all I do is go to church and work. I don't even know where to begin to meet someone. I thought I would meet someone at church or at work, but it never worked that way. I guess I am feeling hopeless.

Please, just pray for me...


Laura

 

[luv4godremains]

I'm sorry to hear what you are going through, and that you have to suffer this way!

Lord, we pray that you would come and confort Laura now, as she walks with you, and struggles through her lonliness, we ask that you would place people around her to comfort her and who would love her and respect her for who she is. I pray that you would restore her faith in you, and heal her broken heart. We ask that you would help her find someone special, someone just for her, who she can relate to, and share things with, and spend time with! we ask that you would put her onto the right paths and help her to meet lots of new people, and that as she dose, that she would not be scared, but know that if you love her, then so should everyone else, and that there are people who love her! Amen

I'll be praying for you hun, God bless, keep fighting! ever seen a doctor? they may be able to do something to help you! xXx

 

[2scoops]

Don't worry about the whole e-harmony thing. I know several people who it did that two, and then aftera couple of weeks later they started getting matches. Then as time goes on, they get more matches. Right now, Jesus is the answer to your lonliness. Sometimes having an SO does not get rid of the lonliness. Be patient and God will show you the way. I get lonley also, most weekends I am by myself and I would love to have someone to go to a movie with or do whatever, but I gotta learn to put it in God's hands, or I'll mess it up. God bless you.

LOVE LETTER FROM JESUS


How are you? I just had to send you this letter to tell you how much I love you and care about you. I saw you yesterday as you were walking with your friends. I waited all day, hoping you would walk and talk with me too. As evening drew near, I gave you a sunset to close your day, and a cool breeze to rest you. Then I waited, but you never came. O yes, it hurt me, but I still love you because I am your friend.

I saw you fall asleep last night, and I longed to touch your brow, so, I spilled moonlight upon your pillow and your face ... Again, I waited, wanting to rush down so we could talk. I have so many gifts for you.

You woke up late this morning and rushed off for the day. My tears were in the rain. Today you looked so sad; so alone. It makes my heart ache because I understand how you can hurt so much. My friends let me down too and hurt me many times.

But I love you.

I try to tell you in the quiet green grass. I whisper it in the leaves and trees and breathe it into the color of the flowers. I shout it to you in the mountains, streams, and give the birds love songs to sing. I clothe you with warm sunshine and perfume the air. My love for you is deeper than the oceans and bigger than the biggest want or need you could ever have.

We will spend eternity together in heaven. I know, though, how hard it is on earth. I really know, because I was there too, and I want to help you. My Father wants to help you, too. He's that way, you know. Just call to me and ask me -- talk to me. It is your decision ... I have chosen you, and because of this, I will wait ...

Because I love you.

Your friend,

Jesus

 

[2scoops]

Perfect Love
Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone. To have a deep soul relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively. But God to the Christian says no, not until you're giving yourself totally and unreservedly to Me, to have an intensely personal and unique relationship with Me alone. I love you my child and until you discover that only in Me is your satisfaction to be found, you will not be capable of the perfect human relationship that I have planned for you. You will never be united with another until you are united with Me- exclusive of anyone or anything else, exclusive of any other desires or longings. I want you to stop planning, stop wishing, and allow Me to bring it to you. You just keep watching Me expecting the greatest. things. Keep learning and listening to the things I tell you. You must wait.
Don't be anxious and don't worry. Don't look around at the things you think you want. Just keep looking oft and away up to Me, or you'll miss what I have to show you.
And then when you're ready, I'll surprise you with a love far more wonderful than any you would ever dream. You see, until you are ready and until the one I have for you is ready, I am working this minute to have both of you ready at the same time, and until you are both satisfied exclusively with Me and the life I've prepared for you, you won't be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with Me, and this is perfect love.
And dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love. I want you to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with Me, and to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union of beauty and perfection and love that I offer you with Myself. Know I love you. I am God Almighty, believe and be satisfied.
Always,
Your Heavenly Father

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Hang in there li'l sis.
Your time will come.

 

[miracle26]

I just wanted to say that you cannot expect the right person to come up to your doorstep, you have to go out and find him/her. A good way to meet people is through these dating sites and there are some christian ones out there.

 

[angel82]

I am so sorry you feel this way, however you are never trully alone as our Lord and Savior will never forsake you. As for meeting people a good way is maybe to get involved in a youth group at your church or volunteer work with some of your community groups or hospitals. You would be surprised where you will meet someone. I have also found that we do get the answers to our prayers but not always in our time but in GODS time. I will pray for you and God bless you. Realize God does have a plan for your life and that there are many lessons we have to learn, my hardest and sometimes still is PATIENCE so don't feel alone we all have our lessons to learn. Just remember Jesus loves you and so does everyone in this thread.

 

[rebel_conservative]

Hi.

I am suffering really bad from depression. I have been feeling quite lonely the last 3 years and I just haven't seemed to find anyone. Even when I feel I have found someone, they don't feel the same way. It isn't anyone's fault that I am depressed, but I just can't get over the loneliness. All I feel like doing is crawling into bed and crying oceans of tears. I am actually starting to feel resentment toward God because my prayer is not being answered. I feel terrible for this and hope not to be this way. So, I tried to pick up the pieces today and join E-Harmony. After I filled out the test, they couldn't match me to a single person. I think that just added to my depression. I am really starting to feel like I am always going to be alone. I have a illness and my condition causes me to not have children. This, in return, has caused a lot of conflict while dating. Another, is that I am rather restricted in my means to meet someone because all I do is go to church and work. I don't even know where to begin to meet someone. I thought I would meet someone at church or at work, but it never worked that way. I guess I am feeling hopeless.

Please, just pray for me...


Laura

I really don't know what to say, except that you are not going through this alone. I especially relate to the last part, for I too have expected something to happen, I have long held on to the thought that "I am alone now, but I will meet someone at this place, or that place, or the other place" and it has never happened for me.

I am not just speaking of romance either. I do not have any friends, for there is simply no-one with whom I have anything in common. I am most unlike people my age, I have no desire to go out to bars getting drunk all night and 'picking up' women. not my style. so, I am alone, but I am pretty much resigned to it by now

 

[Dying2Live4Christ]

Thank you, everybody for your advice. I know Jesus loves me. I know tomorrow will be brighter. He has a plan for everything, I am sure. Thanks for the help.

 

[Dying2Live4Christ]

I really don't know what to say, except that you are not going through this alone. I especially relate to the last part, for I too have expected something to happen, I have long held on to the thought that "I am alone now, but I will meet someone at this place, or that place, or the other place" and it has never happened for me.

I am not just speaking of romance either. I do not have any friends, for there is simply no-one with whom I have anything in common. I am most unlike people my age, I have no desire to go out to bars getting drunk all night and 'picking up' women. not my style. so, I am alone, but I am pretty much resigned to it by now

Nice to know someone feels the same. I know how it is to feel like the "odd man out" in society. I really hate being alone.

 

[rebel_conservative]

I am really starting to feel like I am always going to be alone. I have a illness and my condition causes me to not have children. This, in return, has caused a lot of conflict while dating.

perhaps it is God's will for you to adopt, give a loving home to unwanted children. if you think of it like that, then it is actually quite amazing.

 

[Xemp]

I am in the same situation as you, but I'm not feeling the same way.

I am alone for long time... Much more than 3 years... I am starting to think that I am always going to be alone (as you do). But it is OK for me (no, it isn't), because I don't expect much for my life and I don't want to be a problem in anybody's life. I sometime get used for been alone, sometimes I get desperate... That's the way my life is going... constant depression, low self-esteem, not sociable and a lot of relationship problems.

It won't happen to you. You are a beautiful girl. And you are christian. That's sufficient to make you special. Not having children could be positive, a lot of guys (including me) don't want to have children. It's just matter of time untill you find somebody nice to share your love.

I will pray for you. It's the best I can do. Sorry for don't offer any advice, but I can't find any solution even for myself, so who am I to advice you?

I hope that God consolates you better than He does with me, and that He provides you with best that is in Heaven.

God Bless you sister.

 

[Dying2Live4Christ]

perhaps it is God's will for you to adopt, give a loving home to unwanted children. if you think of it like that, then it is actually quite amazing.

I agree.

 

[soyness]

I know exactly how you feel.

 

[peacechild4]

Hi Laura,

I am actually starting to feel resentment toward God because my prayer is not being answered.

Let us turn this around... what if your depression was allowed by God to make you want Him more!! What if your prayers to God are being answered and the way you
currently are is because you asked for God to be near to You and to help you.. He is near.. but because He is not content just to be near but wants to come abide in you.. Your depression has deepened and does not make sense..

I have felt that lonliness too.. and I believe it is simply because for so long we have been absent from His presence and God is wanting to bring His presence into our lives in a way that we have never experienced before.. The devil does not want that though.. so he fights hard to keep us from finding what God has to give us.. Most mistake depression for a feeling of abandonment of God instead of a drawing us nearer to Him.. and bringing us to a place where we are open to Him to do the work inside us that He has waited to do since before creation of the world..

In one of the ten commandments.. It is said..
Exodus 34:14
Do not worship any other god, for the LORD, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God.
Deuteronomy 4:24
For the LORD your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God.

Why would God be jealous and why is He said to be a consuming fire?? The Spirit is fire and we need a spirit to have life.. and without the life of our spirit we are trully dead.. Cause God made us.. breathed life into man at creation..

It makes sense then that without Gods life breathing spirit inside us working to enable us that our bodies would groan and fail to be contented.

Not having a life giving life force flowing in us.. we cannot have joy and tears become our food..

You could imagine God wants to bring us to life... wash away our tears and fill us with His joy.. Can You imagine how he feels to see us His creation depressed!! When His son Jesus Christ died so that we might live.. and live abundantly!! He would be jealous that we have chosen to neglect His power and presence to help us.. and choose night after night to sink into the mire of tears.. letting depression rule us instead of Him..

He is a raging fire.. His Spirit wanting to fill us and breathe life into us again.. but in turn we ache.. we ache because we do not have what He has to give us.. Not because He cannot but because we have not.. have not given ourselves over to Him..

We are made to need Him... reach out to Him.. Him to live in us.. fill us.. give us life.. and we stay dead.. lifeless.. hungry for God... when He is the bread of life..

No wonder God is jealous.. angry.. He just wants US so much!! Wants to change us.. fill us.. enable us..

How is God going to help you if don't let Him?
He is right with you.. He said this..

Matthew 28:20
And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age."

Let me put your name in that verse below..

Matthew 28:20
And surely I am with Laura always, to the very end of the age."

I know you will find deliverance from this just as soon as you realise this need in you is because God loves you very very very much.. This need is there.. because God is the answer.. It is not something you feel on the outside though.. For His assurance can come from inside Your heart!!

Dear God, I pray Laura's spiritual eyes are opened.. I pray she sees this need in her as an opening for You to come into her and bring her to life.. I pray she opens her heart to You... cries out to You to come fill her .. take away her hurt and pain... and bring her wholeness.. Say she cannot any longer exist without You and You will come in and change her from the inside.
I see her opening the door to her heart and Your Spirit descending into her.. I see her rising up on wings like eagles with hope beating strongly in her heart.. I see her running and not being weary and walking forward with no faintness of heart.
I ask this through Jesus mighty name that Laura is delivered from this depression by the power of the living Spirit of God.. I pray she come from darkness to light.. I ask this through the name of Jesus whom died for her to have the abundant life.. amen

 

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