demons and divorce....

[zao77]

my mom and dad are in the midst of seperating. my mother says the reason my father wants a divorce is because demons are in the house and possessing him. as a result many things in the house were burnt this past weekend. things with "demons" in them. i dont dispute demons but the fact that it is the demise of their marriage i highly doubt. she has declared, "victory in the lord" so to speak. saying that her faith will restore their marriage. my father could care less what she thinks or what anyone else thinks. he is already seeing someone else...... is it just me or is my mother going off the deep end?

 

[jaci]

I dunno if she's falling off the deep end. I think what I'm thinking is...... more information is needed before making a conclusion about this.

Perhaps there are/have been "things" in the home that she's associating with demons or demonic powers...... and I don't dispute your thought of demons either. Some things are good to rid ourselves of. And "victory in the Lord," bc of clearing the house of the "bad" stuff........ victory in submission to the Lord...... those are good things.

But your father is seeing another woman.

Where is your mother's reality for today? Is she off the deep end bc she is not acknowledging that your father doesn't want to be with her?

That would be my question...... and where are her thoughts re: him coming back to their marriage?

 

[Autumnleaf]

It sounds like your father went off the deep end before any trouble with your mother started.

 

[Egghead]

my mom and dad are in the midst of seperating. my mother says the reason my father wants a divorce is because demons are in the house and possessing him. as a result many things in the house were burnt this past weekend. things with "demons" in them. i dont dispute demons but the fact that it is the demise of their marriage i highly doubt. she has declared, "victory in the lord" so to speak. saying that her faith will restore their marriage. my father could care less what she thinks or what anyone else thinks. he is already seeing someone else...... is it just me or is my mother going off the deep end?

Demons want to mop the floor with us, no doubt, and given the opportunity they would.
But to demonize OUR disobedience and failings goes a bit far.

Your mother might hold on to her victory till her dying breath and never see your father reconciled to her. God doesnt force men to obey.

I dont think shes off the deep end, I think she might be putting the blame on demons where the fault belongs somewhere else, a dysfunctional relationship caused by one or both of them.

We demonize things sometimes so we can ''defeat satan'' then we can return to our fairy tales lives.
Most of the time it is just pure human stubbornness and disobedience.

You will have to shed some more light on the matter before we can proceed though.

What did they argue about when they were together?
Was it often?
Has either of them cheated in the past? If so, did thing ever return to normal?
Are either of them selfish?
Do either of them put the blame on other people for all their problems in life?
Did they argue about sex?
Who is the breadwinner? Did they argue about money?

Church, did they both go together?
Would you say, honestly, that they are both born again?

These will help us start to figure out what may be going on

 

[heartnsoul]

It doesn't sound like your mother is going off the "deep end." I think maybe your mother is trying to be positive and hoping that her faith will be able to turn things around. Maybe so but maybe not...only time will tell. Your mother needs to realize that everyone has free will. You dad has chosen (right now) not to reconcile with your mother. Your mother also needs to realize that the battle is not between her and Satan. The battle is between your dad & Satan. That is a battle that your mother cannot choose to fight for your dad. It's up to your dad to choose his own will and choose God over Satan. Therefore, your mother may be living under false hopes thinking that her fight against Satan will win your father back. The only thing that will win your father back is God...but your dad has to choose God himself. Sorry to hear your parents are having serious problems. May God continue to comfort and help your mother find peace right now. God bless you and your parents.

 

[taz_pazazz]

Please don't question your mom's sanity right away. I agree that your father has the free will to make his own decisions, but the authority of God has also been placed on your mother to pray for him, and to proceed with Spiritual Warfare.

I am still learning a lot about spiritual warfare, but the one thing I know, is that it IS very real. I am in a similar situation with my husband, and have chosen to stand for our marriage. Don't under-estimate the power of prayer. I would recommend for you to join your mom in agreement of praying for your dad.

I know it's hard to watch someone you love hurt, but also remember that God loves them even more then you and is carrying them through, and cries with them, too.

A book that I would recommend for both you and she to read is "How to Pray for Lost Loved Ones", by Dutch Sheets. It is really easy reading, and I think if you read it, you would understand a lot more what it is that your mom is believing right now, why she believes it, and also how you can come to believe it, too.

I am truly sorry for what you are going through with the separation of your parents. My parents divorced when I was 16 years old, and that was the second hardest thing I've ever dealt with in my life. (The first being my current separation from my husband.) My prayers are with you. Please feel free to PM me or message me...

In Jesus' Love,
Taz

 

[RJHarmony84]

Yea, what they said. Also--if you have any say in the matter, make yourself known as to what YOU would like them to do!! You may have more influence than you think.

--->my 2 cents