Dealing with temptation

Hi, im new here. i dont know if i am posting in the right section, but i really need some help. I have been a Christian for a while, but i have been really struggling dealing with temptation. there are certain temptations that i have successfully overcome with God's help, but i find one the most difficult. its weird because i actually dont want to do it, i feel disgusted after but i find it so hard not to do it. The problem is with masturbation and thinking about women in that way. i am 17 at the moment, but i really dont like what i do and i want to change but even though i have been trying so hard and for so long with this, its been too difficult.

i was wondering if anyone can help me. i pray about it, i pray for help but nothing is working for me so far. i have no interest in pornography, because i simply dont like it. can someone help me get over this?

thanks for reading.

Sexual struggles are one of the hardest struggles for Christians faithwhise, litterary sex can rip your faith apart, making you feel down and depressed if not properly handled. God and sex do not seem to mix together, there are no medicines against it , you also do not have free will in the saying. The result is us feeling miserable all the time.

Saying things like be free with your temple and things make you still feel disgusted with your own body.

When this stuff happens it means your body gives a signal that you are physically ready to receive a partner , my advice is therefore to get yourself a partner that you truelly love and who likewhise doesn't ruin your life and can provide you a stable relationship. You see if you have sex out of lust then its a sin, But if you really love your partner then its only natural to have intercourse with that person.

You see god didn't give you sexual organs to torment you, having time for and raising children is one of the most important things a person can do during their life familywhise according to angels, because you serve a soul into learning their life lessons. This is the continueation of the flow of life that God intented the sexual organs to begin with. Its the beginning of a pathway towards loving everyone like God intends us to do.

touching yourself is often considered as a sin in Christianity , but if it happens anyway and you can't stop it , might as wel think about the people you truelly love while your at it, it makes it slightly less worse, but other then an axe and cutting it off , you are in the clear by saying you truelly do not desire this, this factor will be taken in aspect when you stand in front of God. Although your entire life will be taken in review (and this is not a pretty aspect to look forward to) i can assure you you will surive the whole odeal as you will be loved during this session, its hard in all kinds of aspects, just try to be at peace with your own body by loving yourself in the knowledge that it was not your will desire to participate in this act of sex, in such a sense its ok to touch. Its best to just get a partner as soon as possible and become two flesh as one so you don't have to worry about this stuff anymore.

L1ght said:

Hi, im new here. i dont know if i am posting in the right section, but i really need some help. I have been a Christian for a while, but i have been really struggling dealing with temptation. there are certain temptations that i have successfully overcome with God's help, but i find one the most difficult. its weird because i actually dont want to do it, i feel disgusted after but i find it so hard not to do it. The problem is with masturbation and thinking about women in that way. i am 17 at the moment, but i really dont like what i do and i want to change but even though i have been trying so hard and for so long with this, its been too difficult.

i was wondering if anyone can help me. i pray about it, i pray for help but nothing is working for me so far. i have no interest in pornography, because i simply dont like it. can someone help me get over this?

thanks for reading.

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Hi,
I just want to let you know the proper place this question will get answered ( not that it won't get answered here ) But, you will feel better talking to the womens sexuality thread , it's under RECOVERY. then click on one of the sexuality threads.

If you feel strong on this then, if you stopit will show up in your dreams. The longer you go without an [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse], it shows in your dreams. It comes out in my dreams where I wake up having an [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] and I don't even remember the dream!!!!
You might or might not but, if you feel strong about this , go to the forum where they discuss this in depth..
Hope you get the help your asking for!
GOD BLESS!!
Zita

Anti Existance said:

God and sex do not seem to mix together, there are no medicines against it

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God CREATED sex... of course they mix together.

You see god didn't give you sexual organs to torment you, having time for and raising children is one of the most important things a person can do during their life familywhise according to angels, because you serve a soul into learning their life lessons.

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according to angels?? Huh?? Since when are angels God??

just try to be at peace with your own body by loving yourself in the knowledge that it was not your will desire to participate in this act of sex, in such a sense its ok to touch. Its best to just get a partner as soon as possible and become two flesh as one so you don't have to worry about this stuff anymore.

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I don't think a "quick fix" is what this person is needing right now... they are struggling with temptation. How would you like to be told by your boyfriend AntiExistance, that he only started dating you because he was struggling with masturbation and needed a quick fix so he thought he'd better quickly find any old person he could and then he would miraculously no longer struggle with touching yourself anymore?!?!

Come on!! I know married people who struggle with masturbation. Getting a partner does not fix the problem.

L1ght said:

Hi, im new here. i dont know if i am posting in the right section, but i really need some help. I have been a Christian for a while, but i have been really struggling dealing with temptation. there are certain temptations that i have successfully overcome with God's help, but i find one the most difficult. its weird because i actually dont want to do it, i feel disgusted after but i find it so hard not to do it. The problem is with masturbation and thinking about women in that way. i am 17 at the moment, but i really dont like what i do and i want to change but even though i have been trying so hard and for so long with this, its been too difficult.

i was wondering if anyone can help me. i pray about it, i pray for help but nothing is working for me so far. i have no interest in pornography, because i simply dont like it. can someone help me get over this?

thanks for reading.

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Hi L1ght,

thanks 4 being vulnerable and honest... i don't judge you... we are all accepting here on CF and struggling with our own sins... so rest assured about that

I was at a friend's house one day. While I was in the bathroom, I noticed a magazine and picked it up out of curiosity... I like reading. I flicked thru the pages and some things I noticed were a little unsavoury in the magazine. Don't get me wrong this was not a hard core porn mag or else I would have thrown it in the trash myself!! However, I did see some pics in it (cartoon) of males and females doing stuff.... I won't go into detail. Anyway, after I left the bathroom straight after that, I had a strong desire to touch. Now I am a female, a christian and I *NEVER* had even THOUGHT of masturbating before, let alone having a strong desire to touch come over me! So this came as a confusing shock to me!!! I tell you this so you don't feel alone in your struggle. I know what that specific temptation feels like.

Anyway, from my experience, I can say that media type stuff like magazines, movies, etc.. these things can influence the desire to mastrubate .... maybe you could try to eliminate these things in your life.. have you got magazines you could throw out or pics or photos or anything like that?

I hope you get through this... and remember the verse in the Bible where Jesus promises us that he won't let us be tempted beyond what we can bear! he will always give us a way out - an escape from the devil's temptations!

L1ght said:

Hi, im new here. i dont know if i am posting in the right section, but i really need some help. I have been a Christian for a while, but i have been really struggling dealing with temptation. there are certain temptations that i have successfully overcome with God's help, but i find one the most difficult. its weird because i actually dont want to do it, i feel disgusted after but i find it so hard not to do it. The problem is with masturbation and thinking about women in that way. i am 17 at the moment, but i really dont like what i do and i want to change but even though i have been trying so hard and for so long with this, its been too difficult.

i was wondering if anyone can help me. i pray about it, i pray for help but nothing is working for me so far. i have no interest in pornography, because i simply dont like it. can someone help me get over this?

thanks for reading.

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You're seventeen dude, of course you want to touch. It's not a sin and it's not wrong.

If you feel like masturbating, then do it and stop feeling so guilty.

Zita123 said:

Hi,
I just want to let you know the proper place this question will get answered ( not that it won't get answered here ) But, you will feel better talking to the womens sexuality thread , it's under RECOVERY. then click on one of the sexuality threads.


Zita

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do they discuss the M word in that forum?


anywho, about M. i have been aksing God to protect me from temptation every time i go to sleep, and its been working. i havne't (consciously) done it in a long time, and i truly believe God has set me free.

i still have dreams though, i don't know what to tell you about those...

You know this is so common in people your age and so many Christians in general struggle with it. What makes it worse for you is because your in that beginning adulthood late puberty, but if you keep praying, try picking your bible up when the urge comes you will crack it, God knows you don't want to do it, he knows if your praying about it. Another suggestion is go and do something else for 5 mins thats all it takes for a thought to change 3 - 5 mins.

Im-revived

L1ght said:

Hi, im new here. i dont know if i am posting in the right section, but i really need some help. I have been a Christian for a while, but i have been really struggling dealing with temptation. there are certain temptations that i have successfully overcome with God's help, but i find one the most difficult. its weird because i actually dont want to do it, i feel disgusted after but i find it so hard not to do it. The problem is with masturbation and thinking about women in that way. i am 17 at the moment, but i really dont like what i do and i want to change but even though i have been trying so hard and for so long with this, its been too difficult.

i was wondering if anyone can help me. i pray about it, i pray for help but nothing is working for me so far. i have no interest in pornography, because i simply dont like it. can someone help me get over this?

thanks for reading.

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My brother, my advice to you is to occupy your time and mind with noble thoughts and you will not fullfil the lusts and desires of the flesh. The bible admonishes us to think of pure, true, good and noble thoughts.
I will also advise that you engage your self in christian activities too, so that your mind and thoughts will be occupied with the things of God. It is well with you

Chijioke

I totally understand.

You already know its wrong so I trust you didnt pay attention to a previous post.

But anyway, how active are you? I remember the urge hitting me whenever I wasnt doing something else. Do you play sports... have a hobby? You could study for school or the **Bible**. Clean up. Learn a musical instrument (drums!!!!). Wash the car, cut the grass, cleanout the gutters. Get a part time job that will tire you out.
This may seem like Im trying to get you to distract yourself but thats not entirely accurate. The Bible talks about mortying the flesh (Romans 8:12-14 and Col. 3:4-6). What we, yes, we have to do is retrain our bodies so it doesnt think it can get whatever it, wants whenever it wants it.
You're trying to teach the dog a new trick. Stay. Good boy. Down. Good boy. Shut up and leave me alone so I can go to sleep. Good boy. (sorry ladies but I gotta be honest)
Once you've conditioned yourself to not do it, it'll be easier to resist the next time.

hi everyone, thankyou for your replies.

firstly about the relationship stuff. i seem to feel that God doesnt want me to have a girlfriend. i have thought and prayed that allowing me that opportunity of experiencing real love and relationship with a female would help. i have had a crush on certain girls, but most of those are momentary crushes which i can clearly see as not being true love motivated. but there is someone who i heavily like, but not got to know very well because i have not seen her for a very long time. it seems as though get does not want me involved in a relationship yet.

about the whole clearing mind from women by not having magazines etc. This is the unusual thing with me, i dont read porn magazines or even just male magazines. nor do i watch porn. i think porn is quite disgusting. The only way to keep these thoughts away would be not to watch tele or films altogether. i guess thats where a lot of the temptation comes from.

regarding time on my hands. At the moment i am planning in moving forward into a career in music, hopefully as a singer, but i have also discovered composition. i also am heavily in to tennis as a leisure activity and i am trying to balance this all with school. yet the thoughts still appear, even when i pray lots for the temptation to go away before i go to sleep, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesnt.

also, quite interesting i used to find that not masturbating for a while would make it happen in a dream. it doesnt anymore. anyway, basically this whole problem used to be far greater.it would happen almost everyday. sometimes i have gone for a period of a few months without doing it, but it comes back like now where it still not as serious as before, but i want to get rid of it completely.

i also feel that whenever it happens, it is damaging my path with God to become a musician. and even though music means so much to me, i find it hard even to think about my prospects in music before i fall into temptation.

i will try some of the things mentioned. thankyou very much

God bless you all.

NinadeDios777 said:

do they discuss the M word in that forum?


anywho, about M. i have been aksing God to protect me from temptation every time i go to sleep, and its been working. i havne't (consciously) done it in a long time, and i truly believe God has set me free.

i still have dreams though, i don't know what to tell you about those...

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Yes, as a matter of fact, they had so many people writing on that thread, they are gonna split it in two threads.Hope you find it, I can't remember which one or I would make it easier for whoever wanted it.
Hope this helps.
GOD BLESS YOU ALL!!
Zita

Zita123 said:

Yes, as a matter of fact, they had so many people writing on that thread, they are gonna split it in two threads.Hope you find it, I can't remember which one or I would make it easier for whoever wanted it.
Hope this helps.
GOD BLESS YOU ALL!!
Zita

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also, another thing i find strange is that these sexual feelings that i get are usually for women on TV or whatever. when it comes to a girl my age or a girl that i like i dont actually think of sex as pleasure, i dont even think of sex at all. With girls my age or around, i think of it as very disrespectful to think of them as that.

Dude, you're in good shape.

Your body is doing what its suppossed to do. You're full of hormones because in the late teens/early 20 guys are at the peak of their sex drive. As long as you continue to resist the desires it'll pass.
Keep going with music. Being a musician myself it rare to find a musician that loves God, even in churches, so I welcome you into the fold. You have a life and testimony that will help another musician/singer/songwriter get their life in line with God.

Isnt tennis great!!! You need to represent God and the US on the touring circuit. Get out there and shed the light and love of Christ worldwide!

tennis isnt what im going for in life (im not good enough anyway) but it is just my leisure. i just feel that everytime i fall into temptation, my plan for music gets knocked off course. and i really want to make a career in music and be of influence to other people, hold charity concerts and spread Christianity but i feel that i wont make it they way im going. the thing is that im really trying hard, and i feel that God is punishing me by sometimes not allowing me progress in music on certain days.

The thing with God is that he often knocks us off course. I don't think that God tends to punish people, I think that people can punish themselves and that often gets in the way of God and everything else. I'm sure your plan is excellent but God may want you to rely on him first and be ready to put everything else second, including your ambition even if it is to spread the word of God. Maybe you need to try less hard and just focus on your relationship with God and enjoying your playing and praising God through it even if not infront of a crowd (He will know). Obviously don't let chances go by but don't make your ambition the biggest thing. Perseverance is all important as well but just don't centre your hopes and dreams around it. Something similar happened to me and I didn't realise but through friends I found that realigning my priorities wholly back to God and praising him put me back on course even if it wasn't my original one, it was God's course for me. Yes I have to try and realign every day because I have a tendency to wander . Obviously this is just my opinion and it may not be what is happening, you may just be having off days, or both, but I hope this helps a little.

Also, don't chase a relationship. Relationships will happen, and mostly when you are relaxing and being yourself rather than you are striving for something more. Concentrate on you and God first and then you will find someone to share that with. Plus you might find someone you really like rather than finding a lot of quick crushes to fill a void. It's okay not to fancy anyone at all despite popular opinion. Ask yourself why you want a relationship with a person before getting into one - if it's just because they aren't too bad looking and would be someone there then I wouldn't bother with it, but if it's because you see something in that person that makes you want to be a better person and makes you want to share God with them. Take it from someone who has got into relationships for all sorts of stupid reasons from pity to boredom or for having no reason not to.

Also, if you are feeling guilty about masturbation then it is getting in the way of your relationship with God and you should try to stop it (which you are and I know it's easier said than done) talk to God when you find yourself tempted. It helps. Tell him you are struggling and you need His help, tell Him that you are conflicted, talk it over with Him. Then carry on praying or get your bible out until it passes, it doesn't matter how long it takes. Even if you do do it again just try every time and gain encouragement from the times when you do stay strong. I found it also helps if you are trying to give something up if you think of yourself as a smoker giving up cigarettes and every time you stay strong that's one cigarette not smoked and one step closer to becoming a non-smoker. I don't know why it helps, it just did for me when giving up stuff.

God bless you and give you strength and wisdom.
xx

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