Dealing With Extreme Behaviors

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Basically someone told me I was partying too heavily, I don't remember even partying in the first place. I don't like partying at all. This is just an example of one of the extreme behaviors that I sometimes do without being aware of it. Another extreme behavior is in regards to driving. I am unable to drive and in the future I am not sure I will be able to. This is because one of my alters enjoys the idea of driving like a crazy person literally, such as driving through traffic lights, swinging from left to right barely avoiding hitting cars, not stopping just driving continually, not stopping, with no boundaries whatsoever at all.

Persons around me claim to understand what I am going through but they don't. Whenever I party heavily for instance persons get angry at me or they think I am just a party animal only caring about myself and not others which does not help at all.

I believe what is happening is, the more I begin to remember about the abuse, it is the more extreme my behavior is getting. My behavior seems to be getting progressively worst, and I do not know how to stop these behaviors from happening.

How does one deal effectively with extreme behaviors of alters?

 

[Rescued One]

The only way I can imagine is to have professional help. Probably no one here would have those qualifications.

 

[Emily Foster]

I’m sorry to hear about your situation, friend. How old are you? Do you think it might be helpful if you speak to your loved ones and get in touch with a counselor? I know that Focus on the Family can provide a free phone consultation with a licensed counselor if you call this number 855-382-5433. Sending prayers your way…hang in there!

 

[Deniz]

Those extreme behaviours are, as you identified, are only side-effects of your root problem. Deal with the problem and these behaviours will also disappear.

Then, how to deal with the problem? I don't quite know what it is, if it's a single past event that keeps bothering you or something else, but here's great news: I don't have to, because the solution is the same!

Sit down and talk to God about this abuse, or what ever is the root problem. Don't avoid it, don't try to find your consolation from the world, don't assume God doesn't care or won't help: Bring your case to God. He cares more than you can imagine, your situation grieves Him more than it grieves you.

Remember, our identity isn't of what we've done in the past, what people say about us, what we went through in life. Our identity comes from He who made us, it's what He says that matters, it's what Jesus Himself has done determines where we are and how we stand. There is no consolation from the world, neither will ignoring your problems will help as you've most likely already experienced so. God is our only consolation, God is our only help.

Abstain from driving and stay away from parties and other places and occasions that might evoke these extreme behaviours; until you sit down and spend time with the Lord as He heals you through His peace and love, giving understanding. Don't count the minutes you spend with Him, it is the best thing you can do.

I don't want to write too much because the solution is simple:
Spend time with God, stand in His presence praising and thanking Him that He cares and let His light dispel whatever darkness or confusion is within you. Many times I've experienced Jesus working in me and healing me through the presence of His Holy Spirit as I sit down and talk to Him and praise Him, even just for 10 minutes.

The Lord is faithful to help, and He is the only one who truly heals the mind, body and soul.