Dating sites??

[Brian75]

I'm on a 2 dating sites and I'm wondering how they have worked out for others. One is a Christian site and one is not. I have had one serous relationship and 3 or 4 short flings from the non-christian site and nothing from the Christian site. What about ya'll? Have you used them and how did they or do they workout for you?

 

[CounselorForChrist]

Iv'e been to many popular dating sites (christian and non-christian). Such as Eharmony, Christian Mingle...etc. I did that for nearly 10 years going through thousands upon thousands of profiles. Being rejected by about 99.9% of them women.

This is just a general statement but I was at them because I am disabled and can't find anyone locally. So after awhile I though maybe there was something wrong with me because these woman on the sites were so....not what I expected. But someone told me that maybe the people at these sites have such long lists of what they do want from someone, that its why they are online because they can't find anyone outside of the web.

With that said, I did find a dating site for christians that was free. I did find someone there who was down to earth and didn't expect the perfectly healthy man who had money and would spoil them. We are engaged to marry in 3 months!

So don't give up, just realize many (women and men) have way to high of expectations on there.

 

[melannewis]

I met my soul mate on Match.com. We have been together for a little over a year and are engaged to be married this summer. I chatted with a few rather "interesting" individuals that I was able to weed out after a conversation or two about religion. I found that being totally and completely honest in my profile helped out immensely. I also found that chatting about things that were important to me right off the bat gave me a better feel about whether or not we were compatible. I also prayed a lot during that time that God would help me find the person that I would spend the rest of my life with as I was not interested in a fling. I also went into the process not looking for the perfect man, but for someone who had a good sense of humor and liked some of the same things I did. Have faith!! God has picked someone out for you that you will eventually find if you let him be part of the process! God Bless!

 

[somethingBEAUTIFUL]

I once tried Christian Mingle for a few months. I went out with one guy once, and another guy twice. I consider the guy I went out with twice a friend, and we still chat on Facebook very occasionally. There was never any real chemistry between us, though. Then, of course, I met my boyfriend through his sister-in-law (she's a great friend of mine), and the rest is history. Being on a dating website was a fun experience for me, and not one I regret at all. My boss's son and his wife met on a website and have been married for at least ten years actually

 

[K9_Trainer]

I was on a couple of the free ones just to see what it was all about. I wasn't seriously looking to date. But honestly, I wasn't impressed. It might be because they were free, so the quality wasn't good. People tend to put more attention and effort into something they've payed for. But in my experience, I just got tons of messages from guys who I have nothing in common with who's messages consisted of "Hi my name iz stan. i think u r very pretty/sexxy/stunning/*insert compliment*. msg me if u want 2 chat".

Maybe it's just a quirk of mine, but I'm not impressed when people don't use proper English. I know I'm not perfect, and I'm certainly no grammar nazi, but I feel like textspeak and not using proper punctuation is just lazy. But seriously, I got 30 of these in a day. The fact that I had absolutely nothing in common with about 98% of the people who messaged me screamed desperation. I put time into writing a very detailed profile about myself, the kind of lifestyle I live, my long term goals, my personality, and what I was looking for in a date. It was actually kind of irritating to me that only very few even brought up things we had in common and made a comment that proved they actually did read my profile and weren't just looking for whatever they could get their hands on.

Additionally, I got a handful of messages from men who only wanted sex. A couple were willing to pay me or be a "sugar daddy" in exchange for my companionship. One claimed to be a body builder and model and even sent me pictures of himself in his underwear. I got a couple a couple messages from lesbian girls telling me I was cute.

Anyway, that was my experience as a female. You may experience things differently because you're a guy and there's generally an expectation that men make the first move. My guy friend who made an account with me, who is by no means ugly, got very few messages in comparison to me. Another friend, also not ugly, nor unaccomplished, was very active in sending messages to women he thought were interesting. He got very, very few replies (perhaps because they too were being flooded with 30+ messages a day and being annoyed by it). I think if you joined a Christian one, you would be better off because you are narrowing the pool to exclude people who are Christian by label but don't practice and those who simply "believe in God".

 

[Iamnewinchrist]

Honestly, I have tried three dating websites and have met people on there. Unfortunately two of them were the free ones and didn't meet anyone with real substance. BUT! I did meet an amazing woman on Match.com. It didn't work out due to me being unequally yoked with her. She was an amazing christian woman, but I wasn't ready. Only lonely. I fear most of the people on these sites do not take it as seriously as one would. My best advice is to take it to the best MatchMaker out there, God . I personally believe that he has made someone specifically for me to come into one flesh with him in. It is hard to wait, but really get down with God on this before you do anything else. That is just my personal experience. My uncle met someone on E-Harmony and has been married to her for over two years now. The reason I believe online websites are really hard to find someone is because of all the choices. We start to look with the wrong intentions. Start by finding a ministry for singles in your area (which I need to do as well) and go from there. I hope you find the one my friend! We all will one day