My wife left me to "live life". She was having an affair with a man she worked with (married with two kids). When she left she took the only available vehicle. I work in a nearby town and had no way to work. It was a Friday and I was venting on Facebook. An ol' friend, Christina (a good friend and my best friend's ex-girlfriend from high school, responded and asked how I planned on getting to work. I told her I didn't know and she lent me her car for nearly four months until I could get wheels to make it to work. I never missed a beat of work.
I had been staying with a friend (because my wife was abusive) and when my wife finally left she left the apartment totally trashed. Wrappers, half finished plates of food, dirty diapers, etc. were shoved under the couch and behind the television. Food was caked on the floors, it was a DISASTER. When Christina came over to lend me the car she saw the condition of the apartment and was beside herself. She helped me clean the entire apartment that weekend. I don't have any money for an attorney and the divorce has drug on for over two years. During that time Christina and I developed a deep friendship and a romance. I'm not proud of it. We had always been fond of each other but never so much as dated. She too is a divorcee and has braced me for things that have been developing. She's been such a blessing through all of this. She's very good with my little boy and has a five year old daughter. Separated, I found myself basically dating Christina. It was strange... after my pastor and good friends from church got to know her, they felt she was a blessing from the throne of God. I was a little shocked. I expected them to read us the riot act. Christina's roommate got caught up in drugs and being VERY irresponsible and as a result they lost their apartment. I took Christina and her daughter in because they had nowhere to go and I couldn't stand the idea of seeing her in a shelter after everything she had done for me. Living with her has been like a dream. She's clean, prayerful, kind, sensitive, understanding, patient, mothering, tender, and loving.
My wife has drug out this entire divorce process forever. I don't have the money for an attorney and she keeps stalling on her end. Also, we're TRYING to work out some of the financial and tax issues before finalizing things. She's really difficult to reason with and even talk to. She's "living it up" right now with friends, bars, and God knows what else. Even though Christina and I aren't married... things appear to be solid and very "family" like. My son loves coming to my house and hates leaving. Not only do I care for him, play with him, and give him much attention, but so does Christina. In addition, Christina's daughter has become like a best friend to my son.
I'm family oriented. I believe I will not be happy unless I remarry. And one day I plan to. Christina and I are taking things very slowly in that department. I know some guys who got engaged before their divorces were finalized, especially when they drug out like this one. I expect to have things finalized in the first quarter of next year. Wanted to get it done third quarter of this year. However, my ex stalled on a few things and even threw a few additional complications into the mix. Now it's the holidays and I don't feel like pushing a divorce through over the holidays for the sake of me and Christina's peace, not to mention keeping the children free from drama over the holidays.
Anyway... that's my experience in this kind of thing. It's definitely not what I ever envisioned for my life.
