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Exactly. Its safer to be cautious when dating someone from another country until you know 100% what their motives are. Ask lots of questions and then later ask some of the questions again to see if the answers change a bit. Try to get varied forms of proof the person is real. Pray about it too.
Some scammers can be VERY good at luring you in. The biggest thing about a scammer is they often just want money. So if they ask for any pretty quickly tell them no. If they are a scammer you won't hear from them again because they will go find another target who has money.
As for the rest as stated above like wanting sex or citizenship. Theres no real way to know unless you are both honest about everything. I talked to my fiance for weeks before feeling she was safe. Mine you she also gave me access to her facebook, emails, bacnk account...etc. Which in my book shows shes real.
There were some old accounts like on FB she had. But her password worked on that too. Not once did I find a shred of evidence of any lies or questionable things. Some say you shouldn't ask for their password and trust them. But God never said be nieve. Remember if you trust them without asking alot of questions. You will lose your money, your name, your everything really because they will use you for everything you got.
I know alot of countries have varied forms of scammers. For russians it tends to be about using you to get green cards. For my fiances country (philippines) its often about money and sometimes green cards.
If you don't mind me asking could you post a sentence or two on here of something he said? Don't edit it, I would need the exact sentence(s). I say this because if you want you could just do this yourself. Take a sentence or two of his, copy it and then paste is in search engine in quotes like this:
"Hi my name is Karlin, I am from Russia and loved talking with you. You are very beautiful!"
This way the search engine knows to look for that exact statement. If you have even one results, it pretty often will be from other people who got the same messages. Its how I found out alot of the people from other countries were scamming me. Its really the best method to detect a scammer since they send hundreds of messages a day that are premade.
Some scammers can be VERY good at luring you in. The biggest thing about a scammer is they often just want money. So if they ask for any pretty quickly tell them no. If they are a scammer you won't hear from them again because they will go find another target who has money.
As for the rest as stated above like wanting sex or citizenship. Theres no real way to know unless you are both honest about everything. I talked to my fiance for weeks before feeling she was safe. Mine you she also gave me access to her facebook, emails, bacnk account...etc. Which in my book shows shes real.
There were some old accounts like on FB she had. But her password worked on that too. Not once did I find a shred of evidence of any lies or questionable things. Some say you shouldn't ask for their password and trust them. But God never said be nieve. Remember if you trust them without asking alot of questions. You will lose your money, your name, your everything really because they will use you for everything you got.
I know alot of countries have varied forms of scammers. For russians it tends to be about using you to get green cards. For my fiances country (philippines) its often about money and sometimes green cards.
If you don't mind me asking could you post a sentence or two on here of something he said? Don't edit it, I would need the exact sentence(s). I say this because if you want you could just do this yourself. Take a sentence or two of his, copy it and then paste is in search engine in quotes like this:
"Hi my name is Karlin, I am from Russia and loved talking with you. You are very beautiful!"
This way the search engine knows to look for that exact statement. If you have even one results, it pretty often will be from other people who got the same messages. Its how I found out alot of the people from other countries were scamming me. Its really the best method to detect a scammer since they send hundreds of messages a day that are premade.
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Luther073082
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You should definatly stay away.
Having a dating relationship and then having that person leave for 3 months without even saying goodbye and then suddenly re-appearing and wanting to get back together is a big red flag.
I find myself wondering how many women he's been with in those 3 months. Because if he wasn't up to anything he would have said goodbye and either tried to stay in contact or formally ended the relationship.
Sounds to me like the guy is trying to have a girl in every country which he visits/stays.
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If your dating was really casual-- rarely going out-- and he left for three months, maybe that's not a cause for alarm. If it was dinner every night and late night phone calls, and he disappears, that's a little strange.
Selfish and self-obsessed are not desirable characteristics in a mate, so be careful. If your gut tells you that something is suspicious, pay attention to it.
As far as Russians go, I don't know that much about their culture. I do know they don't like to smile as much as Americans do. I saw some Russians taking a photo. They looked very serious and proud instead of smiling. Talking to a Ukrianian, I found out that people in that part of the world think if you smile too much, you don't have much going on in your mind. They think stupid, foolish people smile all the time, so people go around looking very serious.
Selfish and self-obsessed are not desirable characteristics in a mate, so be careful. If your gut tells you that something is suspicious, pay attention to it.
As far as Russians go, I don't know that much about their culture. I do know they don't like to smile as much as Americans do. I saw some Russians taking a photo. They looked very serious and proud instead of smiling. Talking to a Ukrianian, I found out that people in that part of the world think if you smile too much, you don't have much going on in your mind. They think stupid, foolish people smile all the time, so people go around looking very serious.
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K9_Trainer
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I would avoid him. Not because he's foreign, but because of the way he treated you. There's really no excuses for not telling you goodbye and letting you know he was leaving. That's just rude. I'm assuming you were dating pretty consistently, going out relatively often.
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I'd just advice in this situation with a Russian foreigner .. take it very very slow
Does he treat you as a friend the way you want to be treated. Remember, he will not be treating you any better once you get married than he does now as a friend.
Does he treat you as a friend the way you want to be treated. Remember, he will not be treating you any better once you get married than he does now as a friend.
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